It's not your fault you can't get Black women, blame your parents. [Black Men]

[Matt504]

Right right, it's about black people and white people rhytms.

And if a woman is only attracted to one kind of rhytym from black men I should blame my mother. Makes perfect sense

If a specific woman isn't attracted to you, look elsewhere for a woman who's interested. If you're a Black man interested in Black women but can't seem to attract them, you might be the problem, not Black women.

I place the blame on parents because they are responsible for socializing and rearing their children, if your parents raised you in an environment where your interactions with other Black people are limited, they are responsible for you not being able to connect to other Black people in a meaningful way.

This doesn't mean you're not responsible for improving your situation, it's just placing the blame on the party that laid the groundwork for your current condition.

 

[Taadow]

This theory falls apart when you consider that there is a point when teenagers burst out of the proverbial box that is
their parents' social conditioning/family situation.

 

[Poitier]

This theory falls apart when you consider that there is a point when teenagers burst out of the proverbial box that is
their parents' social conditioning/family situation.

Sort of....I think school is where this stuff cements itself but kids carry their parents views to school but how they react to people who challenge those views is a toss up.

 

[Larry Lambo]

I didn't read the OP thoroughly and now I'm just seeing he made this realization after seeing a 16 year old kid.

I'd be less concerned with the kid not being raised to click with black chicks and more concerned that he's not a confident well dressed individual. This is an issue in all communities but is amplified in the black community.

I really had to step in for my parents when my brother got to high school. He was very anti-social with zero friends, zero style, and just not cool on any level. I spent a lot of time/energy/money on helping him get in the game, so I know what it takes. A lot of parents don't really care, as long as the kids are excelling at school, then that's all that matters. But that's a very unhealthy situation that can lead to a Elliot Rodgers or Kent type dude.

 

[Matt504]

I didn't read the OP thoroughly and now I'm just seeing he made this realization after seeing a 16 year old kid.

I'd be less concerned with the kid not being raised to click with black chicks and more concerned that he's not a confident well dressed individual. This is an issue in all communities but is amplified in the black community.

I really had to step in for my parents when my brother got to high school. He was very anti-social with zero friends, zero style, and just not cool on any level. I spent a lot of time/energy/money on helping him get in the game, so I know what it takes. A lot of parents don't really care, as long as the kids are excelling at school, then that's all that matters. But that's a very unhealthy situation that can lead to a Elliot Rodgers or Kent type dude.

If you don't mind me asking: before you intervened, how did your brother dress and what do you think influenced his clothing choices and way he wore his clothing?

 

[PartyHeart]

So much bias in this post

If you have a son that bias you have against him will hurt him.

You sound extremely hyper sensitive. There was nothing bias about that post. I find it interesting that you had a problem with my post but dapped and skipped over ones that completely dismissed the scenario for Black women. But I'm biased though?

There are some bitter bi**es on LSA that prove otherwise.

And as far the female black equivalent, the "connection" doesn't come from similar interests or personality types. It comes from being at the bottom of the totem pole and having no other options. As a man you have a better chance of romantically "clicking" with someone who is dissimilar to you but is unattractive, than you do with a woman that has the same interests as you and is attractive. A lot of these "awkward black chicks" aren't really super compatible with these guys but since they are subpar looking and get no play they are willing to make it work.

I have had a few female friends that could be considered "awkward". The cute ones had no dating issues, or none that don't exist for all women. They would pay these guys dust The fat ones did have issues and would probably be interested in some of these guys. So the proposed solution for these men is to date fat chicks. Unless he's fat himself, I don't think that is a solution at all.

The same can be said for Black men. I don't know any attractive non-thug Black men struggling to get dates, but that is always the narrative here. That there are these intelligent, faithful, attractive, well earning Black men out there struggling to get dates because he's not a thug. Its a lie. The men who struggle to get dates are generally socially awkward and unattractive. It rarely gets any deeper than that.

No, there isn't. Women don't have to approach men, and men in general, will approach them if they go outside. Or online en mass.

These men are likely not approaching Black women at all. And I've already addressed how a woman being approached to be used for sex is about just as good as a man being approached to be used for money.

 

[Will Ross]

I think a lot of middle class black women develop a hate for middle class black men. Because the middle class black boy is more accepted to her by whites. Lets be real the avg sista going to an all white school will be single the avg brother won't

 

[Larry Lambo]

If you don't mind me asking: before you intervened, how did your brother dress and what do you think influenced his clothing choices and way he wore his clothing?

