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[Art Barr]

I've cheated and disrespected my husband and now he has found out. He wants to leave and I don't know what to do. These past few weeks have been hell and I've been constantly crying. I really need to find a way to fix what I've done. My husband is on the road most of the time since he is a truck driver. We mostly see the each other 2-3 days out of the week. He works while I stay at home and make sure the kids get to school and take care of them. We had a new neighbor that moved in the condo next to ours. He came over one day and wanted to use our wifi since he hadn't gotten his internet hooked up yet. I didn't want to be difficult since he is our neighbor so I gave him the password so he could get on. He then invited me over to watch a movie if I wasn't doing anything. I took him up on the movie offer but I made it clear that I am married. He was nice about it and didn't pursue me at first. I don't know what happened but we started hanging out on a daily basis and he kept making passes at me. I should have been stronger and pushed him away but I missed the companionship of my husband and I also felt good being with him. We started kissing one night and I can't explain the feeling but we ended up having sex. This went on since October and I only did it on the days that my husband wasn't home. My husband came home a day early on a Thursday without calling and caught me having sex on our bed. My husband beat up the neighbor which isn't fair because everything is my fault. He also kicked me out of the house.

After a day he told me to move back in to be with the kids and he wanted to move out instead. I felt like he was torturing me. He was acting very cold and like he doesn't care about me. I know I made mistakes but he didn't understand the way I felt and the fact that me feelings weren't being met. The neighbor turned his back on me and doesn't even look at me. My husband only came home for Christmas and New years and even then, he said it was only for the kids. How can I get him to forgive me and fix our marriage? I love him but he doesn't see it. He has been saying that he will file for divorce but he still hasn't given me papers. That right there tells me that he still feels something for me. However, he still acts cold when we talk and he says that he doesn't think he can get over what I've done. What can I do to fix this? I know I will never do this again and I want to prove it to him.

peep the cheater's mode of deflection.
all cheater's do this.
don't fall for the bullshyt, breh!!


art barr

 

[King Poetic]

Some of em are tough read almost. Like this guy that is CLEARLY sharing...

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I think my wife MIGHT be having affair…she’s asleep right now and I’m looking for some thoughts...

So here’s my story and few things that have happened to me in my brief marriage.

Met my wife three years ago, instant mutual attraction, off the charts sex, and we were engaged 10 months later. She is 27, I’m 30. Wonderful wedding day, good honeymoon - but immediately afterwards things went sour and I’m not sure why. We are approaching the third year of marriage.

Some notes:

1. I worked a lot of long hours in our first year of marriage. Like 10-12 hour days. She did not like this, but I was a manager and we working against some tight deadlines.

2. After the honeymoon was over, it took us three months to have sex again. Then another two months afterwards to have sex again.

3. After our first year of marriage, she gained a ton of weight, at least 35 lbs. She has been seeing a counselor, and has been on Strattera, Lamictal, and Cymbalta. She was on another drug that I forget the name of. She has went through bouts of depression her entire life.

4. I am getting yelled at, ALL THE TIME. I will be sitting watching TV with her, and she will start picking a fight with me for no real reason. She picks on me for being too thin and it’s ruining myself esteem. I asked if she thought I was good looking and she did not answer.

5. I am often told that I do not make enough money. She works at a company where a lot of guys are making great money and she has to travel for her job, so she is around other men a lot. I make a decent living, but we are not rich.

6. We went on a trip for our second anniversary and she refused to sleep with me, and she gave me a dirty look when I tried to initiate sex. I would say that we maybe have had sex 10-15 times in our entire marriage (2 years, 9 months total)

7. She does not like to be hugged by me at all. I tried kissing her on the cheek the other morning prior to us leaving for work and she winced.

8. This past December, we went to her companies Holiday party together and her co-workers were acting kind of weird around me. They would stare at me for a long time and look confused, and look away. Maybe I’m being too paranoid.

