Just cut the bullshyt and ask your date to bring their resume 
Is asking someone what they do for work on first meet a bad starter?
- Thread starter Barlow
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It should not be seen as a glaring red-flag; some folks just don't have much to talk about, and people work 40-50+ hrs/wk so that is a significant part of our lives and is a legitimate topic to speak on.
Ezekiel 25:17
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Amo Husserl
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You don't know them on the first meet. Get to know the person not what the person does for a living.
DJ Paul's Arm
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This
I traveled around the world and mingled with locals. They NEVER asked what I do for a living. It’s considered disrespectful to some.
That's all they care about in DC. Lol
O.T.I.S.
The Monk & The Mercenary
Couldn’t care less what they think
Important ass question to ask anyone. What do you do for a living? Where do you spend most of your time outside of your house and what do you do there? What is your purpose and goals in life?
If a chick doesn’t like those questions, or at the least have an answer for that, then cool. Not the chick for me then
I’m cool with whatever reactions they have because it lets me know who you are as a person
Important ass question to ask anyone. What do you do for a living? Where do you spend most of your time outside of your house and what do you do there? What is your purpose and goals in life?
If a chick doesn’t like those questions, or at the least have an answer for that, then cool. Not the chick for me then
I’m cool with whatever reactions they have because it lets me know who you are as a person
I think it's fine. People can be weird about it sometimes though. I don't even know what half the people I know actually do.Saw this conversation going around.
People saying it’s boring, classist, judgmental, etc…
I can see how it would come off that way if you think someone is trying to judge you, but I also see how it’s just an icebreaker to a conversation
I know a bunch of consultants and they NEVER wanna give up the details.
I just chuck it up to government clearance stuff and let it rock.
O.T.I.S.
The Monk & The Mercenary
I just mightJust cut the bullshyt and ask your date to bring their resume
Either I can help them with theirs or learn something to use with mines
Kornball The Conqueror
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You spend 60 hours a week at work 
Fashion Consultant
in my social circle, it's never polite to ask someone what they do. you allow for them to divulge naturally if they so choose. there are many acquaintances i've known for years that clearly are doing well but i don't have any clue what they do and i don't beg the question. for instance, i've sat on the board of a non-profit for over a decade. there is a gentleman on the board who was a board member before me. been to his place of residence many times, dined with him, met his family, we've worked on projects together, and only just this year i found out he's the heir of the hoover vacuum company and it was told to me by a mutual not by him. only mentioning this because it is a real thing depending on your social circles.
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honestly, shyt like that gets asked and talked about over the phone before we even meet up.
T-K-G
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Your type of work > your schedule and location for work > how compatible is it with the other persons situation. It's a fair question, not really specific to America, it can be a dealbreaker for anyone who works a unique job
Doesn't matter how much you like someone if yalls lifestyles via your careers dont sync up well. you're going to have a hard time unless someone is willing to sacrifice their current trajectory, alot of people don't wanna do that until later in life
If a woman can't travel for work or doesn't have a remote wfh job I immediately know we're never gonna be anything serious and adjust my expectations accordingly
you gotta figure out that kind of shyt early or you're just wasting time