After discovering that Walmart's produce selection, specifically the apples, was lacking, I decided to go to Sprouts and do the rest of my shopping for the week.
As I was pulling up, I see a Black mother and her son exiting the store and the son wasn't anymore than 16 years old, completely swagless, wearing cac sandals and as I watched him trek across the walkway, it dawned on me...

Black middle class parents are socializing their sons to only be appealing to white women, even if those sons have interests in Black women.
This is what many of the "nice guys" here suffer from, they are attracted to Black women, some of these "nice guys" might even be good looking but when they're in the presence of Black women, there's no connection because they don't know how to communicate with Black women.
There's a certain rhythm in communications between Black people, a cadence that comes naturally to Black people but it can effectively be overwritten with a Caucasian cadence if the Black person consumes too much Caucasian media. Television sitcoms do the most damage because that's where Black children are subconsciously infected with Caucasian rhythms in speech patterns, behaviors, gestures, humor etc.
When it's time for these Black men to communicate with Black women who haven't been infected with Caucasian rhythms, there's only so much they can discuss before the Black woman determines that something is off about the Black man. Oftentimes, the woman can't quite put her finger on it and concludes that he's either gay or a weirdo, she knows he's nice but something is offputting about him and even though she may find him physically attractive, that's where it begins and ends.
These Black men try again and again to win the attention of and create a connection with Black women but never reach the conclusion that they aren't able to because they're infected with Caucasian rhythms. Their jokes only resonate with white people, they don't know how to dress because their swag has been reduced to dangerously low levels, they witness the Black women they would like to attract with other Black men that they cannot relate to, Black men they consider to be lower than them, thugs.
"How is he able to get with her and I'm smarter than him, I'M THE ONE WHO ONE THE SCIENCE FAIR, I'M THE ONE WHO CAN QUOTE SHAKESPEAR??"
Eventually, these Black men grow to hate the Black women who won't give them the time of the day AND the Black men who are able to win their attention.
Instead of looking inward to address the possible issues, these Black men often attempt the behaviors of the thugs they hate, they intentionally seek to treat women badly in hopes of gaining access to their bodies, they reduce themselves to shells of their former selves, role players in a game where the game prize isn't p*ssy but rather the joy of deceiving a woman into believe they are something that they are not.
*observation noted*

As I was pulling up, I see a Black mother and her son exiting the store and the son wasn't anymore than 16 years old, completely swagless, wearing cac sandals and as I watched him trek across the walkway, it dawned on me...

Black middle class parents are socializing their sons to only be appealing to white women, even if those sons have interests in Black women.
This is what many of the "nice guys" here suffer from, they are attracted to Black women, some of these "nice guys" might even be good looking but when they're in the presence of Black women, there's no connection because they don't know how to communicate with Black women.
There's a certain rhythm in communications between Black people, a cadence that comes naturally to Black people but it can effectively be overwritten with a Caucasian cadence if the Black person consumes too much Caucasian media. Television sitcoms do the most damage because that's where Black children are subconsciously infected with Caucasian rhythms in speech patterns, behaviors, gestures, humor etc.
When it's time for these Black men to communicate with Black women who haven't been infected with Caucasian rhythms, there's only so much they can discuss before the Black woman determines that something is off about the Black man. Oftentimes, the woman can't quite put her finger on it and concludes that he's either gay or a weirdo, she knows he's nice but something is offputting about him and even though she may find him physically attractive, that's where it begins and ends.
These Black men try again and again to win the attention of and create a connection with Black women but never reach the conclusion that they aren't able to because they're infected with Caucasian rhythms. Their jokes only resonate with white people, they don't know how to dress because their swag has been reduced to dangerously low levels, they witness the Black women they would like to attract with other Black men that they cannot relate to, Black men they consider to be lower than them, thugs.
"How is he able to get with her and I'm smarter than him, I'M THE ONE WHO ONE THE SCIENCE FAIR, I'M THE ONE WHO CAN QUOTE SHAKESPEAR??"
Eventually, these Black men grow to hate the Black women who won't give them the time of the day AND the Black men who are able to win their attention.
Instead of looking inward to address the possible issues, these Black men often attempt the behaviors of the thugs they hate, they intentionally seek to treat women badly in hopes of gaining access to their bodies, they reduce themselves to shells of their former selves, role players in a game where the game prize isn't p*ssy but rather the joy of deceiving a woman into believe they are something that they are not.
*observation noted*

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you bring up interesting points.