9. She talks, at least once a week, about her female co-workers flirting with other guys in the office. Married men going out to lunch with married women.

10. We are in marriage counseling. Our marriage counselor once asked her if she thought would be OK if I had my needs met by another woman. She really didn’t have a response.

11. My wife seems to have no friends, except her mom. She seems to get home everyday at 5:15pm. So, if she is with someone, it’s on her lunch breaks ONLY. She doesn’t leave my sight during the weekends.

Obviously, my marriage is in shambles, I have been thinking about divorce since Christmas. But I love this woman so much…I just feel like something is up.

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Wow

marry a chick less than a year and 2 & half years later u find out she been depressed all her life

 

[DrX]

WB's let these hoes win....thats why BW want one so bad...not only will they wine and dine u theyll let a bytch wear the pants....thats why white women are becoming "independent" like blk women and theyre moving on to asians

 

[Art Barr]

Some of em are tough read almost. Like this guy that is CLEARLY sharing...

-------------------------
I think my wife MIGHT be having affair…she’s asleep right now and I’m looking for some thoughts...

So here’s my story and few things that have happened to me in my brief marriage.

Met my wife three years ago, instant mutual attraction, off the charts sex, and we were engaged 10 months later. She is 27, I’m 30. Wonderful wedding day, good honeymoon - but immediately afterwards things went sour and I’m not sure why. We are approaching the third year of marriage.

Some notes:

1. I worked a lot of long hours in our first year of marriage. Like 10-12 hour days. She did not like this, but I was a manager and we working against some tight deadlines.

2. After the honeymoon was over, it took us three months to have sex again. Then another two months afterwards to have sex again.

3. After our first year of marriage, she gained a ton of weight, at least 35 lbs. She has been seeing a counselor, and has been on Strattera, Lamictal, and Cymbalta. She was on another drug that I forget the name of. She has went through bouts of depression her entire life.

4. I am getting yelled at, ALL THE TIME. I will be sitting watching TV with her, and she will start picking a fight with me for no real reason. She picks on me for being too thin and it’s ruining myself esteem. I asked if she thought I was good looking and she did not answer.

5. I am often told that I do not make enough money. She works at a company where a lot of guys are making great money and she has to travel for her job, so she is around other men a lot. I make a decent living, but we are not rich.

6. We went on a trip for our second anniversary and she refused to sleep with me, and she gave me a dirty look when I tried to initiate sex. I would say that we maybe have had sex 10-15 times in our entire marriage (2 years, 9 months total)

7. She does not like to be hugged by me at all. I tried kissing her on the cheek the other morning prior to us leaving for work and she winced.

8. This past December, we went to her companies Holiday party together and her co-workers were acting kind of weird around me. They would stare at me for a long time and look confused, and look away. Maybe I’m being too paranoid.

9. She talks, at least once a week, about her female co-workers flirting with other guys in the office. Married men going out to lunch with married women.

10. We are in marriage counseling. Our marriage counselor once asked her if she thought would be OK if I had my needs met by another woman. She really didn’t have a response.

11. My wife seems to have no friends, except her mom. She seems to get home everyday at 5:15pm. So, if she is with someone, it’s on her lunch breaks ONLY. She doesn’t leave my sight during the weekends.

Obviously, my marriage is in shambles, I have been thinking about divorce since Christmas. But I love this woman so much…I just feel like something is up.

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Wow

declined intimacy = check
lies with the truth = check
hangs around guys and tells you about other females exploits = check
fakes arguments = check
emotionally checking out completely = check
sexual abuse = check
fights about money = check

yup,...he shares that girl


get married, breh's.


art barr

 

[FaTaL]

shytty situations, the worst are the ones that find out their not the father of their kids

 

[Art Barr]

WB's let these hoes win....thats why BW want one so bad...not only will they wine and dine u theyll let a bytch wear the pants....thats why white women are becoming "independent" like blk women and theyre moving on to asians

wb's dont' see they are vic's.
plus, their general culture is deeply welled in simpdom.
so, they don't know shyt about really dealing with this age of females they created.
I don't feel sorry for them, either.
as they passed all those laws to gain access to rich white women's old money.
fighting for feminism, looking for independence.
then, ho'd out the entire nation of males for money.

so, I don't feel sorry for them.

