It’s a special type of resentment that builds in you when your own family is against you.

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Y’all know my story by now Engineer trying pursue music

Lost my job a while back but luckily I got hired by the military & don’t start until a few months from now

But during the process of my unemployment my parents kept constantly telling me to quit music I’ll never make it. I think it was a few weeks ago when my mom said some shyt that pushed over the edge. Her words “If you were any good you would be famous by now”

But we all know this industry doesn’t respect talent just money and clout and some of you heard my shyt and can attest I’m not trash.

Lowkey had me thinking I think I’m halfway done with my family. Cause at this point they just pissing me off
 

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You gotta add more details. How long have you been trying to pursue music? How old are you? Has pursuing music caused you to miss other opportunities or to miss out on money, which then puts a burden on someone else?
I fund myself no help from anyone. I Lowkey spent close to a hundred thousand already but that’s just on building myself up, getting the right equipment, networking and events etc. I haven’t missed out on anything career wise, except when I got laid off. I’m 28 currently but I started taking it seriously and putting in money when I was 25. I have no real obligations. No wife or kids I’m single.
Your family is just trying to look out for you breh
Getting my engineering degree was the toughest thing I had to do in my life with no help from them, they can’t offer me anything I can’t already do for myself

Your parents are right :ufdup:



0.0000000001% chance at making a living making being a musician
6 degrees separation, I’ve already been able to put myself into position and rub shoulders with some big names. I just need the right guidance to help make sure I’m not going the wrong way
 

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Breh if Engineering wasn’t your folks field of course they wouldn’t be able to help you
 

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I fund myself no help from anyone. I Lowkey spent close to a hundred thousand already but that’s just on building myself up, getting the right equipment, networking and events etc. I haven’t missed out on anything career wise, except when I got laid off. I’m 28 currently but I started taking it seriously and putting in money when I was 25. I have no real obligations. No wife or kids I’m single.

Getting my engineering degree was the toughest thing I had to do in my life with no help from them, they can’t offer me anything I can’t already do for myself


6 degrees separation, I’ve already been able to put myself into position and rub shoulders with some big names. I just need the right guidance to help make sure I’m not going the wrong way
I wish you luck, breh.
 

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Breh if Engineering wasn’t your folks field of course they wouldn’t be able to help you
Yeah but here’s my gripe, if I was able to figure that out by myself then they should award me the same type of faith regardless of whatever endeavor I pursue be it Music, Engineering, business etc.
 

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OP..

I'm not gonna try to claim that I know your family, but plz understand that your Moms was trying to be honest and upfront with you about your situation despite the abrasive and condescending tone/delivery of her opinion about your musical talent.

Sometimes, some mother's and other family members don't think about the feelings of their kids, especially their sons. But, I will say that if you feel you may need to fall back for awhile then I understand and do that..

I had to do that a lil with my father. Not mad at him, but a lil disappointed about the last 📱 convo we had. It's hard to have a convo with people who poses restrictions and limitations on what can be discussed as well as how it can be discussed.

In a nutshell, can't have convos with people who still look @ you as a child/teen as opposed to a grown ass man. Inflexible people are hard to deal with, but not impossible.

So, yeah, do what you feel is best for your peace of mind. That's what I am doing..

*shrugs*
 
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6 degrees separation, I’ve already been able to put myself into position and rub shoulders with some big names. I just need the right guidance to help make sure I’m not going the wrong way

Rubbing shoulders with big names means nothing, they’re already surrounded by people like you trying to get a break.

Why you wouldn’t get your engineering degree, make good money then you produce your own shyt?
 

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If you're truly independent and not begging your family for money or support how would that conversation even come up?
They must see evidence that the music commitment is negatively impacting other aspects of your life (or it's geniunely trash and they just sick of you injecting it into yall relationship)
 

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What job you gonna do in the military?
 

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Hoo, there are two sides to this and both sting like vinegar on an open cut.

1) For some people seeing you change/chase your dreams makes them feel resentment at the fact they didn't as well as reminding them about the life they live (which most never designed or picked).

2) They see you simply dont have the talent because if you did you'd already have made it because that true bonafide star power, charisma, swag, skills - call it what you wish - announces its presence early on and dominates your existence.

Basically, some people are haters. Others delusional. In the middle there is that slim percent that have earth shaking potential (and know it) but are hemmed in by the incarnational aspects of satan himself. Coal and diamonds, like I said elsewhen.

If you truly got the skills drop something and see what happens, perfect is the enemy of acceptable as that is all it takes. Check:

 

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Before I was able to post on here I heard some beat you did with a Japanese instrument and some other stuff as well. It was fire.

This creative shyt can be a tough road, mostly because it takes most of our own blood, sweat and tears. The average person is used to following a linear path to regular employment. Music mostly isn't that unless you have some connections or musical family from a young age.

You have the engineering gig, so that's making you money. But the real passion is the art. Keep doing what you're doing but don't hold a resentment of them for it. They truly just don't understand.
 
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