Is it a good thing if your girl constantly fears losing you no matter how reassuring you are?

[JA_Carter]

Asking for a friend

 

[KnickstapeCity]

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

Healthy fear sure but that sounds unhealthy, like she is very insecure as a person

 

[Matt504]

it's a bad thing and if it's something she can't overcome you should probably part ways before she self-sabotages.

 

[Obreh Winfrey]

She has self esteem and trust issues. Those thoughts lead to sabotaging the relationship because she keeps feeling like she doesn't deserve it. It's a long term project, but that mentally can be broken. Is it worth the effort? That's a question for you.

 

[LadyJ2]

Maybe not. Are you a fly nikka, OP?

 

[WaveWhisperer]

I feels good to be wanted ……but if you are dealing with a insecure person that will take a toll on you. Its fukking exhausting. Its like reapplying for a job that you already have . Id much rather have a person who knows where they stand with me snd walk away when they dont like something that someone to be so fearful. Its alot of shyt that goes beyond that. The constant calling and texting arguments about dumb shyt, to them its too keep the contact constant and if its not they gonna assume you speaking to someone else. And it dont matter if its family or long time friends.



Its even worse when they dont want to help themselves.



Dont do it op, ill tell you all about it

 

[TRUEST]

She’ll cheat out of fear that you’re going to leave her anyway. A girl like this can’t stand to be alone. So she’ll be the type to hop from d1ck to d1ck. Avoid her.

 

[Who Not How]

She shouldn't fear losing you but she should know you don't fear losing her.

 

[Coco Loco]

That's called insecurity. The only cure for it is HER resolving the issues that make HER insecure with therapy. It's nothing the other person can do to reassure her her fears aren't real, and it's not their job

 

[Tess Lies]

it's a bad thing and if it's something she can't overcome you should probably part ways before she self-sabotages.

I wouldn't necessarily say part ways, but it sounds like fear of abandonment and that would cause her to self- sabotage. I'd advise that she seek therapy to get to the root of it. Something is telling her that the relationship is absolutely necessary for her survival. She needs to figure out what that is, why she believes that, and process whatever experience or trauma that has her behaving that way.

 

[King Poetic]

I have come across a few females like that

And from listening to them and their past relationships, they always was in shytty relationships and one coming from a domestic violence situation or dudes was selling them pipe dreams…

Then if u the type of dude with something positive going on and u actually have a good career, stable, truthful , many women will fear in losing that especially if they older women, because they might never come across that type of man again in life

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

She shouldn't fear losing you but she should know you don't fear losing her.

Dap + Rep

All that you need to know.

 

[Serious]

Healthy fear sure but that sounds unhealthy, like she is very insecure as a person

If she's insecure like that, she'll cheat.

 

[JA_Carter]

Maybe not. Are you a fly nikka, OP?

Humbly yes