Let me spit some final mumbo jumbo farrakonvict on this-I asked directly what you're controlling or getting your way with, you gonna answer or not?
Your subconscious/inner driver/ part of your soul that is connected to The Eternal, or whatever you want to call it, yearns for reward and a sense of achievement in your current manifestation. If you grant it that with the easiest of things it loses motivation to go for better. I discovered this with financial goals but it probably also applies to women of your choosing. Ultimately, everyone should get what they want and are happy with. Nobody cares. Live the life you want.