Is it wrong to cheat if your wife stops giving you some?

[wickedsm]

@BlackPearl @wickedsm
Why y'all dap this?

you know black men dont applaud hoe shyt
thats some white people shyt for sure that a woman takin a million dikks is some sort of "liberation" or accomplishment.
we [black women] have real oppression in our lives, real issues to face
not these made up issues of boohoo slut shaming

ive said it before, they dont face any real discrimination so theyre always making some shyt up
they love playing victim and pretending to be persecuted.



*amber rose and some other ig thots who are on that bullshyt dont speak for the rest of us

 

[The Wolf Among You]

you know black men dont applaud hoe shyt
thats some white people shyt for sure that a woman takin a million dikks is some sort of "liberation" or accomplishment.
we [black women] have real oppression in our lives, real issues to face
not these made up issues of boohoo slut shaming

ive said it before, they dont face any real discrimination so theyre always making some shyt up
they love playing victim and pretending to be persecuted.



*amber rose and some other ig thots who are on that bullshyt dont speak for the rest of us

 

[Gold]

Do you think the wife is wrong for withholding sex (no matter the reasoning behind it)?

Unless the reason is marital rape or dv, yes absolutely. That's a different kind of unfaithfulness.
Most women honestly do not understand a man's sexual needs (notice I said needs, not wants).

No hyperbole, if my wife withholds sex from me, i'm divorcing her


No way i'm ending up like these brehs who haven't sex in years.

 

[scarlxrd]

certainly a case-by-case basis. If she doesn't want to continue the relationship, make arrangements to end it but don't play the games. Withholding sex will never play out how women think it will. A week? Sure, but more than that, you're about to fukk your whole world up.

Either we work past it or let's end it. :datea:

 

[StickStickly]

Just because some women may have hormone issues to where they are no longer interested in sex doesn't exclude the vast majority of women who also choose not to have sex with their husbands based on petty, spiteful reasons or the fact that they are no longer attracted physically to their husband.

He didn't mention petty or spiteful reasons though. His lack of info shows that there's probably a physiological reason in her for not wanting sex.

She may know he's cheating. It's not hard to find out. Men act different when they cheat, and even the most careful people can leave a hint. That's definitely a sex drive killer for women. Why would she want sex if she knows he is lying to her? Why should she? Of course that's all speculation because he doesn't say if his wife knows or has suspicions. Maybe she knows and doesn't care but that still warrants a physiological response like a psychological barrier to getting in the mood.

Iof your wife is being spiteful, that's a different subject. But I don't think that's the "vast majority" of women are trying all that. Despite what people think, a lot of women just aren't that evil or calculating with men they love. It's just the men's perception that she's withholding because she's mean. They think if she's making excuses, she's mean because she's ignoring and dismissing his needs. If you dig deeper, there's always some issue there- like resentment for some issue, usually a lost of trust. But yeah you're right if she's holding it over his head like a currency, that's not a hormonal issue . That's a personality issue (unless she's using it as an excuse and is too prideful to admit she just isn't interested anymore). However in the situation in the op and for lots of women who love their husbands and their marriage, hormonal and physiological changes will kill your desire.

 

[#SOG_soldier]

@#SOG_soldier we need some insight breh

I'm grown. I do as I please

 

[The Mad Titan]

He didn't mention petty or spiteful reasons though. His lack of info shows that there's probably a physiological reason in her for not wanting sex.

She may know he's cheating. It's not hard to find out. Men act different when they cheat, and even the most careful people can leave a hint. That's definitely a sex drive killer for women. Why would she want sex if she knows he is lying to her? Why should she? Of course that's all speculation because he doesn't say if his wife knows or has suspicions. Maybe she knows and doesn't care but that still warrants a physiological response like a psychological barrier to getting in the mood.

Iof your wife is being spiteful, that's a different subject. But I don't think that's the "vast majority" of women are trying all that. Despite what people think, a lot of women just aren't that evil or calculating with men they love. It's just the men's perception that she's withholding because she's mean. They think if she's making excuses, she's mean because she's ignoring and dismissing his needs. If you dig deeper, there's always some issue there- like resentment for some issue, usually a lost of trust. But yeah you're right if she's holding it over his head like a currency, that's not a hormonal issue . That's a personality issue (unless she's using it as an excuse and is too prideful to admit she just isn't interested anymore). However in the situation in the op and for lots of women who love their husbands and their marriage, hormonal and physiological changes will kill your desire.

Yall libido is crazy random, I've watch female friends go all over the place when it comes to there sexual wants. I mean from super freak to I dont even really want it or think about it and everything in between. Like what happen?!?! and it'll be something like simple like I dont like the way my body looks naked I'm just not really into sex like that anymore.

