Because a lot of partners aren't honest when they communicate.How about you…oh I dunno…establish some healthy communication and explore with one another.
Naaaahhhhhh Choke dat hoe!
I’ll never understand why people over complicate this shyt.
Also will somebody make a thread on Madonna/whore complexes b/c I got questions.
I do think it’s true that some women want freaky shyt but they are afraid to be judged by their partners so they do it with others.
Likewise, some men wanna do kinky shyt but they end up compartmentalizing and doing that with outside chicks.
So you got two idiots in a relationship together, afraid to smut each other out for whatever asinine reason, so they only fukk the way they wanna fukk with others and what…give each other wack ass sex and stress?!
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Why not just be open with your partner and do all the freaky stuff you wanna do with the person you have a trusting relationship with.
It makes long-term relationships look like prisons if you are set up like that.
Some if it is shame, which you acknowledge.
A lot of it is also arousal. Some women may like to do it... but their partner doesn't really inspire it in them. Hence why they do it for the outside guy. (This goes both ways, guys do freaky shyt outside too).
It's also dominance thing. You may not see it or want to admit it, but a lotta women hate when the guy has to ask if they can do something. They find it a turn off. It takes them out of the moment.



and that nikka who thought she was a good girl going be like 
"who hell you been fukkin?" And she's going be all
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Tbf, we met 'just fukking'. There was no shame bc we didn't realize anything serious would come of it. He knows my number, the nikkas I fw before him, all that.

so yeah, it's probably one of the top 3 most important traits to find in a person, or at least it is to me. I know a lot of unsatisfied women in relationships though so I can't project and say it weighs the same for everybody.