I applaud the blackguys.
who prey on white females.
or actually the white females who prey on black guys as the alternative.
the same white females, who are trying to get their back blown out, and play wb's, though.

white cats have nowhere to go with women.
they are viewed as the vic's of the food chain by all females.
I find the shyt hilarious comedy.



art barr

*was the other guy fukk'n a wb's black fitness model gf, for damn near five years.
thanks for paying for her fake boobs, goofie.....
she would come to the door nekkid as fukk, from the first time I came to her crib.

 

[thegreatwb]

http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping...how-can-i-make-my-husband-man-i-want-him.html

Ok I know people frown on this kind of thing so I will get this out the way first.

I've been cheating on my husband for the past 3 years!

The other man works on the same job as me. It was originally just a fling and eventually became an entirely new relationship. This man was everything my husband used to be when we met. Funny, handsome, athletic.....he had it all. I know that being in this relationship was wrong but I was being selfish and trying to live my own life without thinking about my husband or children.

I've sensed my husband has always knew something was wrong and I believe that's why he has tried so hard to please me. We've been to countless marriage sessions to try to "work" on our marriage but none of it ever worked. All of this constant pressure really took a toll on me. I made a pact with the man that I was sleeping with and we both agreed to divorce our spouses and be with each other. We were together for so long that I felt this was the right choice for me to be happy.

So I separated from my husband earlier this year against his wishes. He wanted to stay and try to make things work but I knew in my heart that I was in love with someone else and that there was nothing my husband could do to make this work.

Now what does my true lover go and do? He goes to Cancun with his wife and renews his wedding vows!!!!!

He didn't tell me but I just found out this week. I'm so hurt and didn't know that he could hurt me so bad. All this time, he claims he wants to be with me. Now he decides he wants to be with his wife. Oh and get this, he still wants to keep having sex with me. That's just not going to happen.

So I've decided that I want to work things out with my "almost" ex husband. We've been talking this week and he wants to come back home and try again. I really want to give him another chance and I want to know what I can do to change him into the man I originally married. I feel like he has taken me for granted all these years and that's what caused me to cheat. I never wanted to hurt him but we both deserve to be happy. I want him to treat me like the queen I am and to stop going through the motions.

Sorry for the rant and I'm sure I left something out. I know this marriage can't be a lost cause and I need to know what to do to make it work.

 

[Rarely-Wrong Liggins]

I've cheated and disrespected my husband and now he has found out. He wants to leave and I don't know what to do. These past few weeks have been hell and I've been constantly crying. I really need to find a way to fix what I've done. My husband is on the road most of the time since he is a truck driver. We mostly see the each other 2-3 days out of the week. He works while I stay at home and make sure the kids get to school and take care of them. We had a new neighbor that moved in the condo next to ours. He came over one day and wanted to use our wifi since he hadn't gotten his internet hooked up yet. I didn't want to be difficult since he is our neighbor so I gave him the password so he could get on. He then invited me over to watch a movie if I wasn't doing anything. I took him up on the movie offer but I made it clear that I am married. He was nice about it and didn't pursue me at first. I don't know what happened but we started hanging out on a daily basis and he kept making passes at me. I should have been stronger and pushed him away but I missed the companionship of my husband and I also felt good being with him. We started kissing one night and I can't explain the feeling but we ended up having sex. This went on since October and I only did it on the days that my husband wasn't home. My husband came home a day early on a Thursday without calling and caught me having sex on our bed. My husband beat up the neighbor which isn't fair because everything is my fault. He also kicked me out of the house.

