Imagine falling in love with somebody who doesn’t care about you at all

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if it feels good to me to be in love with someone i dont think it matters if they feel the same
too many people live their life according to feedback from others, matching energy instead of being true to themselves
i just gotta do me and i'm def a sucker for love

Yeah I think this is healthy but it’s also okay to be a bit selfish too so you aren’t burned out emotionally overextending yourself without reciprocity.

I rarely love people with the expectation of obligation but it feels good to be on the receiving end too.

Love is amazing to me in either direction but I save the best of me for those who’ve demonstrated their care for my well-being. Giving to someone who can’t be there for you when you need them will turn you into a monster.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Yeah I think this is healthy but it’s also okay to be a bit selfish too so you aren’t burned out emotionally overextending yourself without reciprocity.

I rarely love people with the expectation of obligation but it feels good to be on the receiving end too.

Love is amazing to me in either direction but I save the best of me for those who’ve demonstrated their care for my well-being. Giving to someone who can’t be there for you when you need them will turn you into a monster.

she's right.


Women turned me into the villain.

 

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she's right.


Women turned me into the villain.

It’s hard to bounce back from but try not to punish others or yourself for the mistakes of others.
Because they’ll be living their lives while you stuck in the past like a bug in amber.

It’s about balance imo. You ain’t gotta be stupid open just allowing mentally ill people to use you in the name of love, but you can be down and appreciate love when it’s given to you and return it too b/c that’s too good of a gift to squander on somebody else’s ignorance.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

Yeah I think this is healthy but it’s also okay to be a bit selfish too so you aren’t burned out emotionally overextending yourself without reciprocity.

I rarely love people with the expectation of obligation but it feels good to be on the receiving end too.

Love is amazing to me in either direction but I save the best of me for those who’ve demonstrated their care for my well-being. Giving to someone who can’t be there for you when you need them will turn you into a monster.

yeah its not like the thread title. dude obviously likes me. i just know he aint dreaming about me like i do him and i cant even help that its in my subconscious so im here for it


i had to lol, i took the dreams as a sign. yall ever had a chance to actually be in real life love with a dream lover? it's not bad!

 

[Timothy Marley]

I fell in love with one of my best friends. We talked all day every day for two years straight. Last month, our communication got short. Her mom came by and asked have I spoke to her. Come to find out she got with a guy. I told her how I felt, but also that I respect their relationship. Shes still my best friend but I know it’s prob not gonna be the same while she’s dealing with him. I’ve been getting outside more and hitting the gym and more focused on my business to get my mind off of her. I still have chicks that I see from time to time. Had a threesome last weekend. But man, they aren’t her and it sucks lol. She lives out of state, and me being realistic about it, a lot of factors would have to happen for us to be with each other. At this point though, and it’s bitter sweet, but I would rather have her as a friend.

 

[Lilbeast]

I fell in love with one of my best friends. We talked all day every day for two years straight. Last month, our communication got short. Her mom came by and asked have I spoke to her. Come to find out she got with a guy. I told her how I felt, but also that I respect their relationship. Shes still my best friend but I know it’s prob not gonna be the same while she’s dealing with him. I’ve been getting outside more and hitting the gym and more focused on my business to get my mind off of her. I still have chicks that I see from time to time. Had a threesome last weekend. But man, they aren’t her and it sucks lol. She lives out of state, and me being realistic about it, a lot of factors would have to happen for us to be with each other. At this point though, and it’s bitter sweet, but I would rather have her as a friend.

Dawg delete this. You are standing by while she’s getting nutted in. You look crazy

 

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yeah its not like the thread title. dude obviously likes me. i just know he aint dreaming about me like i do him and i cant even help that its in my subconscious so im here for it


i had to lol, i took the dreams as a sign. yall ever had a chance to actually be in real life love with a dream lover? it's not bad!

Oh trust me, when I like somebody I’m all in. It’s mostly because I like people in general, so loving people isn’t hard for me.

But unfortunately, some dudes aren’t built to be receptive of that type of TLC. Depending on where they are emotionally some view your affections in terms of a power dynamic and think your care for them = power over you.

