Introverts: how far in advance do you plan your convo scripts?

[NoMorePie]

This be me

 

[Fillerguy]

I plan my convos but for convos I would never. For example, I have a script for talking someone out of killing themselves tbh, I wouldn't even approach someone who's about to kill themselves ....its a rational as fukk argument thought.....and it manages to appeal to the victim's emotion too. I got another pre-planned convo for when I meet Mya on the subway

But I'm a weird dude though. Most ppl say I'm an introvert but I know long time friends and family who swear I'm an attention whore.

 

[TheGreatMTB]

I plan how to avoid conversation more than anything else.

 

[Coco Loco]

This is a ridiculous questions and shows a clear misunderstanding of introverts

Are you under the impression that extroverts have more to talk about than introverts?
It's the opposite, introverts choose to be solo, we aren't outcasted.

Many also enjoy reading and learning new things, so we have way more subject matter to speak on then you talking about the last party you went to.
Introverts can carry a spontaneous conversation much longer and of better quality then extroverts imo

This. We talk, go out etc just like extroverts, we just recharge differently. That's it. When they hear introvert they think socially awkward which is ignorant because those are two different things

 

[WTFisWallace?]

Sounds like you’re moreso talking about socially awkward, anxious, not well adjusted, etc people. Folk that just struggle with conversation in general and are conscious of it which leads to them getting in their own heads.


I don’t think that’s inherently an introvert thing, nor is being ‘great’ at convo is inherently an extrovert thing.

 

[RiverCity916]

I dont understand the misunderstanding of what I'm asking. It's obvious different type of introverts and some of us don't like small talk in social situations. We'd rather the extrovert talk and sit back and listen.

Some of yall introverts obviously are comfortable in having convos in public with strangers and that's cool. But some of us is about surviving that situation. We have a hard time being put on the spot answering questions. So our strategy is to reverse ot and have the extrovert carry it. Some of us plan in advance to do this. This the point of the thread

Please stop using the word introvert. I for one don't have this issue. This is some nervous socially awkward shyt.

 

[Arris]

I feel like planning ahead conversations is a universal thing. I would solidly say im an introvert who doesn't need or want a whole bunch of social interaction.I have a small friend group, and I can tend to go in isolation mode where I don't want to talk to anybody for days at a time.

however my conversational skills are fine. I can spontaneously lead a convo fine. I can banter with the best of them. But I also leave a lot of convos short and give off awkward vibes because I don't want to have a prolonged conversation with what I deem acquaintances. Overall I have a "quiet" reputation, but family or friends would probably describe me as somewhat of an airhead

 

[valet]

Sounds like you’re moreso talking about socially awkward, anxious, not well adjusted, etc people. Folk that just struggle with conversation in general and are conscious of it which leads to them getting in their own heads.


I don’t think that’s inherently an introvert thing, nor is being ‘great’ at convo is inherently an extrovert thing.

So if I'm to go with this an extrovert can be socially awkward, right? I guess I don't see how since all of this is new to me. If you get energized by talking, conversations, why would you be socially awkward. It would seem that would he easy to do.

 

[valet]

Please stop using the word introvert. I for one don't have this issue. This is some nervous socially awkward shyt.

I will in the future on this board. In my everyday interactions this has never been an issue when discussing this issue.

 

[Arris]

So if I'm to go with this an extrovert can be socially awkward, right? I guess I don't see how since all of this is new to me. If you get energized by talking, conversations, why would you be socially awkward. It would seem that would he easy to do.

I've met a lot of socially awkward people who can't shut up breh

They just power through it or take you not telling them to shut up as a green light to keep going

 

[valet]

Please stop using the word introvert. I for one don't have this issue. This is some nervous socially awkward shyt.

I will in the future on this board. In my everyday interactions this has never been an issue when discussing this issue.

I've met a lot of socially awkward people who can't shut up breh

They just power through it or take you not telling them to shut up as a green light to keep going

I have as well. But again I think of them in the traditional sense of extroverts/introverts

 

[valet]

Please stop using the word introvert. I for one don't have this issue. This is some nervous socially awkward shyt.

I will in the future on this board. In my everyday interactions this has never been an issue when discussing this issue.

I've met a lot of socially awkward people who can't shut up breh

They just power through it or take you not telling them to shut up as a green light to keep going

I have as well. But again I think of them in the traditional sense of extroverts/introverts

 

[Orbital-Fetus]

I dont understand the misunderstanding of what I'm asking. It's obvious different type of introverts and some of us don't like small talk in social situations. We'd rather the extrovert talk and sit back and listen.

Some of yall introverts obviously are comfortable in having convos in public with strangers and that's cool. But some of us is about surviving that situation. We have a hard time being put on the spot answering questions. So our strategy is to reverse ot and have the extrovert carry it. Some of us plan in advance to do this. This the point of the thread

I have always had introvert and extrovert tendencies. When I'm alone, I want to stay alone. But when I am put in a social situation it can go either way. Sometimes I'm a wallflower that dips in and out of convos. Sometimes I'm in the middle of some shyt. But this is all pre Covid. Post Covid I'm hermit status and trying my best to rebuild my life.

That being said, I have always had the social skills to improvise conversations with randos about just about anything.

OP needs this in his life.



Thank me later.

 

[Orbital-Fetus]

Ok, I guess that's where the conflict is coming from. When I use introverts I mean it more of what it traditionally meant in the culture. People who process more by thinking internally. Whereas others who process by verbally talking, thinking out loud.

I think you misunderstand what introvert and extrovert mean by hyperfocusing on interactions with others. If you laid a venn diagram of the clinical definitions of the two, it would be a perfect overlap. I embody either depending on the situation.

 

[Ganso Bomb]

Like do you have questions in advanced to ask do these extroverts so you can talk all day and you can sit back in listen?

I mean, I get what you're saying, but I do that by just asking questions and showing genuine interest in what they're talking about. No scripting. There might be something that I already wanted to ask them or talk about, but that's it.

What about exit plans to get out of these convos?

Nope. I either let the convo die or find an excuse to leave.

Are you constantly thinking about it or do you have scripts typed out i

I feel like a whole script would fall apart once they say something that you didn't account for.