It's not your fault you can't get Black women, blame your parents. [Black Men]

[Matt504]

Are black women a monolith @Matt504

of course not, there are plenty Black women who are attracted to swagless Black men, the problem is that those Black men aren't interested in those women and would prefer the types of women who don't necessarily want them.

If people dated and were attracted to the people they were most compatible with, this wouldn't even be an issue.

 

[Poitier]

So what about the black middle class women? Wouldnt middle class attract middle class, and yes there are plenty of middle class black people not infected with cacness

Why refer to black women like they are all the same?

Not necessarily especially if you went to school in a city where public housing was demolished and lower class black folk moved into middle class areas on section 8.

In my school you had lower, middle and upper middle class blacks and every person is going to react different to seeing representations of the worst and the best of our people.

 

[Matt504]

You just contradicted your entire OP. your entire opening post suggests that there's different "levels" to blackness tho. That some parents even go so far as to try to "protect" their kids by suppressing certain aspects of their blackness. You even went so far as to assuming that a 16 year old kid that you don't know was swagless and "less black" simply because he had on sandals hence you making this thread in the first place.

I think this entire thread is about how more or less "black" somebody may be and how it affects the type of women they attract.

With that said, its true but it seems like you're backpedaling about the highlighted.

There's no back peddling, there's just a misunderstanding and failure to comprehend what's being said.

To say that Black people who aren't socialized around Black people will have more difficulty socializing with Black people who were isn't the same thing as saying one person is "more Black" than the other, a concept a small minority of you are having great difficulty grasping.

 

[Neuromancer]

of course not, there are plenty Black women who are attracted to swagless Black men, the problem is that those Black men aren't interested in those women and would prefer the types of women who don't necessarily want them.

If people dated and were attracted to the people they were most compatible with, this wouldn't even be an issue.

I'm a mostly swagless black man and I date a black woman just the same. So I'm not sure you're correct.

 

[Matt504]

I'm a mostly swagless black man and I date a black woman just the same. So I'm not sure you're correct.

maybe I'm wrong, maybe you don't have posts on the coli complaining about Black women's preferences. which is completely fine with me.

 

[Neuromancer]

maybe I'm wrong, maybe you don't have posts on the coli complaining about Black women's preferences. which is completely fine with me.

I don't. I don't blanket all black women, because I've dated different ones and I've developed a desire for a very specific type.

 

[KOOL-AID]

speaking of which, @CinnaSlim, pull up coliworld


edit: and she dont be killing shyt. she just calls everything a deflection. chick doesn't even see the correlation between wealth and successful relationships/marriages.

infact, let @CinnaSlim tell it. what the black community needs is an understanding. an understanding that nikkas will just be poor as fukk, and BW have to endure the struggle.

lol please stop

 

[SirReginald]

@Knuckles Red
@JudgeJoeGorilla

These folk never stepped inside a barbershop before

 

[Apollo Creed]

Never met a dude who complained about not being able to get women until I came to this site.

 

[Anahita]

I agree with your premise, OP. There is a spiritual component to blackness; a kind of frequency that black people travel on and connect to each other with. It has nothing to with how you speak, dress, your interests, or musical tastes. It's a "thing" that we use to recognize each other on a primal level, that "click" you feel when you meet another black person. When you don't feel that "click", you can't really connect with that black person.

 

[151_Pr00f]

So what about the black middle class women? Wouldnt middle class attract middle class, and yes there are plenty of middle class black people not infected with cacness

Why refer to black women like they are all the same?

a whitewashed black chick with a decent body and face can get dikk from either the guys described in the OP or the more "stereotypical" type.....

the inverse is not that easy. The dynamic is different because sex, attention, and validation is easier to get if youre a female

 

[SeveroDrgnfli]

Naw. You over thought this.

 

[Poitier]

of course not, there are plenty Black women who are attracted to swagless Black men, the problem is that those Black men aren't interested in those women and would prefer the types of women who don't necessarily want them..

I don't know if its lack of interest as much as those kinds of Black men missing cues from those women and/or the woman never making her attraction known. There is a thread on here somewhere thats like 20 pages on this exact topic.

 

[ezrathegreat]

The problem is that men are going against the grain. If you a thug Nikka, hitting up preppy white chicks isn't going to go so well. Just like if you are an lame, square black dude, big booty ratchets aren't going to be feeling you. Brehs gotta start be realistic about their dating options and whose checking for them.

 

[SheWantTheD]

I grew up in the suburbs surrounded by indians and whites and I can interact with black folk just fine.

I'm not even African American per say.