I'm so scared of working with majority white women.

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God's work with this post man. I keep having this thought loop of "man I never really talk and shyt, I hope these people don't try to conspire and fire me because I'm not them and eat lunch by myself" but I was doing the right thing.

I already made some of those mistakes (got drunk at an outing but thankfully everyone else was shytfaced) but thank god I never tried to run down on these girls and thank god I only work at that job part-time right now. Woulda definitely made a lot more errors if I was there full time.

Stay safe! I've broken these rules in my career on purpose when I've secured different positions or to push change in my community.

Literally pushed parents to contact the superintendent on a principal at my school when I was a teacher.

I still fukk with them sometimes even in academia in a passive-aggressive way by asking leading questions in discussion panels
("How did these at-risk blk communities become so vulnerable?" ). There is a bit more leeway to engage in discourse at the post-secondary education level, but while I'm unapolegetically blk, I still make sure I do EVERYTHING right on the back end. I'm that chick in my program who is happy and totally non-threatening ("she must have gotten in based off affirmative-action", "is she even published") that is also making the highest scores on comp exams, second author on research projects, and getting grants approved and I'm only a grad student.
It's gratifying to see them give me the face when they scrambling to think of a sentence to write and I come in fresh off Overwatch, take a cursory glance at the material and ace the exam.

It burns them. Their whiteness won't let them acknowledge me especially b/c im happy and flippant but they also can't deny me. Regardless tho, I don't work or collaborate with any of them, and I handle my business. No one knows anything about my personal life and they aren't my friends.

 

[Weaver31]

Exactly. You're not at work to make friends. Get your money and get out.

Yup coworkers and friends are not the same. And you can (and should) be causal and friendly but know ur boundaries and don't do dumb shyt like add them to ur social media and u posting pics of u getting lit.

 

[Weaver31]

God's work with this post man. I keep having this thought loop of "man I never really talk and shyt, I hope these people don't try to conspire and fire me because I'm not them and eat lunch by myself" but I was doing the right thing.

I already made some of those mistakes (got drunk at an outing but thankfully everyone else was shytfaced) but thank god I never tried to run down on these girls and thank god I only work at that job part-time right now. Woulda definitely made a lot more errors if I was there full time.

Good thing the others were fuked up as well. Be careful drinking too much at a happy hour or job function. I advise no more than 2 drinks and leave. Don't want them to think u have a drinking problem.

Also, eat with ur coworkers ONCE IN A WHILE but don't make it a habit. U don't want to seem too aloof and introverted whereas they may speculate. But u don't want to eat with them too much cuz they may make shyt up and get too much in yo business...plus whites don't like it when we splurge too much. Eating out is a luxury and that includes fast food.

 

[King Poetic]

U always say u don't do social media..

But a lot of them try to find it.. that's why I would have a Jersey as my picture and shyt set to private with another city location

 

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And social media is a big no no. My coworkers don't even know I'm on social media, much less my @Name. Also consider having multiple accounts without ur picture in them. Ya'll trippin. They shouldn't even know where u live. ESPECIALLY if it's a nice neighborhood. Some will block promotions on some "that ****** doesn't need any more help" type nonsense.

 

[8WON6]

Preemptively block them on social media. Don't fall for any bait with flirting. White women you use you as the "scary black man" to get a come up real quick. But mainly just keep to yourself, keep every thing business. Go in knowing you have no friends.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Good thing the others were fuked up as well. Be careful drinking too much at a happy hour or job function. I advise no more than 2 drinks and leave. Don't want them to think u have a drinking problem.

Also, eat with ur coworkers ONCE IN A WHILE but don't make it a habit. U don't want to seem too aloof and introverted whereas they may speculate. But u don't want to eat with them too much cuz they may make shyt up and get too much in yo business...plus whites don't like it when we splurge too much. Eating out is a luxury and that includes fast food.

Exactly! It's the art of blending into the background. Nothing about u is too anything, while u still making moves.
Also keep a roster of potential jobs on deck. White women are the main primary beneficiaries of Affirmative Action. So if there are problems with the company, they are disposing of you first no matter how well u work.

Stay woke!!!!

 

[Majestic]

Just remember, everything you say do or even joke about can be misconstrued.

When you rebuff their sexual advances (and yes, there will always be sexual advances), they will make shyt up.

Its happened to me, it will happen to you.

Care u explain what happened and the solution?

 

[scarlxrd]

Exactly. You're not at work to make friends. Get your money and get out.

This. It's not that difficult unless you like to chat.

 

[Crayola Coyote]

There is a thread on this made by @Rice'N Beckford regarding working with cacs but @Booksnrain made that shyt spot on regarding their comment that really sums it up.

• Simply keep your mouth shut. Eyes OPEN.
• Don't do the after hours thing with them.
• Keep your personal life very private.
• Don't let them in your car or give them rides anywhere or help bring them to work.
• Always have a neutral opinion on anything non work related.
• Don't get involved in their shenanigans and rule breaking at work. That isn't a pass for you.

THIS

 

[patscorpio]

I work with majority white women on my team...the things ive heard them talk about

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

And if they ask you about Trump, NFL, BLM, etc....
"I have no opinion, I don't follow that stuff, etc"


In college, I went to discuss a paper with a white female professor, and she starts talking about her affair, and she was ready to leave her husband, but the other guy chickened out so she told his wife, and they were arguing back and forth through emails while I was sitting there. I just kept nodding, and listening, but in my head, I'm like

She ended up telling me what she was looking for in the paper for about 2 minutes. I said, ok thanks, and left swiftly.

 

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Also document via email. Sometimes I would be pulled into impromptu meetings and no minutes were taken. So I would always offer to take the minutes. Then I would email a copy out to all participants. I've caught SEVERAL mofos trying to fukk me over b/c I kept emails and documented incidents.

One lady I used to work with didn't know how to fill out IEP documentation for students with disabilities. So she tried to blame shyt on me b/c I'm nice (I dunno why people equate nice/happy--stupid).
Long story short, I screen shot the procedures for the documentation and kept her email which outlined her giving the wrong instructions and pushing harder cases off to new teachers. Even the principal couldn't save her b/c I still had the documentation where she fukked up.
It was vicious!
Don't fukk wit me!Im as sweet as they come but I'll eviserate u if I gotta.

 

[King Poetic]

I rather be judged a serial killer or a boring dude at work where people ignore me. more than getting likes and love and invited to events..

 

[Jamal514]

Just remember, everything you say do or even joke about can be misconstrued.

When you rebuff their sexual advances (and yes, there will always be sexual advances), they will make shyt up.

Its happened to me, it will happen to you.

Quoted for truth.

The place I work at is mainly white people with only a few black(4 of which are men). This one fat ugly CAC bytch swears that this black dude, whom she has a crush on, was checking out her ass and told a bunch of other women about it. Luckily most people know he's a stand up dude and he was never reprimanded about the rumor. This same ugly cow once pulled another black dude into an office to tell him that she "doesn't spit, she swallows".