Even if you’re educated and have a good job, it’s off putting if someone asks you that within the first 30 seconds of meeting them.
Is The DMV Area The Best Place For A Single Breh?
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Even if you’re educated and have a good job, it’s off putting if someone asks you that within the first 30 seconds of meeting them.
There is a whole huge native blk population in DC that is hood or regular degular.
The transplants are the bougie. The locals are the ones beating feet and listening to go go.
These 2 populations rarely interact which I think is interesting.
I know this super attractive chick from Silver Spring who I would love to introduce to a bougie but she's not refined enough. The man she's dealing with now is trash. She can do soo much better. She actually has a cool personality.
And I’m sure Oakland nikkaz would say the same about SF. That comparison wasn’t to say that at all. They just compliment one another well.
We're not there to compliment DC. DC is "out of town" to most people in Baltimore.
Nothing against you personally, but it seems that perception doesnt meet reality.
Yeah and they’re not even wealthy. That’s the annoying part. They have good paying jobs and the vast majority would experience severe financial distress if they were unemployed for an extended period. If you’re actually privileged and from here you know the really wealthy are the cacs who give their kids Ferraris and Porsches to drive in HS.
Yeah, it's funny how folks have a lot in common, in theory, but nothing in common in practice.
Pretty much every place I've worked - Black "poor" locals don't really hang with black rich locals, and Black "rich" transplants don't really hang with Black "rich" locals.
But they work for the same employers, go to the same bars, clubs, and restaurants.
Same with Houston, San Antonio, DFW, Austin (and honestly NYC) - but none of those places are particularly accommodating for transients. Maybe some dating here and there, but there's always a little bit of social distance.
It's not really clear to me what a real welcoming city would actually look like tbh.
I think folks don't really have a clear definition of what it should be either.
They don’t interact because many of the bougie transplants are unbearable. They like to one up each other based on their job titles and look down on people who they think are below them or less educated. Even if you’re on the same level as them financially or education wise, it’s annoying being around people who think like that.
Back when The Park was popping (Obama era, *sheds a tear*), it was the same GS-15s from Silver Spring trying to "out diploma" the Big Firm transplants. Don't let the CBC folks roll through.
To me, that's just DC and everywhere with the highly pedigreed who feel (and are) underpaid. Same happened in NYC. And honestly, I think that's largely a female thing. They rank each other, and they rank all the dudes.
In my experience, The saddity DC locals were not trying to hit the Go Go spots either. Rather see what's popping with the AKA grad chapter or The Links than fall through Horace and dikkies.
I run into cats my age that used to live in my neighborhood i SE, but when they came up on some change, they took that money out to PG county and further afield.
That's just normal to me. At home in Houston, if you had enough money to make it out of South Park and live in Mo City or Sugarland - you did. More space, quieter neighbors, less BS....
All that aside, imo DMV is a great area to find a woman with a good job and head on her shoulders. Like if you ready to buy a house and start a family...
But in terms of dating....
I dunno. Breh look kinda young. If I was that age and listening to this stuff, I might have a super positive outlook
But this is more my speed
Back when The Park was popping (Obama era, *sheds a tear*), it was the same GS-15s from Silver Spring trying to "out diploma" the Big Firm transplants. Don't let the CBC folks roll through.
To me, that's just DC and everywhere with the highly pedigreed who feel (and are) underpaid. Same happened in NYC. And honestly, I think that's largely a female thing. They rank each other, and they rank all the dudes.
In my experience, The saddity DC locals were not trying to hit the Go Go spots either. Rather see what's popping with the AKA grad chapter or The Links than fall through Horace and dikkies.
I run into cats my age that used to live in my neighborhood i SE, but when they came up on some change, they took that money out to PG county and further afield.
That's just normal to me. At home in Houston, if you had enough money to make it out of South Park and live in Mo City or Sugarland - you did. More space, quieter neighbors, less BS....
All that aside, imo DMV is a great area to find a woman with a good job and head on her shoulders. Like if you ready to buy a house and start a family...
But in terms of dating....
Yeah on paper you can find a woman that checks those boxes in DC. But if you’re also factoring in a generally pleasant personality and above average looks, the vast majority of those women are already taken.
No. You are so negative.
I am one if the rare transplants that dabbles in both crowds.
The 2 populations just have different interests which is why they don't mix.
AKA
You lunchin'. Whole time it's just a difference in interests Mo.
Locals vacation in Deep Creek, Ocean City
Transplants catch a flight
Locals listen to GoGo
Transplants don't listen to GoGo
Locals have large crab boils parties
Transplants have BBQs
Locals love 4 wheelers and dirt bikes
Transplants would never lol
Locals go to their neighborhood bar
Transplants go to wine bars in DC
Locals open up soul food restaurants
Transplants open up wine bars.
DC transplants have their own culture. It's actually relatively easy to break into it. You just gives them nikkas the lastest fancy beer or a bottle of wine and your good money.
I’ve been in this area my entire life and speaking from personal experiences and what people I know including multi generational DC natives have shared.
Did someone mention my name?
There’s more overlap between transplants and locals in MoCo/pg. but yeah in DC there’s almost no social overlap
More so Oakland to SF is what Brooklyn is the Manhattan.
Just want to repeat and emphasize the bolded;
Early 2010's DMV was undefeated!!
All the black downtown clubs like Ibiza were still open. Plenty of hotel parties on the outskirts like Crystal City too!
Really didn't appreciate the life I was living and took the fun I was having for granted a bit.
Now everything is gentrified and the rough areas are TOO rough now.
True! Something a lil understated;
You can smash a lot of married chicks in the DMV (especially the VA side); that hasn't changed at all since I been here in 2009.
I actually had a lil run where the women I was meeting were either married or former DMV video vixens/current escorts for right price
