Depends on your dynamic with your wife. If you want her to be in her feminine nature, you have to assume this role. Or make more than her, while she works. But this is only for specific women, not all.
Now if you’re just in the “talking” stage that’s another story.
FIND yourself a Pick Me black woman and call it a life.
Don't try to cuff delusional feminists that negotiate on catering to you.