Is it wrong to cheat if your wife stops giving you some?

[old_timer]

when i was a kid, i used to write fake letters to advice columns
i got some of them published
just saying..

Do you think the wife is wrong for withholding sex (no matter the reasoning behind it)?

i wouldn't cheat- i would just terminate the relationship

i discussed my libido with my fiancee (yes, i'm engaged now.. woo!) before appetizers arrived on first date
i specifically screened her for sexual compatibility in many explicit ways
so.. our sex life falling apart for non-medical reasons would be a dealbreaker

marriage includes exposure- and i exposed my needs
so her striking at that to get back at me would be so low i would just end it
because it would be calling my bluff.. and i am not bluffing

some things aren't negotiable
same if your marriage is based on a shared religious faith, and then one person goes atheist
or if a man and woman marry, and then the husband wants to be a woman,
it's okay for the wife to say "...but i'm heterosexual, and i didn't know i was marrying another woman, so this doesn't work for me"

marriage vows include better or worse
that means we both get old, our muscle mass changes, our mental acuity diminishes, we might get promoted at work or laid off, etc.
it doesn't include one person totally changing the game and expecting the other to capitulate

 

[StickStickly]

I don't think it's a case of "playing with men". Men forget that women have a different reproductive system than them. It's been proven over and over that sex drive can significantly decrease after the birth of a child. It's not from the exhaustion of having a child or thinking "I have my kid now I'm done". Most women aren't thinking of that, they're aren't thinking about sex at all because their hormonal system has changed. Think about it: your entire system is rearranged after childbirth, from your hormones to your uterus and vagina, to the way your brains works in switching to a maternal mindset subconsciously. None of these things are a choice and often people can't put their finger on what's wrong. The wife not wanting sex now is as natural to her as the man wanting sex. This is why the single childless woman is hornier- her body hasn't gone through the same trauma. some women's bodies just change after pregnancy and childbirth. The problem is it breaks their social agreement. Whether that means he should have sex outside the marriage is debatable, but she's not trying to hold his hostage in an evil, manipulative manner. She just doesn't want it anymore.

 

[StickStickly]

Dp

 

[the cac mamba]

. Nothing works. I’m a Christian man, so I’ve prayed about this, but nothing has changed.

 

[Address_Unknown]

This a million times.

Unfortunately some of these chicks hit you with that cold shoulder shyt which sorta puts you in a "Damned if you, damned if you don't" scenario 'cause unless you got proof that she's cheating (She prolly is) and you cheat, you're the dog despite her hidden indiscretion which drove you to that shyt. If you don't cheat, congrats, you're in a loveless relationship with a chick who ain't fukking you, ain't giving you a reason why she ain't fukking you and you're pretty much just supporting her 'cause if she was supporting you and got tired of you, best believe you getting cut.

 

[Address_Unknown]

Double Post.

 

[malbaker86]

It's obviou she's cheating on em and he being a sissy and staying around as oppose to leaving and being happy and free.

 

[Sccit]

No

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[Sccit]

No

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[Address_Unknown]

This a million times.

Unfortunately some of these chicks hit you with that cold shoulder shyt which sorta puts you in a "Damned if you, damned if you don't" scenario 'cause unless you got proof that she's cheating (She prolly is) and you cheat, you're the dog despite her hidden indiscretion which drove you to that shyt. If you don't cheat, congrats, you're in a loveless relationship with a chick who ain't fukking you, ain't giving you a reason why she ain't fukking you and you're pretty much just supporting her 'cause if she was supporting you and got tired of you for whatever reason, best believe you getting cut.

 

[Colicat]

when i was a kid, i used to write fake letters to advice columns
i got some of them published
just saying..



i wouldn't cheat- i would just terminate the relationship

i discussed my libido with my fiancee (yes, i'm engaged now.. woo!) before appetizers arrived on first date
i specifically screened her for sexual compatibility in many explicit ways
so.. our sex life falling apart for non-medical reasons would be a dealbreaker

marriage includes exposure- and i exposed my needs
so her striking at that to get back at me would be so low i would just end it
because it would be calling my bluff.. and i am not bluffing

some things aren't negotiable
same if your marriage is based on a shared religious faith, and then one person goes atheist
or if a man and woman marry, and then the husband wants to be a woman,
it's okay for the wife to say "...but i'm heterosexual, and i didn't know i was marrying another woman, so this doesn't work for me"

marriage vows include better or worse
that means we both get old, our muscle mass changes, our mental acuity diminishes, we might get promoted at work or laid off, etc.
it doesn't include one person totally changing the game and expecting the other to capitulate

Congrats on your engagement!!!

 

[Uncle Kendrick]

That's his wife right?

Instead of complaining he should just take it without asking alpha male style.

 

[Will Ross]

Is it right no is it understandable yes.

 

[Dr. Acula]

Nah no side man.

She put on loads of weight after her child, got depressed and then thought she had the golden p*ssy, that he should beg for any....

We told her, if you don't give it someone else will.

She kind of knows about the side piece, seen bills with hundreds of text to the number, even got the number but never called to ask the score.

Sex isn't a barganing chip. Grown adults shouldnt have to play teenage games to have sex i.e. Being expected to beg to feed her petty ego.

Your friend is delusional on top of that when to be honest her attractiveness is on a downward spiral and she is adding shytty attitude on top of that.

 

[O.G.B]

I don't think it's a case of "playing with men". Men forget that women have a different reproductive system than them. It's been proven over and over that sex drive can significantly decrease after the birth of a child. It's not from the exhaustion of having a child or thinking "I have my kid now I'm done". Most women aren't thinking of that, they're aren't thinking about sex at all because their hormonal system has changed. Think about it: your entire system is rearranged after childbirth, from your hormones to your uterus and vagina, to the way your brains works in switching to a maternal mindset subconsciously. None of these things are a choice and often people can't put their finger on what's wrong. The wife not wanting sex now is as natural to her as the man wanting sex. This is why the single childless woman is hornier- her body hasn't gone through the same trauma. some women's bodies just change after pregnancy and childbirth. The problem is it breaks their social agreement. Whether that means he should have sex outside the marriage is debatable, but she's not trying to hold his hostage in an evil, manipulative manner. She just doesn't want it anymore.

Just because some women may have hormone issues to where they are no longer interested in sex doesn't exclude the vast majority of women who also choose not to have sex with their husbands based on petty, spiteful reasons or the fact that they are no longer attracted physically to their husband.