Is it a good thing if your girl constantly fears losing you no matter how reassuring you are?

[JA_Carter]

Her insecurities are worse than I thought, seems trying to reassure her has made things worse might have to go couples therapy. Any of y'all done that before?

 

[Chrishaune]

Is she cheating breh? Has she cheated?

 

[JA_Carter]

Is she cheating breh? Has she cheated?

Says she hasn’t but she keeps thinking I’ll find someone better whenever we spend time apart

 

[Lord Bison]

Says she hasn’t but she keeps thinking I’ll find someone better whenever we spend time apart

Might as well make her worst nightmare come true at this point. Or else you will spend more time trying to prove you care about her rather than just simply enjoying each other's company

 

[Cryptocurrency Scarface]

Clingyness and over attachment are never good they lead to toxic exes who slash your tyres stalk you and worse

 

[Still Benefited]

Dark skin, which is exactly my type

She may have inner problems out of your scope. This is what happens when you live in the world of white supremacy, and colorism is apart of the white supremacy pyramid.


You need to inform her that her problems are white supremacy. Then you need to explain to her the technologies of melanin,and how her skin pigment increases her connection to the universe. Mostly if she has the combo of neuro melanin. Having this power,her negative thoughts are highly capable of destroying her reality

 

[Bmezy]

Weak!

 

[karim]

I do everything to reassure her, show DM’s, I’m not talking to any other girl, my words & actions align but because I’m (humbly) a good looking tall dude doing well she thinks I’ll leave her for someone else.

We haven’t seen each other for other a week due to work shyt and she straight up tells me that she fears I’ll leave her for someone else, even though I am 100% faithful to her and try to show her this. Doesn’t help that her friends tell her how handsome I am and she should marry me lol (she’s shown me the messages).

Almost every day I ask her how I can be more reassuring but it doesn’t seem to help. She’s going to start going therapy so hopefully it will help.

Take it from somebody who has been there, this isn't going to end well - her insecurity will become toxic and you're either submitting to her constant attempts to control her (you're already on your way to doing that showing her your DMs and asking her how you can be more reassuring) or it's going to become an endless battle of you fighting her attempts to control you. Either way, the relationship is doomed. If she's not willing to work on her insecurities (and it's only her who can do something about that, nothing you will do will ever be enough) leave.

 

[maxamusa]

breh you make an insecure thread about the same broad every other month.....people keep giving you glasses to see the red flags but you won't wear em

 

[Still Benefited]

Insecure chicks are always premptively getting their revenge for some shyt that hasnt or may never happen, because they fear being hurt again more than maintaining a relationship. If they cant keep you around, in their mind at least they got shyt off 1st.

questionable amount of male friends and male "cousins" and always attempting to make you jealous and insecure like them by making sure you see them being 'overly cordial" and investing way too much intimate energy in their interactions with them even though you're suppose to be their man. It's all a way to sieze control.

the good thing is they will easily give up the sex at every opportunity to keep the affirmations coming and to maintain that temporary feeling of having asecure relationship or close bond, but it always washes over the moment you try to leave her presence or focus your attention else where for any reason.

I've gotten so much spontaneous, unprompted head cause a chick didnt want me to go into my shift @ work; she would suck, swallow, burp, keep sucking til it got hard again, and and then ride me like an apex savage literally for 2-3 hours over and over, straight up draining my ass of any motivation to do anything productive or responsible. Then she kept a nikka fed with unlimited Pizzas, Fried chicek etc. I'd lose all sense of time being in a constant dopamine loop of busting nuts and eating good. I'm getting what I want and she's getting what she wants.

after a while you will start to confuse it for being an actual functional relationship. but you've been lured in by her siren call. That bytch is just showering you with everything to keep you reaffirming her worth as a human being and all the fukking, sucking, playstations and free food in the world will not be enough to stick around because being responsible for another person's self worth is draining.

If thats your woman you are responsible for her self worth. People who are takers,often feel drained by the thought of having to give.


This is why our modern women are the way they are. Give give give,sacrifice,sacrifice,sacrifice. And the man gets bored,or drained by her mere emotions. Greedy,grabby,cold,unempathatic women ,who could care less about a black mans emotions is our penance#TheseAreOurFrankensteins

 

[WaveWhisperer]

Her insecurities are worse than I thought, seems trying to reassure her has made things worse might have to go couples therapy. Any of y'all done that before?

Starting to reapply for that job that you already have i see?

 

[Kuma the Bear]

How long have you been with this girl? If it's been a long-term relationship then couples therapy would be best although ideally, she should be the one to undergo therapy as it would assist her in overcoming any insecurities or relationship doubts.

If it's been a short-term so far, you might have to create your exit plan

 

[JA_Carter]

How long have you been with this girl? If it's been a long-term relationship then couples therapy would be best although ideally, she should be the one to undergo therapy as it would assist her in overcoming any insecurities or relationship doubts.

If it's been a short-term so far, you might have to create your exit plan

We’ve been together since August

 

[karim]

We’ve been together since August

You're thinking about going to couples therapy with a girl you haven't even been dating for half a year? Are you out of your fukking mind?

 

[JA_Carter]

You're thinking about going to couples therapy with a girl you haven't even been dating for half a year? Are you out of your fukking mind?

Lol I’ve dated enough women to know that despite her insecurities she’s special and I don’t want to throw things away just like that. I’d rather try everything I can to make things work so I have no regrets