Is holding a lifelong grude really a bad thing?

[Sierra Mist]

I gotta forgive because I can't walk around bitter, vengeful, and angry. It will ruin me. Won't be able to move forward in life. It's like chains being stuck to you.

But I'll never forget and it will educate me on not being involved in future dealings with that person. Silence is a bigger & better attack than loud mouth shyt talking.

 

[Ohene]

i hold grudges. they often motivate me.

people dont know the grudge is held ...but best believe it is

i dont know if theyre grudges though. its more like me just keeping whatever happened in the back of my head

 

[Kalik]

I have a few grudges... it's just the way I am.

If you fukked me over... I must convince myself to not be hostile with you whenever we run across each other...family or not.

 

[Truth200]

I have a few grudges... it's just the way I am.

If you fukked me over... I must convince myself to not be hostile with you whenever we run across each other...family or not.

Forgiveness can also be a sign of weakness that could get you hurt worse.

 

[Arishok]

My grudges usually turn into "who"

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

People know that we live in a "Universe" of interconnected structure, yet feel as if our very thoughts (vibrations, frequencies and what have you) are separate from the equation.

If you're feeling a certain way, you shouldn't instantly condemn yourself. It's more beneficial to question the experience. Holding a grudge is giving your emotional identity away to others. If you question and observe your own thoughts chances are you'll realize that you need certain "negative" experiences to expand consciousness.

I like this

Emotional control is acknowledging emotions and then getting to the root of why u feel the way u do. 95% of the time just acknowledging anger, jealousy, etc etc is enough.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Forgiveness can also be a sign of weakness that could get you hurt worse.

If forgiveness being portrayed as weakness and weakness being subject to physical harm is a reality it's probably more important to work on getting out of that environment than earn the respect of those perpetuating it.

The things worth pursuing are things that matter everywhere. What a bunch of dusty broke angry MFers think of people walking down their block is not one of those things.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

I see holding a grudge like.... those songs Big Sean and Wiz Khalifa made about their exes. Like, carrying that emotional burden or declaring it to the world pretty much has the opposite effect of what's intended. If u outchea and people are making songs about u or getting angry at the thought of u.....

I had a quote in my sig that was like 'if the mere thought of somebody gets u heated u already lost'.... I mean if someone kills ur brother or something thats one thing. But a lot of MFers hold grudges over real petty shyt. Thats not the way to live

 

[IShotTheSheriff]

I like this

Emotional control is acknowledging emotions and then getting to the root of why u feel the way u do. 95% of the time just acknowledging anger, jealousy, etc etc is enough.

The simple act of stepping out of the moment and acknowledging why the current events affect you so....

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

The simple act of stepping out of the moment and acknowledging why the current events affect you so....

Doing that is way tougher than any act of violence. A man will kill another man to avoid coming to grips with his own emotions

 

[Anti-Anime]

If you're holding a grudge for years, you need to get over that shyt. A grudge is supposed to be something that quickly turns into "I couldn't care less about them." Just let it be that you don't fukk with that person. Wasting mental energy on someone to hold a grudge (which means more than the allotted time of anger) will give you cancer.

You ain't feel that way when batboy took lois. :

 

[ExodusNirvana]

Try not to hold grudges...just remember not everyone is playing by the same rules

 

[IShotTheSheriff]

Doing that is way tougher than any act of violence. A man will kill another man to avoid coming to grips with his own emotions

it's true. it's become a widespread belief that men should lack emotion. the very nature of the repression causes tons of dudes to be even more emotional tbh

 

[Mowgli]

I just pray they die and they usually go away

 

[Truth200]

I just pray they die and they usually go away