Just Found out my Dad is having a affair

[Lewis Black]

The OP already said it...NOTHING. The OP said he doesn't even really interact with his daughters anymore. We know he has been doing it long enough for the OP to mention it. He isn't currently doing it; therefore, we know he isn't handling his responsibilities as a father. End of story.

kenya chill it's the mothers fault

 

[STAN JONES]

technically him and my mom are separated but are still married. Went to work with him today and his phone went off so I checked since i had suspicions after he had been coming home late for about the whole week before([plus this nikka doesnt buy any food for the house anymore). Some of yall would say its cool but ever since my mom left he hasnt really been helping her raise my two sisters or even bother to talk to his daughters. idk why its making me so mad so tell me am I trippin or is he in the wrong. text were of the woman saying what was on the menu for sunday and all these good morning text I cant tell my mom cuz she still has hope that he will change and he tried to get her back at first but while he is how he is now its best they stay separated. But I still feel like they should be divorced before all this goes down. He feels that woman is more important than his family apparently...as you can see this runs deep but am I in the wrong as should i leave it alone?

nikka just mind your business. If they are separated then he's not doing anything wrong and you had no business going through his phone like a fukking female . Hopefully you dont got loose lips like a female too

 

[Inevitable Kobe Turnover]

Do me a favor don't pretend to know anything about me or my life. You have a great day.

Keepin it 3hunna breh.

 

[Illuminatos]

I see a lot of nikkas on here never had a father who loved them.

 

[Illuminatos]

Inevitable Kobe Turnover dapped this.

 

[The Unknown Hype]

Your mom was a poor excuse for a wife. If she was doing her duties your dad would not be seeking outside comfort. OP, im not sure if you male or female but know that men are real simple and we require simple things. You mom was incapable of doing the simple things to make your dad happy or content. The fact he wont talk to your sisters or put food on the table is because your father is being spiteful towards your mom and your sisters are probably being used by your mom against him so he chooses to stay away.

you'd do best to not try to figure out from the outside looking in she was far from it it had alot to do with my dads upbringing of how he was like he was its wasnt all his fault but he never bothered to change or really be a father to us more like a provider

 

[The Unknown Hype]

nikka already told his sisters...his mom knows for sure by now. his pops was right not to tell him shyt...

nah she doesnt know i only told the one that been known too be cool about situations like this

 

[The Unknown Hype]

you might have to man up and take charge in the house...

its going to ruffe the feather, but hey, someone got be examples to the lil sisters

maybe he could give yall money to get the food, seems he getting depressed about the situation and has lost sense of priority, which should be family, before selfish needs.

where did your mom move to? any city? why did they split? how long they been married?

shes suprisingly close still lives in the city they used to talk on the phone I guess before the woman not sure if they do it as much now. But i wouldnt want her to go back if he was gonna be the same person he was when she left what some of yall arent getting is she wanted it to work he was the one who just wanted to go back to how things were(same old abusive relationship) so yall are wrong on taht aspect and my mom still doesnt know me and my sister decided it would be best not to she even told me if we ever did we talk to our dad first

 

[Toe Jay Simpson]

My uncle got caught cheating on my aunt by my cousins. Dude was on the run for a minute over that. They had plans on sabotaging his car.

But your pops needs to sign them papers if he wants to live the single life again. That's a hard call to make breh, I would wanna know if it was me. And if I ever found out I would tell my moms, if he's the only one doing wrong then let it come out.

Now if EVERYBODY got dirt. I say keep it in your pocket.

 

[Turbulent]

nah she doesnt know i only told the one that been known too be cool about situations like this

we might seem harsh to you. here's some advice and this is some real shyt. I think it would be best to ask your dad directly (man to man) if you need something from him or for your sisters. At this point it's best to leave your mom out of this. keep it real with your pops, don't try to guilt him into giving you money and then run around and give it to your mom. don't go to him feeling entitled either. just tell him straight up you need some help or your sis need some help and ask him if he could help out. If he doesn't want to help eventhough his kids need him, fukk it, don't beg, keep your dignity and find another way. stand strong for your fam and provide structure and guidance. provide leadership.

your dad might be an a$$hole, i sincerely don't know. All we're saying is that you should leave your mom out of this and stay out of your parent's business. Checking his phone and then catching feelings about what you saw was a feminine move (i gotta keep it trill with you...). i kinda see it from your dad's perspective. he probably doesn't talk to you cause he feels like you're not on that level yet. it's not always as cut and dry as you'd think. Some things you start to understand the older you get...we're just trying to keep it real with you breh...

