It’s easy to say they should stop looking for outside validation and find validation in themselves. While that may be correct, it’s the definition of easier said than done. A good majority, as in at least like 95% of people especially in western society look for outside validation. Those bad ass IG models would have nervous breakdowns if all men collectively decided to stop showing them approval by liking/commenting on their pics and vids.
I agree it’s not about sex, it’s about feeling wanted. Even if they got some p*ssy, those deep issues of feeling unapproved of will still be lingering underneath the surface. Not sure if there’s a way to remedy that besides some deep self awareness. Being taught differently in school would not have saved them. Our parents and older generations didn’t have classes teaching them how to be social, that came naturally. All this internet socializing is what made people more socially awkward, not flaws in the education system. Especially when they’re still teaching pretty much the same curriculum as older generations that had no problem socializing.
SM is what priced so many men out of the dating game. Social awkwardness runs amok in both men and women, it’s just women don’t really have to be social to get laid while men do. A woman pretty much just has to exist, a man has to stand out. Most men nowadays are eating from online dating so unless a dude is handsome gang AND photogenic or has some sort of clout, he won’t eat nearly as well as he would have 15+ years ago.