Just got divorced after 12 yrs...ama

[YaThreadFloppedB!]

The opposite of love has always been indifference.

real shyt.

my biology professor asked the class this last summer . I forgot how we got on the topic, I think it had something to do with endorphins but she paused in the middle of her lecture and asked:

“who knows what the opposite of love is”

everybody collectively said “hate”

she goes “nope, indifference”

i went , but she explained that shyt beautifully, I wish I recorded that portion of the lecture

 

[Sniper]

Just got out of an 11 yr marriage myself..

The house that I bought with my 401k (that I'm still paying back) it's for her n the kids now

Paying 800 a month child support


Can't even claim 1 of them on the income tax get about 2000 compared to her 10,000 every year


Now stuck living in a efficiency in east Miramar u ready for this life playboy? It's cheaper to keep her who ever said that shyt knew what time it was.

I just talked about this with a friend last week.

You lost a lot, but would you be happier being in an unhappy marriage for the next 20-30 years or would you rather be divorced?

I said being happy is priceless. But keeping the family together, money, security and what we’re used to are the main reasons people stay in in unhappy marriages.

People put their happiness the back burner and live with a life of regret when they’re older or old.

 

[Another Man]

You shared that wife with me, hate to see it

 

[Dolla$]

When are we going to start the conversation of picking better women and holding ourselves accountable for ignoring red flags that were there but chose to ignore ?

 

[SlickHomie]

why did you get married? what were/are the material and immaterial benefits of it?

Benefit is growing with someone...
Structure in your life....better than pipin random thots all day n night....
But i was ignorant to the woman i married
If it happens again....then im a fool...

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Facts! Not about to have me on my knees singing jodeci records, fukk that.

I know this dude... wife left him... cheated on him and left him. Dude was a broken man after that.

Messed up part was he was a good husband... at least from the outside looking in, but I know he was a good dude. Just too nice a dude

she didn't care. She cheated on him, was planning to leave him and get married to somebody else. Only thing was, the side dude was just selling dreams

but anyway afterwards, it messed him up. I said it would never happen to me. No sir

 

[SupremexKing]

Benefit is growing with someone...
Structure in your life....better than pipin random thots all day n night....
But i was ignorant to the woman i married
If it happens again....then im a fool...

can you point out some of the red flags?

i want to see if they line up with the ones my current chick is displaying.

 

[Apollo Creed]

When are we going to start the conversation of picking better women and holding ourselves accountable for ignoring red flags that were there but chose to ignore ?

No such thing as these mythical “better women”, most a man can do is protect himself and identify red flags they arent willing to live with

 

[Apollo Creed]

I know this dude... wife left him... cheated on him and left him. Dude was a broken man after that.

Messed up part was he was a good husband... at least from the outside looking in, but I know he was a good dude. Just too nice a dude

she didn't care. She cheated on him, was planning to leave him and get married to somebody else. Only thing was, the side dude was just selling dreams

but anyway afterwards, it messed him up. I said it would never happen to me. No sir

i been cool with side dudes and thats all they do is sell dreams lmfao

 

[Dolla$]

No such thing as these mythical “better women”, most a man can do is protect himself and identify red flags they arent willing to live with

But na this shyt is pathetic

 

[Deep_Black_Conscious]

Brehs see all these horror stories but they still insist on getting married. Clowns!

and shame other men who don't want to

 

[SnowflakesByTheOZ]

GMB with another single

Welcome back to the single life brethren

 

[SlickHomie]

can you point out some of the red flags?

i want to see if they line up with the ones my current chick is displaying.

Not in particular order.....
The phone.....thats the test hate to say it...
If she walks away from you when having "certain conversations"
2."the tuning out"...which i explained earlier
3.if she cooks clean for you....its more of a chore...than her doing it to make u comfortable.
4.the sex....see#3
5.when your around company....she seem distant from you....always in other oeople faces....
6.when she start asking for a lot more
"Me time"
7....being irritated about the pettiest thing..trust me youll see this one...its a big one.
Still at work....lol anyone else like to contribute.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Not in particular order.....
The phone.....thats the test hate to say it...
If she walks away from you when having "certain conversations"
2."the tuning out"...which i explained earlier
3.if she cooks clean for you....its more of a chore...than her doing it to make u comfortable.
4.the sex....see#3
5.when your around company....she seem distant from you....always in other oeople faces....
6.when she start asking for a lot more
"Me time"
7....being irritated about the pettiest thing..trust me youll see this one...its a big one.
Still at work....lol anyone else like to contribute.

you mean going through her phone?

 

[SlickHomie]

you mean going through her phone?

No not necessarily......just pay attention
She'll kaka kiki with her girls next to you....
But other conversation she'll go to the bathroom....or say she makin a quick run as soon as it rings......The only way Its right for you to go through her phone is if shes on your payment plan...or you payin the bill....
If she playin games with it tell her to pay for her own damn phone...then its off limits.....