HA. HAHA. HAHAHA
Black men do not need to change who they are in order to appeal to black women. Those who do end up taking the value out of their hands and placing it in her hands. That's how they get hurt. Because now they no longer see themselves as a priority and they are looking for the woman to accept them and give him value. fukk that. Never, ever let a woman determine how you look, how you are, where you are on the totem pole, etc.
Those who stay true to themselves are simply going after the wrong kind of black woman. They are going after the black woman that wants REAL nikkaS (LOL), SWAG, (LOL) and all the other bullshyt you read on here from coli chicks and in social media. What they need to do is target black woman who share the same interests as them, the same sense of humor, etc. They may have to change the environment they are at in order to find this girl that is right for them. Whether it's shopping at Target instead of Wal-Mart, or being around bigger productive environments, or simply through a trial and error mode where they approach those until they find the right one.