Is This Really "Abuse"?

[bogey_j]

Two nights ago, i was telling my husband to clear up his closet for the painter to paint. he said that he doesnt want anyone painting the closet. He knew we were paying this guy to paint. I said, well, it has to be done. He started yelling at me. I got mad and said, well, you are going to sleep here tonight and in the morning you are going to fold the blankets and put pillows away so the guy can paint this room and your closet. He got up, grabbed me from the shoulders and pinned me against the wall to the point that the dry wall broke. he then pushed me on the couch and started yelling in my face saying that he is my husband and he wants me to respect him. ofcourse i wasnt gonna say anything. i told him to grab his things and move out or i will call the police. the problem is that few min later, i felt bad and told him that he shouldnt leave. i started crying, he apologized. This is the first big thing that has happened. usually, he either just grabs me and throws me on the bed or throws a piece of paper in my face (whenever i disrespect him). he now feels sorry but neck and spin hurt. i am so confused, what should i do? i feel like this is going to get worse. we were young when we got married but my husband has a border line passive agressive personality. he never tells me straight up he doesnt want to do things, he procrastinates and takes his time. he is never wrong and i am always wrong. i never understand him. And he always threatens that he is fed up with my emotions and he wants to leave. what is wrong with us?

Husband pinned me down against the wall two nights ago

@the bold

the smugness emanating from that one line 'you are going to sleep here tonight and in the morning you are going to fold the blankets and put pillows away' that would have set me off too. fukk this bytch. if she was used to talking down to him like that on a regular basis, i'd say this whole situation probably turned her on anyway. her husband finally grew some balls

 

[Emperor Sol]

It's abusive, yes, however....

A woman like that only knows how to choose destruction. That poor sap probably didn't even know it and the woman drove him to want to toss her around.

I'm sure that it's possible that the man is just abusive for no particular reason, but when you try to talk down to a man as though he were a child, it begs the question: who's really doing the abusing here? Many women are liars and very secretive about the fact that they aren't shyt. Men don't even try to hide not being shyt, because it's not like they can.

Stay away fellas.

 

[the mechanic]

the smugness emanating from that one line 'you are going to sleep here tonight and in the morning you are going to fold the blankets and put pillows away' that would have set me off too. fukk this bytch. if she talked down to him like that on a regular basis, this whole situation probably turned her on anyway. her husband finally grew some balls

Yes its Abuse...every time you use violence to get compliance its abuse...Thats not manly or "growing balls" or whatever you wanna call it.

 

[marcuz]

yeah, it's abuse. he had no right puttin his hand on her just because she said something he didn't agree with.

 

[Binary]

Yup, I'd on him.

 

[the mechanic]

It's abusive, yes, however....

A woman like that only knows how to choose destruction. That poor sap probably didn't even know it and the woman drove him to want to toss her around.

I'm sure that it's possible that the man is just abusive for no particular reason, but when you try to talk down to a man as though he were a child, it begs the question: who's really doing the abusing here? Many women are liars and very secretive about the fact that they aren't shyt. Men don't even try to hide not being shyt, because it's not like they can.

Stay away fellas.

I agree she is normalizing it..perhaps deep down shes one of those damaged bytches who dont feel right unless someone is smacking them but lets not act like he cant choose to remain civil or bounce.

 

[Illuminatos]

Yes...

 

[Emperor Sol]

I agree she is normalizing it..perhaps deep down shes one of those damaged bytches who dont feel right unless someone is smacking them but lets not act like he cant choose to remain civil or bounce.

I'm not saying this man is shyt - he isn't. A man that would hit his wife couldn't possibly be shyt. I'm just saying that this woman isn't shyt either, because she chose a man who isn't shyt.

The only way a normal man that was raised properly would abuse a woman like this is if:

a) his woman somehow drove him to it by arousing demonic energies within him, or;
b) he was never shyt to begin with, and if the lady who got with him was paying more attention she would have been able to see it

It's very easy to tell when a nikka ain't shyt. It's even easier to tell when these bytches aren't shyt either since women tend to be more overt with this fukkery.

Y'all aren't marriage minded, so of course you can't see a problem-child when it's right in front of your face. Marriage today is a bad investment simply because of people like this who are unwilling to choose wisely. You only think about who gets your dikks hard or your pussies wet without thinking about what it would actually mean to start a relationship with these people. All you do is think with your genitals. No wonder so many of these relationships end in divorce.

It's common knowledge that men can be civil and treat their women right if they put their minds to it. It's not so commonly understood of a fact that if women just made better choices in men, they wouldn't get into the messes they get in today. If y'all were really choosing quality men who are as good as you lie yourselves into believing, your men wouldn't be beating you and worshiping the Devil. I'm getting tired of hearing about men beating their wives when there are plenty of quality men out there that could have been better for these women from the get-go. Why can't y'all choose better?

Spoiler

It's only a matter of time before I'm crucified for "victim blaming" or some shyt, since I know there are CACs among us

 

[Toe Jay Simpson]

Maaaan. There is nothing worse than a woman telling her side of the story.

I got mad and said, well, you are going to sleep here tonight and in the morning you are going to fold the blankets and put pillows away so the guy can paint this room and your closet

I told that nikka "you are a loser, and since you too busy frying chicken for a living you might as well let a real man come and handle your responsibilities after you catch the bus like a weak nikka tomorrow." Since he had so much mouth I told him "you can sleep by yoself tonight and that it better be clean by the time you get up cause I'm not finna do it...like I'm your maid or something...see that's the problem ya mama didn't know how to raise no man and that's why you ain't nobody today"

*leaves the room and comes back 10 minutes later*

"See that's why I shouldn't have got with you, my home girls tried to tell me you wasn't about no lifestyle. You ain't even got no money, you can't even pay the phone bill on time I got to act like we got bad service when my family call cause you can't even pay your bills on time and take care of your family. I shoulda stayed with Tony, Tony knew how to treat a lady and Tony knew how to handle me in bed too and he..."

*gets hemmed up against the wall*

 

[msims]

@ you coli nikkas.

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[The BasedFather]

He only pushed her through the wall

She would've got the Torture Rack and tossed out the second floor window for disrespecting me like that.

She got off lucky.

 

[Brofato]

I don't see it as abuse just yet but it's certainly getting there.

"border line passive agressive personality". There ain't shyt passive about slamming your wife into a wall. She will be a sad news story one day and there's probably not much anyone can do about it.

 

[Binary]

I don't see it as abuse just yet but it's certainly getting there.

"border line passive agressive personality". There ain't shyt passive about slamming your wife into a wall. She will be a sad news story one day and there's probably not much anyone can do about it.

Well she can leave but I feel like she's one of those battered women so she'll stay till he kills her or injure her very badly.

 

[marcuz]

Yup, I'd on him.

you gotta hair hat on?

 

[MikelArteta]

Marriage destroys most men, only so long you can take that constantly nagging before you snap

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