Very true! A lot of us think that life is like a tv show or movie and we should find this bangin woman (or man for bruhettes) and get married and have 2-3 kids and be so happy. Life doesn't always work out how we want it.
I've been trying to get a girlfriend for the past 10 years
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IllustratorMike
All Star
Although this cannot be argued, the human desire for companionship is a normal function from us all even if for the simple act of gratification.
Couples do this all of the time but that doesn't have to lead to an "I do."
Not everyone has to be married.
DarkHorse23
Banned
There are a couple of scenarios that can explain this.
A) you're aiming out of your league
B) you have monstrous facial deformities.
C) you're asking them out wrong/coming on too strong.
D) you have terrible hygiene.
E) you're under 5'2
What is the "right" way to ask a woman out?
DarkHorse23
Banned
Very mature.
UncleTomFord15
Veteran
I asked out my first girl in 2006
She said no
Between then and now I've asked out at least thousands of women with no luck
You miss every shot You don't take
- blackierobinson
stay strong breh
Solo ✧✦✧
King of the eXoticals. "FIRsT and LAst wARNiNg"
The whole "it's 2016, p*ssy falls into your lap" idea mostly only matters to people that have no standards or just take what they can get which probably applies to the majority of people that say it.
It seems like meeting women online is the only other option if meeting them in person isn't working out.
It seems like meeting women online is the only other option if meeting them in person isn't working out.
Before you ask her out give her a feel for the type of person you are. Let her get a taste of your best your best qualities (being nice doesn't count) , don't just go in blind. So it's best to have at least one natural conversation with her first. During the conversation, Don't feed her cliche lines or ask her leading questions. Talk to her like a regular human being or more specifically like someone who's comfortable around women.
Attitude:
Ask her out in a way that doesn't seem too desperate, but don't be James Bond Blasé about it. Have some confidence. its just a girl. No matter how excited you are in the moment, Do Not put her on a pedestal. There are millions of them out there, most with no substantive personalities, unique thoughts, or an intact hymen. No matter the pressure you might feel in the moment you got plenty of options.
I'm going to jump in here. The sad reality is that most guys are completely clueless when it comes to women. Let me repeat that, most guys are completely clueless when it comes to women. There is no "right way" to ask a women out. Rather what you should ask is if you are the right guy or not. That's the only thing that matters. If you are the right guy, then it doesn't matter how you ask her out, if you are the wrong guy, then no matter how you ask her out it will be wrong. Stop looking for a bag of tricks and start focusing on becoming a man. That in a nut shell is what women are looking for. Women want to be with winners not losers.
Women would rather, many times over, compete and pull their hair out trying to figure out how to make a winner their own, than settle for a loser. When you start winning at life, you will naturally give off an air of confidence. Women can sense this like Spider-Man can sense bad guys. You want to know the secret to getting women, turn yourself into a guy they want to seduce. When that happens, you can talk to them normally and their panties will be getting wet. Women know whether you are a guy they want to seduce before they even talk to you. Let me repeat that, before they even talk to you Women know. This is why it's so important to be aware of your surroundings. When a woman just pops up out of nowhere and is giving you signals that she's interested that is the time to pounce. You make think that that was a random occurrence but I assure you it was not. She probably scoped you out, decided that you have the potential to be the man of dreams, figured out your normal routine and placed herself in your daily path.
Now let me ask you a question, if a woman does all that, do you really think it matters how you ask her out. Like if I say, 'Hey, let me get your number" or "Miss you're beautiful let me get your facebook and we can continue this conversation online" do you really think it matters. Trust, off the sheer thrill that all her planning has born fruits, she'll barely be able to contain her excitement. Her sympathetic nervous system will have already started to prepare for sex and in her head, she's already planning out how the relationship will go. Stop focusing on girls, and start focusing on becoming successful. Focus on getting your money up, focus on improving your social skills and focus on becoming a leader. You do those things and you'll have to beat the women off with a stick. And then you can see the ugly side of life. Regarding that I'll just say this, natural human attraction is one of the strongest desires that human beings have.
The whole "it's 2016, p*ssy falls into your lap" idea mostly only matters to people that have no standards or just take what they can get which probably applies to the majority of people that say it.
It seems like meeting women online is the only other option if meeting them in person isn't working out.
The fukk do you mean?
It literally boils down to "can you carry on a engaging conversation with a girl for 15 minutes and keep her interested?"
Why make it so hard for yourself?
They're just people.
Women are just as insecure and nervous as you are.
Baby steps breh.
Breh, these guys can't even fathom all of that. You're giving the long term solution to what they consider a short term problem. A lifestyle change is the nuclear option to these dudes.
The truth that there is no "secret" just reinforces their resentment and validates their self-hatred.
You are right tho. At the core of all the advice we can give Is the process of making yourself desirable to women, so that they cater to you and not the other way around.
Solo ✧✦✧
King of the eXoticals. "FIRsT and LAst wARNiNg"
I already have a woman so I don't know what being insecure or nervous has to do with me. I don't need your basic advice my dude. Based on my experience the women that are aggressive and openly flirt with dudes and make it clear that they would give it up usually wouldn't be a mans first choice. It's not always the case, but for the most part it's true.The fukk do you mean?
It literally boils down to "can you carry on a engaging conversation with a girl for 15 minutes and keep her interested?"
Why make it so hard for yourself?
They're just people.
Women are just as insecure and nervous as you are.
DarkHorse23
Banned
Before you ask her out give her a feel for the type of person you are. Let her get a taste of your best your best qualities (being nice doesn't count) , don't just go in blind. So it's best to have at least one natural conversation with her first. During the conversation, Don't feed her cliche lines or ask her leading questions. Talk to her like a regular human being or more specifically like someone who's comfortable around women.
Attitude:
Ask her out in a way that doesn't seem too desperate, but don't be James Bond Blasé about it. Have some confidence. its just a girl. No matter how excited you are in the moment, Do Not put her on a pedestal. There are millions of them out there, most with no substantive personalities, unique thoughts, or an intact hymen. No matter the pressure you might feel in the moment you got plenty of options.
When i approach women, i prefer to be direct. Is that wrong?
You sound furious.