After a day he told me to move back in to be with the kids and he wanted to move out instead. I felt like he was torturing me. He was acting very cold and like he doesn't care about me. I know I made mistakes but he didn't understand the way I felt and the fact that me feelings weren't being met. The neighbor turned his back on me and doesn't even look at me. My husband only came home for Christmas and New years and even then, he said it was only for the kids. How can I get him to forgive me and fix our marriage? I love him but he doesn't see it. He has been saying that he will file for divorce but he still hasn't given me papers. That right there tells me that he still feels something for me. However, he still acts cold when we talk and he says that he doesn't think he can get over what I've done. What can I do to fix this? I know I will never do this again and I want to prove it to him.

*Russell Giggle Gif*

 

[TELL ME YA CHEESIN FAM?]

worst are the ones tryina 'work it out' after finding out their wives are whores

And the lingo they use over there

 

[thegreatwb]

http://talkaboutmarriage.com/sex-marriage/136506-how-can-i-tell-my-fiance-i-have-small-johnson.html




Hello everyone,

I have a huge problem. I'm not a virgin and I have had sex before. The problem is that my penis is very small. It is very embarrassing to discuss but it is around 2 1/2 inches erect. I've tried various methods to try to enlarge it but all that stuff is fiction.

I met a incredible woman 8months ago and we have never had sex. She never pushed the issue in the beginning but when she began to push, I freaked out and told her I was a virgin. Everything was going good at the time and I didn't want to mess things up.

So now, we are engaged. She thinks I want to wait for marriage to have sex. Our wedding date is coming soon and I'm getting scared. She sometimes talks dirty to me and I talk dirty back. She says that she wants to show me a good time and she really thinks it will be my first time.

So what should I do, I'm very ashamed of this and I don't know how much longer I can hide it. All the women I was with before have all made fun of me about this and I even had one that called me centipede. I don't know how she will handle this but maybe I'm overreacting. Anyone have any advice or has went through something similar?

 

[Matt504]

http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping...how-can-i-make-my-husband-man-i-want-him.html

Ok I know people frown on this kind of thing so I will get this out the way first.

I've been cheating on my husband for the past 3 years!

The other man works on the same job as me. It was originally just a fling and eventually became an entirely new relationship. This man was everything my husband used to be when we met. Funny, handsome, athletic.....he had it all. I know that being in this relationship was wrong but I was being selfish and trying to live my own life without thinking about my husband or children.

I've sensed my husband has always knew something was wrong and I believe that's why he has tried so hard to please me. We've been to countless marriage sessions to try to "work" on our marriage but none of it ever worked. All of this constant pressure really took a toll on me. I made a pact with the man that I was sleeping with and we both agreed to divorce our spouses and be with each other. We were together for so long that I felt this was the right choice for me to be happy.

So I separated from my husband earlier this year against his wishes. He wanted to stay and try to make things work but I knew in my heart that I was in love with someone else and that there was nothing my husband could do to make this work.

Now what does my true lover go and do? He goes to Cancun with his wife and renews his wedding vows!!!!!

He didn't tell me but I just found out this week. I'm so hurt and didn't know that he could hurt me so bad. All this time, he claims he wants to be with me. Now he decides he wants to be with his wife. Oh and get this, he still wants to keep having sex with me. That's just not going to happen.

So I've decided that I want to work things out with my "almost" ex husband. We've been talking this week and he wants to come back home and try again. I really want to give him another chance and I want to know what I can do to change him into the man I originally married. I feel like he has taken me for granted all these years and that's what caused me to cheat. I never wanted to hurt him but we both deserve to be happy. I want him to treat me like the queen I am and to stop going through the motions.

Sorry for the rant and I'm sure I left something out. I know this marriage can't be a lost cause and I need to know what to do to make it work.

this bytch left her husband for her "true love" and when she figures out he was only using her for sex, she all of a sudden wants to make shyt work with her ex?

nah b.