He wore non name brand basic clothing. Shoes were $40 Reebok type kicks. This is when jerseys and AF1's/Jordans were hot. He wore the basic ass clothing our parents bought him and never objected. Just didn't put any effort to look "fresh".

 

[Kwéyòl]

my old head friend told me I walk the line . I can walk into both sides and have no problem . But that just comes from going to a variety of schools when i was young.

 

[Larry Lambo]

The same can be said for Black men. I don't know any attractive non-thug Black men struggling to get dates, but that is always the narrative here. That there are these intelligent, faithful, attractive, well earning Black men out there struggling to get dates because he's not a thug. Its a lie. The men who struggle to get dates are generally socially awkward and unattractive. It rarely gets any deeper than that.

If these guys are average to above average looking and socially awkward, who's giving them attention? Who is showing interest? Most of the time, it's not their female physical equivalent. Part of being a man is developing social skills/swagger/confidence and if you don't then you are destined for subpar looking chicks. And I'm ok with that, but I rather preach self improvement so these guys can get someone they can actually be attracted to versus some socially awkward fat chick that is trying to date above her attractiveness level.

 

[PartyHeart]

If these guys are average to above average looking and socially awkward, who's giving them attention? Who is showing interest? Most of the time, it's not their female physical equivalent. Part of being a man is developing social skills/swagger/confidence and if you don't then you are destined for subpar looking chicks. And I'm ok with that, but I rather preach self improvement so these guys can get someone they can actually be attracted to versus some socially awkward fat chick that is trying to date above her attractiveness level.

Yes it is. But these are the women they ignore, especially so the longer they are awkward and go dateless. They increasingly become to depend on getting the beautiful 10 out of 10 girl to prove something to everyone and also to boost their own low self esteem through obtaining her.

Your last sentence is so interesting yet so contradictory lol. So the unattractive socially awkward man deserves a woman he is attracted to, but the socially awkward fat chick is just trying to date above her attractiveness level?

 

[Vandelay]

I'm late in the game on this discussion.

There's some truth to this. I don't know about blaming it on single moms, or the media by itself, but there's something to be said about kids that are engulfed in entirely white environments. You can learn to adapt and overcome the challenges of interacting with black people, but it is a real situation.

To identify that it's a real issue, take black kids out the picture. Imagine a white kid, a Hispanic (may not so much), an Indian, an Arab, or an Asian kid even, who has been surrounded by nothing but their own kind, suddenly put around another culture...hell it could be their own culture if they weren't grown and accustomed to being around it.

The problem isn't as much of an issue in the city, but it's still there nonetheless.

Society is fluid, and black people clearly are not a monolith, but I personally think black parents do their children an injustice by exclusively raising their kids in an environment that has no semblance of their own people. Dating preferences aside, I said it in another thread, black people can't play the game of life being around entirely white people. They have a different set of rules they can play by. Sometimes we can get by being the token, but a lot of us will get that wake up call eventually.

So you can raise your kids in the burbs, but Go take them to the African American museum, go play ball with your cousins in the summer, go to Thanksgiving dinner at your aunt mookies, whatever it is. Don't raise your kids in a bubble.

 

[Larry Lambo]

Yes it is. But these are the women they ignore, especially so the longer they are awkward and go dateless. They increasingly become to depend on getting the beautiful 10 out of 10 girl to prove something to everyone and also to boost their own low self esteem through obtaining her.

Your last sentence is so interesting yet so contradictory lol. So the unattractive socially awkward man deserves a woman he is attracted to, but the socially awkward fat chick is just trying to date above her attractiveness level?

If the socially awkward fat chick loses weight, her options increase tremendously. I've seen it with my own eyes.

The socially awkward guy needs to improve his social skills just to get a woman on his level of looks, regardless of her social skills.

 

[Blackout]

You sound extremely hyper sensitive. There was nothing bias about that post. I find it interesting that you had a problem with my post but dapped and skipped over ones that completely dismissed the scenario for Black women. But I'm biased though?

It is bias lol.

You could of said it happens to women too but instead you deny it happens to men as well.

Not only is that bias but its wrong because it actually happens to black men despite your claims that you don't know any.

I doubt you even hang around nerdy black men lol.

 

[JuvenileHell]

Yall acting like black women are some newly discovered species

Just fukking talk to one and if they reject you, move on, its not that deep

Pretty much

Lol brehs are making this more complicated than it has to be. It couldnt be that she just isnt attracted to you. Always gotta be some extra shyt.