I've gone for over a year with no sex and I was a horny every single day Dont think I've really gone more than a month otherwise.


But yeah I wonder how many women fall victim to hormones and dont even realize how much certain things like birth control, food, diet, and exercise can change sexual desire.

 

[Kane]

I think a spouse is obligated to sexually satisfy their partner.

Cheating is never a "good" thing but you can't refuse to give your partner sex and not expect bad things to happen.

 

[cocoabutter27]

Hormonal issues can definitely play a part, but its mainly the emotional connection the woman feels for the man. A woman can cheat all day (she probably is), but still love him. It is the respect that's missing and that has to do with how emotionally connected she is. He turned her off somewhere, refused to acknowledge and fix it and she went cold. Men act like they don't see the signs. She just didn't wake up one morning and stop desiring him.

 

[Larry Lambo]

It's wrong to cheat, but a discussion will be had.

No sex, no marriage. Now if she's going through a traumatic time then of course I'll stick it out. But after 4-6 months she's gotta put out or the relationship will be over.

 

[O.G.B]

He didn't mention petty or spiteful reasons though. His lack of info shows that there's probably a physiological reason in her for not wanting sex.

She may know he's cheating. It's not hard to find out. Men act different when they cheat, and even the most careful people can leave a hint. That's definitely a sex drive killer for women. Why would she want sex if she knows he is lying to her? Why should she? Of course that's all speculation because he doesn't say if his wife knows or has suspicions. Maybe she knows and doesn't care but that still warrants a physiological response like a psychological barrier to getting in the mood.

Iof your wife is being spiteful, that's a different subject. But I don't think that's the "vast majority" of women are trying all that. Despite what people think, a lot of women just aren't that evil or calculating with men they love. It's just the men's perception that she's withholding because she's mean. They think if she's making excuses, she's mean because she's ignoring and dismissing his needs. If you dig deeper, there's always some issue there- like resentment for some issue, usually a lost of trust. But yeah you're right if she's holding it over his head like a currency, that's not a hormonal issue . That's a personality issue (unless she's using it as an excuse and is too prideful to admit she just isn't interested anymore). However in the situation in the op and for lots of women who love their husbands and their marriage, hormonal and physiological changes will kill your desire.

You make some valid points. However, just because the husband didn't mention any "petty" or "spiteful" reasons based on his wife not wanting to have sex doesn't mean that there aren't any that may be looming in his wifes mind. And the "vast majority" of married women do at one time or another withhold sex from their husbands to gain some time of benefit or control. And based on the story, the wifes problem isn't hormonal because if this were the case, the woman would have at least seen a doctor as well, especially since the couple has already been to counseling/therapy. Therefore, this tells me that more than likely the woman is no longer attracted to her man & may want sex, just not with him or is possibly getting her sexual needs fulfilled elsewhere.

 

[CouldntBeMeTho]

I don't believe in cheating, but if we talked about it and she never told me the reason she's freezing up on me like this shyt, I'll have to let her know that I'm either pushing for a divorce or I'm going to find some chick that's cool with it and get it in elsewhere. If she ain't already having it with some other dude, she'd atleast let a breh know where he's fukking up in an effort to fix himself if it can be amended, right?
If it's one thing I HATE from chicks, is getting that cold shoulder and being put in the dark over bullshyt. You like another dude? Fine, just let me know so I can pack my shyt and keep it moving.

This

 

[CouldntBeMeTho]

Oh, please. You males are humans, not animals. Acting out?

Y'all gone start howling and beating ya chest

Hell yea

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

I don't think it's a case of "playing with men". Men forget that women have a different reproductive system than them. It's been proven over and over that sex drive can significantly decrease after the birth of a child. It's not from the exhaustion of having a child or thinking "I have my kid now I'm done". Most women aren't thinking of that, they're aren't thinking about sex at all because their hormonal system has changed. Think about it: your entire system is rearranged after childbirth, from your hormones to your uterus and vagina, to the way your brains works in switching to a maternal mindset subconsciously. None of these things are a choice and often people can't put their finger on what's wrong. The wife not wanting sex now is as natural to her as the man wanting sex. This is why the single childless woman is hornier- her body hasn't gone through the same trauma. some women's bodies just change after pregnancy and childbirth. The problem is it breaks their social agreement. Whether that means he should have sex outside the marriage is debatable, but she's not trying to hold his hostage in an evil, manipulative manner. She just doesn't want it anymore.

 

[GrindtooFilthy]

the only reason i can say you might choose to not divorce is because you have kids but otherwise might as well leave the marriage if she gone play games like this