 

[Da Jungles]

http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping...how-can-i-make-my-husband-man-i-want-him.html

Ok I know people frown on this kind of thing so I will get this out the way first.

I've been cheating on my husband for the past 3 years!

The other man works on the same job as me. It was originally just a fling and eventually became an entirely new relationship. This man was everything my husband used to be when we met. Funny, handsome, athletic.....he had it all. I know that being in this relationship was wrong but I was being selfish and trying to live my own life without thinking about my husband or children.

I've sensed my husband has always knew something was wrong and I believe that's why he has tried so hard to please me. We've been to countless marriage sessions to try to "work" on our marriage but none of it ever worked. All of this constant pressure really took a toll on me. I made a pact with the man that I was sleeping with and we both agreed to divorce our spouses and be with each other. We were together for so long that I felt this was the right choice for me to be happy.

So I separated from my husband earlier this year against his wishes. He wanted to stay and try to make things work but I knew in my heart that I was in love with someone else and that there was nothing my husband could do to make this work.

Now what does my true lover go and do? He goes to Cancun with his wife and renews his wedding vows!!!!!

He didn't tell me but I just found out this week. I'm so hurt and didn't know that he could hurt me so bad. All this time, he claims he wants to be with me. Now he decides he wants to be with his wife. Oh and get this, he still wants to keep having sex with me. That's just not going to happen.

So I've decided that I want to work things out with my "almost" ex husband. We've been talking this week and he wants to come back home and try again. I really want to give him another chance and I want to know what I can do to change him into the man I originally married. I feel like he has taken me for granted all these years and that's what caused me to cheat. I never wanted to hurt him but we both deserve to be happy. I want him to treat me like the queen I am and to stop going through the motions.

Sorry for the rant and I'm sure I left something out. I know this marriage can't be a lost cause and I need to know what to do to make it work.

 

[Jayson_bourn]

http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping...how-can-i-make-my-husband-man-i-want-him.html

Ok I know people frown on this kind of thing so I will get this out the way first.

I've been cheating on my husband for the past 3 years!

The other man works on the same job as me. It was originally just a fling and eventually became an entirely new relationship. This man was everything my husband used to be when we met. Funny, handsome, athletic.....he had it all. I know that being in this relationship was wrong but I was being selfish and trying to live my own life without thinking about my husband or children.

I've sensed my husband has always knew something was wrong and I believe that's why he has tried so hard to please me. We've been to countless marriage sessions to try to "work" on our marriage but none of it ever worked. All of this constant pressure really took a toll on me. I made a pact with the man that I was sleeping with and we both agreed to divorce our spouses and be with each other. We were together for so long that I felt this was the right choice for me to be happy.

So I separated from my husband earlier this year against his wishes. He wanted to stay and try to make things work but I knew in my heart that I was in love with someone else and that there was nothing my husband could do to make this work.

Now what does my true lover go and do? He goes to Cancun with his wife and renews his wedding vows!!!!!

He didn't tell me but I just found out this week. I'm so hurt and didn't know that he could hurt me so bad. All this time, he claims he wants to be with me. Now he decides he wants to be with his wife. Oh and get this, he still wants to keep having sex with me. That's just not going to happen.

So I've decided that I want to work things out with my "almost" ex husband. We've been talking this week and he wants to come back home and try again. I really want to give him another chance and I want to know what I can do to change him into the man I originally married. I feel like he has taken me for granted all these years and that's what caused me to cheat. I never wanted to hurt him but we both deserve to be happy. I want him to treat me like the queen I am and to stop going through the motions.

Sorry for the rant and I'm sure I left something out. I know this marriage can't be a lost cause and I need to know what to do to make it work.

She was ok with being a side piece when she was married, now all of a sudden she offended and heartbroken

 

[TELL ME YA CHEESIN FAM?]

Lol@this wanna be novelist sucka
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/161065-i-am-developer.html#fref

 

[Willie]

This thread is crazy.

Never get married man smh.