That arrogance is what makes them boring to me. Because they become like wounded deer to me. It’s obvious that anybody just taking and unable to reciprocate is hurt or still dealing in hurt energy. And that’s just not fun to me. They interpret every nice gesture you make towards them as some “yeah I got this bytch” type shyt. Meanwhile, it might be shyt you doing for everyone just because
Yeah being emotionally vulnerable has always been more attractive to me than a closed emo shut-in trying to be Dr. Doom romantically. It just seems corny and goofy after a while.

I used to pity these types but that’s not love either so I just wish em well and KIM. But that doesn’t seem like ur guy. He might just be a bit stoic while you are the demonstrative one which can be cute, b:c sometimes still waters run deep. Sometimes people who are quiet with it are the most passionate. Enjoy boo! Get it girl!

 

[Timothy Marley]

Dawg delete this. You are standing by while she’s getting nutted in. You look crazy

nikka, so you just gloss over the fact, that I’m fukking bytches too and she lives out of state? She’s my friend ‘yo. Been knowing her since we were kids. Know her mom, her fam. According to you, you want me to throw that away because another nikka is nutting in her? Who raised you?

 

[Sad Bunny]

My friend put it in a way that really has helped me in the past

"Love is simply the chemical hormones in your body recognizing someone it feel is the best candidate to reproduce with. A purely biological phenomenon. Don't beat yourself up too much"

I was like word

 

[threattonature]

she's right.


Women turned me into the villain.

For me I missed out on an amazing woman from dealing with the hurt my previous one caused me. Didn't realize the good thing I had until it was gone. She took me back for a bit but it was never the same cause that wall had been put up.

I got a friend who is married to a woman that he knows in his heart doesn't love him but just got with him so he could provide for her. Yet he has low self esteem and breaks his back trying to win her over 15 years in. It's a sad existence. Nothing better than a woman that loves you and all the little things they'll do for you to show that love and he has never experienced it as it was the first relationship he ever had.

 

[Fanservice]

There's no such thing as love.

I believe most sane people can only truly fall “in love” once. After giving your all to one person and walking away with nothing but disappointment and regret, it’s difficult to let yourself get that emotionally invested in someone else again.

This is why I’m low key jealous of people who married and started a family with their high school sweetheart.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

Oh trust me, when I like somebody I’m all in. It’s mostly because I like people in general, so loving people isn’t hard for me.

But unfortunately, some dudes aren’t built to be receptive of that type of TLC. Depending on where they are emotionally some view your affections in terms of a power dynamic and think your care for them = power over you.
But that doesn’t seem like ur guy. He might just be a bit stoic while you are the demonstrative one which can be cute, b:c sometimes still waters run deep. Sometimes people who are quiet with it are the most passionate. Enjoy boo! Get it girl!

i mean.... i did flake on him for like over a year before i started dreaming of him and finally got with him, so i get that he may be skeptical and i get that he tries not to act like i'm a big deal to him. then he's hella macho in general, but it's so cute because it all boils down to he's sensitive. so knowing that, we all good over here. ima let him do him and me do me. we'll see how it plays out. my dreams have already came true plus some!

 

[AyyyLmao]

I believe most sane people can only truly fall “in love” once. After giving your all to one person and walking away with nothing but disappointment and regret, it’s difficult to let yourself get that emotionally invested in someone else again.

This is why I’m low key jealous of people who married and started a family with their high school sweetheart.

Don't be. Those are the ones who cheat the most.

 

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i mean.... i did flake on him for like a year before i started dreaming of him and finally got with him, so i get that he may be skeptical and i get that he tries not to act like i'm a big deal to him. then he's hella macho in general, but it's so cute because it all boils down to he's sensitive. so knowing that, we all good over here. ima let him do him and me do me.

Awwww that’s so cute! You know what you doing with it. Enjoy the ride babe!

 

[Swirv]

I vaguely remember this feeling


Like @Swirv said, got my heart broke and I didn't want it to happen again, I cut my heart out.


I will never love a woman the way I did as a youngster.

I know too much now.

I feel like you love smarter as you grow up. I’m at a point where I’ve allowed myself to be vulnerable, but I’m aware of what can happen.