It's fukked up to have kids, and then go and start another family and focus on them more

[Big Boss]

Facts

 

[Starman]

Eh. There are only 24hrs in a day. It's only natural that the family you live with gets more time with you. Financially however, you should take care of all of your children wherever they live. And obviously you should never deny/ignore them.

 

[CopiousX]

My grand pop did this (god rest his soul)

Can’t help to think at times if my mom and aunt would have been better positioned in life if he prioritised his initial nuclear family smh

same same same same same…fortunately my pops is a decent man…she’s always said in some ways he’s more than a husband and like a brother, father, confidante at times…but ya growing up I remember her lamenting about how she felt about her pops not being there when she was younger…they’re always in touch now…I’ve met him 3x…the 3 sons he did raise are extremely successful as is he but it’s still scumbag shyt bcuz he had my aunt who I grew up knowing (who also grew up w/o him) but he had at least 2 sons that he’s never met that my mom and her aunts were able to track down…one died without even knowing that dude was his father…

…I shouldn’t laugh but to show you how fukked up the shyt is my mother still refers to him occasionally as “uncle _______” bcuz she was raised by his sisters and grew up with his nieces and nephews…absolutely ridiculous shyt smh

Same. Same. Same. Same .Same. Same. My grandfathers on both sides did this sht.



It’s sad that there was a whole generation where this was the norm. I can’t imagine the thought process that goes into it. On my mother’s side, that grandfather fortunately chose my mom’s family and that branch blossomed and everyone had a nice childhood. However, on my dad’s side the other grand father chose the other family. It seriously messed up all my father’s siblings both financially and emotionally. I think it even gave my dad a complex where he lives his own life trying to prove sht to my grandfather, who even today in his mid 80s, couldn’t give a damn about him or his efforts .




But in full disclosure, my grandfather on my dad’s side is honestly one of the coolest dudes I’ve ever seen even in his 80s, I could totally see how he managed to get so many women involved with him.

Spoiler: Long term effects?

As a side note, I find that the long term trajectory of my aunts and uncles without their father turned out better than my mom’s siblings with their father. What do I mean? I think all my father;s siblings developed that complex for my grand father and ended up super-super achieving in life. Like for real, in order of profession they are : docs, engineers, pharmacists , bankers, etc ; while my mother’s siblings grew up to be bums. Weird, isn’t it?

 

[seabreeze80]

I'll never forget when I worked my first job ever after school. A lady was talking to me about her ex husband. She said they were holding hands and making love the night before and the next day he asked for a divorce and dipped. He left her and the kids to fiend for themselves. She said it was over 20 years ago and she was still traumatized over it.

 

[Tflasha]

Apparently my grandfather did this to my dad and his brother and sisters… left my grandma for a white bytch and took care of her kids.

I never met him, not that I care, and just found out his name last week.

nikka we might have same grandpa

 

[old pig]

the acceptance of it is what pisses me off at the bold…my mother sensed some resentment in my response when she told me about the son who died who never met him and tried to explain it as that being “normal” back then smh…gramps still alive and surprisingly vibrant tho at 95…dude was a musician and fair skin with “good hair” and just in general a laidback character so I understand why he had his pick of the litter but damn…dude had kids in at least 3 different countries smh

Same. Same. Same. Same .Same. Same. My grandfathers on both sides did this sht.



It’s sad that there was a whole generation where this was the norm. I can’t imagine the thought process that goes into it. On my mother’s side, that grandfather fortunately chose my mom’s family and that branch blossomed and everyone had a nice childhood. However, on my dad’s side the other grand father chose the other family. It seriously messed up all my father’s siblings both financially and emotionally. I think it even gave my dad a complex where he lives his own life trying to prove sht to my grandfather, who even today in his mid 80s, couldn’t give a damn about him or his efforts .




But in full disclosure, my grandfather on my dad’s side is honestly one of the coolest dudes I’ve ever seen even in his 80s, I could totally see how he managed to get so many women involved with him.

 

[lespaulultra3]

Let's not ignore the fact that these white boys be out here murdering their whole family just to be with another woman.

 

[Jim Cornette]

My did this... Twice

 

[ElMorenoFeo809]

Yo my dad did this shyt like 6 times