Is it a good thing if your girl constantly fears losing you no matter how reassuring you are?

Is your girl fearing losing you a good thing?


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the thought of losing me should
drive a bytch to suicide.




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Oh and to answer the question, no it's not good. The couple will never have a healthy relationship if one party is constantly on level 100 about something that's usually irrational. That's a major red flag. If someone finds it flattering they shouldn't because it's just your turn. The insecure person will be like that with everyone they date, you're not special because it's not about you, it's about them


Its definitely a red flag if a man acts like that. But not only is it not bad,its neccessary if its your woman. A woman should be secure about everything involving you,except for the fact she cant possibly lose you.


Its like the fear of death,is a little fear of death a bad thing? Or does it keep people aware,and from doing stupid things? Now a completely irrational fear of death is a different story,and liable to cause problems.
 

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Its like the fear of death,is a little fear of death a bad thing? Or does it keep people aware,and from doing stupid things? Now a completely irrational fear of death is a different story,and liable to cause problems.
Is this how you rationalize raping women at gunpoint?
 

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The woman that told me this I found out she cheated on her first husband and was waiting for karma to come back around for real.
 

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Ok, so... is it possible that her fear is well founded? :jbhmm:

I do everything to reassure her, show DM’s, I’m not talking to any other girl, my words & actions align but because I’m (humbly) a good looking tall dude doing well she thinks I’ll leave her for someone else.

We haven’t seen each other for other a week due to work shyt and she straight up tells me that she fears I’ll leave her for someone else, even though I am 100% faithful to her and try to show her this. Doesn’t help that her friends tell her how handsome I am and she should marry me lol (she’s shown me the messages).

Almost every day I ask her how I can be more reassuring but it doesn’t seem to help. She’s going to start going therapy so hopefully it will help.
 

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Its definitely a red flag if a man acts like that. But not only is it not bad,its neccessary if its your woman. A woman should be secure about everything involving you,except for the fact she cant possibly lose you.


Its like the fear of death,is a little fear of death a bad thing? Or does it keep people aware,and from doing stupid things? Now a completely irrational fear of death is a different story,and liable to cause problems.


It's a red flag for anyone. The part you're not focusing on is the constantly part. That is not healthy for anyone. That means she's going to make that mans life a living hell to due her insecurities. Stop and actually think about that, especially if that man hasn't given her a single reason to be insecure. That's not fair to him or their relationship. Having to constantly reassure someone about something constantly will eventually cause them to leave.

Again, this is not some ego "oh she needs me" braggadocios thing to be proud of. Essentially her mental issues will eventually affect him mentally, sir that is not okay. After that relationship he'll have to "unlearn" the bs he had to "learn" to "keep her happy" which he could never do in the first place. If someone needs constant reassurance, I need the person doing the reassuring to understand they'll be doing that forever unless the other person gets help for their issues or they break up. I hope you never experience it because it's mentally exhausting


Edit- Case in point, the post above mine, who wants to constantly do that? Every day, every phone call, every text message, every interaction with the opposite sex etc? I'd rather be single than do that bs

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I do everything to reassure her, show DM’s, I’m not talking to any other girl, my words & actions align but because I’m (humbly) a good looking tall dude doing well she thinks I’ll leave her for someone else.

We haven’t seen each other for other a week due to work shyt and she straight up tells me that she fears I’ll leave her for someone else, even though I am 100% faithful to her and try to show her this. Doesn’t help that her friends tell her how handsome I am and she should marry me lol (she’s shown me the messages).

Almost every day I ask her how I can be more reassuring but it doesn’t seem to help. She’s going to start going therapy so hopefully it will help.

Im not a fan of internet psychotherapy, especially when we (coli readers) have so little information. I wasnt asking about her mental state, I'm asking about her 'relational state'.

So, to the bold, you've described yourself but what about her? Is she pretty? Is her life/ career going well? Im asking, is she your equal? If not, then her insecurities are based in actual fact and may be better dealt with through other, real life means, ie, a glow up, a job change, etc.
 

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I do everything to reassure her, show DM’s, I’m not talking to any other girl, my words & actions align but because I’m (humbly) a good looking tall dude doing well she thinks I’ll leave her for someone else.

We haven’t seen each other for other a week due to work shyt and she straight up tells me that she fears I’ll leave her for someone else, even though I am 100% faithful to her and try to show her this. Doesn’t help that her friends tell her how handsome I am and she should marry me lol (she’s shown me the messages).

Almost every day I ask her how I can be more reassuring but it doesn’t seem to help. She’s going to start going therapy so hopefully it will help.


Keep up the good work champ. And dont you dare let her go to therapy. You need to have the answers to your womans problems. She obviously doesnt feel shes on your level and maybe shes not,thats for you to know. But this is where you have an oppurtunity to come in. Maybe she does have things she could work on(weight,upkeep,sex,attitude etc) . You encourage her by being honest and telling her things she could work on to make herself even more attractive. This is where you get interested in womens fashion,and tell her ways she could dress to be even more desirable. This truly is the only solution to your problem. Women have strong intuition,women know when they aint perfect,but we refuse to tell them. Your refusal to point out solutions to the obvious can make you untrustworthy:respect:
 
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She’ll cheat out of fear that you’re going to leave her anyway. A girl like this can’t stand to be alone. So she’ll be the type to hop from d1ck to d1ck. Avoid her.




That's exactly I did to my ex (the one from last Summer).



I always was under the impression that she would leave me/go back to her ex husband so i hoed myself out out of insecurity and fear.



Man your boy was broken as fidduck.



And the sad reality is that she eventually broke up with me because of my issues of her leaving.



Sad shiit... manifested my own relationship destiny when all i had to do was just relax and enjoy my time with her.




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