 

[DaChampIsHere]

Straight up. Your pops is a bytch made nikka. You should be glad you haven't inherited such a rotten trait. Look at all these fools trying to rationalize this p*ssy behavior. What would make a man turn on his family like that? I'm aware shyt happens but not respecting your wife who birthed 3 of your kids, raised them, etc enough to divorce her and do right by the kids is disturbing.

You said he has 3 houses, yet can't provide food in the house? Breh can't even help your lil sis out with college? He's going to burden her life with student loans and put her in a financial graveyard at a young age because of a new relationship? And here you have the majority of this site co-signing this because their parents left them a$$ out as well to fend for themselves. It don't work like that. It shouldn't work like that. Your pops is a bytch. I'm a pray for you homie. I don't know how you reverse such behavior at his age.

Wesley...

Right...my daddy would never do the stuff these men are condoning even to this day and I am 27 year old woman. Although he probably knows that I would never need it, my dad still ask me every time we talk what I've been eating, do I need any groceries, etc. At least one of the OP's sisters is still in high school, but they are condoning him not helping to put food on the table.

I agree with all this shyt though.

My father seems to have a similar financial situation to that of your's Unknown Hype. I am thankful that parents are still in marital bliss with each other but if my dad ever thought that his old ass was just going to leave to fukk some bytches and leave my little sister without food/without taking care of her AT LEAST (I don't care if she's in college/colleged-age), I'd scrap with that nikka all night until he gave her his own checking account card.

Like I said, I don't care if she's college aged or even graduated. If either of them ever achieves greatness, he's gonna want to be there to reap the rewards, he's gonna want that acknowledgement/thank you for helping the youngest one graduate college, etc. If he doesn't want any of that, then as a parent, he's clearly shytty as fukk and deserves to have his ass whooped for being shytty

shes suprisingly close still lives in the city they used to talk on the phone I guess before the woman not sure if they do it as much now. But i wouldnt want her to go back if he was gonna be the same person he was when she left what some of yall arent getting is she wanted it to work he was the one who just wanted to go back to how things were(same old abusive relationship) so yall are wrong on taht aspect and my mom still doesnt know me and my sister decided it would be best not to she even told me if we ever did we talk to our dad first

Man, honestly, you shouldn't have even posted this shyt on here. These dudes on here are hurt. While your father's business is his business now, there's no way he should feel good about just dropping you all to the curb for some new chicks or whatever, point blank. That shows that he doesn't care. Any one who tells you differently has never had a good parent taking care of them/know of the true bond between a parent and child.

I'd honestly fight that nikka if I were you Like for real, for real.

 

[villain]

all y'all got all these opinions and judging people and blaming people and don't even know the full story

stfu

OP already sounds like a bird ass nikka snoopin thru his dads phone and accusing his Dad of cheating even though he has no evidence of it besides some vague text messages

 

[The Unknown Hype]

all y'all got all these opinions and judging people and blaming people and don't even know the full story

stfu

OP already sounds like a bird ass nikka snoopin thru his dads phone and accusing his Dad of cheating even though he has no evidence of it besides some vague text messages

the text messages werent vague and only reason I looked was because of to this point we didnt think he knew how to text...might have been weak for me to look but thats my dad and i was trying to figure out fi it was true since he wasnt gonna tell anybody. its over now and the messages were pretty clear cut on some good morning baby shyt and her telling him hey handsome im not gonna lie my reaction was then at first then i thought about everything that happened in the past then i got mad

 

[villain]

the text messages werent vague and only reason I looked was because of to this point we didnt think he knew how to text...might have been weak for me to look but thats my dad and i was trying to figure out fi it was true since he wasnt gonna tell anybody. its over now and the messages were pretty clear cut on some good morning baby shyt and her telling him hey handsome im not gonna lie my reaction was then at first then i thought about everything that happened in the past then i got mad

you said they're separated though and he even tried to get back with your mom after she left him, but she deaded it. So did you not expect him to start dealing with other women?

sounds to me like you leaving some details out of this story but I don't care enough to investigate so :shake:

 

[88m3]

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