I've had 2 of my closest friends tell me how they feel UNFULFILLED in Life.

[OG Talk]

Having a purpose bigger than yourself gives you fulfillment.

Facts. It doesn’t even have to be biological children or marriage. Community service or being a mentor can provide a similar effect without the same level of commitment.

The root of a lot of modern unhappiness comes from selfishness and being ungrateful.

 

[The ADD]

So I get to thinking about my own life, in my late 30s, no kids, no wife, my career is going good. I guess I feel unfulfilled too, but it doesn't bother me because I've always had low expectations. It's not a bad thing because I do work somewhat hard and very wisely and I was be happy with the outcome. Honestly my expectations were so low and feel like I've overachieved. I think people get depressed because they don't feel like they're doing some special. But a majority of humans are just regular everyday people.


How do yall deal with feelings of unfulfillment and not really having a purpose?

I don't strive to have a purpose. Life just be life and I'm very happy within that

 

[TRUEST]

This basically sums it up. You have to do more than having kids to be fulfilled these days.

DMX died and ain't leave his kids shyt

And he’s a celebrity.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

As interesting and amazing as life is, I just don’t know how anybody could feel this way. But what I’ve found in a couple of people I’ve gone out with is that a lot of people aren’t lamenting the absence of purpose. What they are really lamenting is the absence of an identity. There are a lotta onions in this world. They cover themselves with layers of bravado, ego, bragging. They steal bits and pieces of others personalities to get along. They have no conviction. They go after easy targets and just try to fit in. But when you peel the layers back, there is nothing at their core.

Essentially, a lot of people allow themselves to be pulled from one set of expectations to another without ever developing a sense of self or identity.

They don’t know their purpose because they don’t know who they are. They need to take time to figure out what they want out of life.

What do they feel passionately about? What would they like to change or learn about the world? What did they envision growing up? What makes them REAALLLY righteously incensed? A lot of people look to the opposite sex or things outside of themselves to give them this identity. But that stuff is just another layer, rather than the cultivation of your own identity.

Personally, I’m too in awe of life to ever feel this way. My purpose is to learn and know. I learned the other day that the movement schools of fish make under the sea creates a vacuum that draws harmful CO2 from our atmosphere. Just think about how fukking amazingly interconnected our planet is for a second…I dunno how anybody has time to feel listless when there is so much to learn and see in this world.

Just the fact that stuff that stands still is CONSTANTLY vibrating or moving is amazing to me and makes me wonder about all kinds of other existential implications.
The Hippies Were Right: It's All about Vibrations, Man!

Learn more. Explore more. Meet more people. Give more. Try more. Love more. You find your purpose while actively engaged in life.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

I honestly get revolted every time someone says that you can enrich your life by finding that special person - through a relationship, kids, etc

Like fukking really? My wholeness comes from someone else? What kind of co-dependent monstrosity are people shooting for out here? You should have that puzzle solved before you start looking at others like a solution to your life....

And it damn sure ain't easy, it fukking sucks. But its gotta be one of the most casually destructive suggestions out there.

"Kids will make it all make sense "
"That special lady will center you "

It's a lot of women out there that have kids with bums just to say they have kids

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

ALSO leave the fukking USA at least twice a year

When you travel talk to the local people, see how they mind work


fukk all the lame ass IG allure talk to actual people

We sick in the USA

Yeah, maybe I'm wrong, but it seems like folks in them 2nd and 3rd world countries be way happier.

America's problem is we work too much, and worse of all the jobs be menial tasks, then we don't have time to do anything else. When you got that simple life it's all good

 

[Frida Giezman]

I disagree. Men spend so much time trying to please everyone and their bullshyt they never get truly take care of themselves.

Im 39 with a 19 year old and one that's about to be 16. My life would have been totally different. I would have saved myself multiple headaches dealing with each of their mothers.

Lol that’s fukked up

 

[TRUEST]

Yeah, maybe I'm wrong, but it seems like folks in them 2nd and 3rd world countries be way happier.

America's problem is we work too much, and worse of all the jobs be menial tasks, then we don't have time to do anything else. When you got that simple life it's all good

america is a country most citizens of the world are dying to get to. It became that way through the collaboration of people who think outside the box.

Every other nation in the world encourage a family structure. And even some perform arranged marriages for their children. But guess what ain’t no body dying to move to Bangladesh or India or any of the other god forsaken countries where people are brought up to live a certain way and they actually grow up to live that way, never thinking for themselves.

 

[Still Benefited]

I'm just going to be nikka that's going to push back on that marriage shyt. Yall selling these young nikkas a dream. If it work for you dope, but statistics and my personal experience say otherwise.

You have no experience in doing marriage in the way a black man would do it. You have experience of a black man trying to do marriage the white mans way,of course it will fail.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

I disagree. Men spend so much time trying to please everyone and their bullshyt they never get truly take care of themselves.

Im 39 with a 19 year old and one that's about to be 16. My life would have been totally different. I would have saved myself multiple headaches dealing with each of their mothers.

I'm jealous you kinda got it out the way at a young age though. By 46 you should be smooth sailing with your kids grown, hopefully they on the right track. At that point you can do your own thing. Meanwhile dudes like me gone be 55 n shyt with 13 year old daughters I give myself till 35 to have kids, otherwise it's over. Not tryna be 60 chasin youngins and helping with homework

 

[HARLEM AL]

You have no experience in doing marriage in the way a black man would do it. You have experience of a black man trying to do marriage the white mans way,of course it will fail.

Lmaooooo this shyt is laughable

 

[HARLEM AL]

I'm jealous you kinda got it out the way at a young age though. By 46 you should be smooth sailing with your kids grown, hopefully they on the right track. At that point you can do your own thing. Meanwhile dudes like me gone be 55 n shyt with 13 year old daughters I give myself till 35 to have kids, otherwise it's over. Not tryna be 60 chasin youngins and helping with homework

Yeah man, I was out he just slinging dikk with no remorse. fukking my girlfriends, other nikkas girlfriends, other nikkas wives etc…. I was wild. Way to much testosterone

 

[Devil Plisken…CMS]

Funny...

I was eating my ice cream with that baby warm summer breeze watching the game feeling pretty damn good

 

[42 Monks]

It's a lot of women out there that have kids with bums just to say they have kids

a lot of people really find peace in working their asses off to provide a better future for their kids, and that's admirable.

but the framing of that as *fulfillment* is all fukked up for me. by itself, yeah, that's awesome. but at some point we as individuals had the opportunity to play the hand life dealt us to the utmost - reshuffling the deck a little bit then passing it off to the next generation is an option, but its a passive one. My kids are great. My wife is great. Yeah, but what about YOU? Its wholly committing to getting your value from somewhere else.

So when things go left through whatever BS life throws your way and that mirrored sense of validation is strained, its the same song as before. And then you're right where you were to begin with trying to figure out where/who you are.

And maybe that person you have to be for yourself and who you have to be for others doesn't even match up. Finding that out late, sucks. Real shyt.

"Just wait for your kids/that special someone" is not a solution. Its passing someone a drink without asking if they can handle liquor.

People trying to settle in for life without knowing who they are is a huge problem that just perpetuates other shyt. You ain't gotta be a sage, but at least understand your own trajectory as an individual before roping someone else in to your life story before continuing to make it up as you go....

 

[Macallik86]

If you can enjoy the present then you are always constantly fulfilled. Meditation works wonders

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Alternatively, if you truly believe that nothing matters, there is no God, and life is pointless, look into existentialism for some suggestions from other's that reached the same conclusion