Focus on you, not these ladies. Get your ass to the gym 5 days a week. Focus on work and start stacking your $.
You'll save a lot of $ cuz you're not at the bar every other day desperately looking for a future wife.
When you have these obsessive negative thoughts about what's wrong with you, etc., you're actually making it worse. Negative thoughts manifest a negative reality.
Hit the gym, get your $ up, quit chasing a chick every night with hopes that she's gonna be your wife. Do this for 2 months and I bet you'll be a much happier and confident individual. Also, get a relationship with God if you don't have one. When you've got that you'll realize you don't need anyone else. And when you've reached that zenith of self actualization, you will be rewarded and likely meet a great chick when you weren't looking for one.
I lived the player life and had a great run with it, but I got tired of it and fell back because a lot of these broads I met might have been great to look at or freaks, I couldn't see myself building a future with them. So I fell back, wasn't chasing anything and was even passing up a lot of chicks. Did that for about 4-5 months and then had a great one come across in my day to day life, not some chick at the bar who prolly is bi-polar and addicted to pills or booze.
Seriously though just hit the gym (a lot) and focus on yourself, not chasing. Things will fall in line from there, I promise. Good luck breh.