cyndaquil
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He can do both. No one is turning down a woman they are attracted to just because she is the same age. The important thing is being honest with intentions.
Just got out a 4 year relationship at 28
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why?
what difference does it make? You're still saying you NEED to do this BEEFORE a relationship(relationship = woman, you not getting in a relationship with yourself)
Our parents and grand parents put their money together. We're the ONLY generation that says get your money right before gettin gwith someone.
People dont get their money right until around 38... for many people 38 is on the edge of 1 foot in the grave(avg life span in your country is 75, what's half of that?). Many gen xers are seeing their friends die at 50
you will spend your whole life trying to achieve these moving goalpost financial goals, and telling people to wait till 40/45/50 is not practical.
Too many people are saying this as if they're gonna live to be 200
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That's understandable. But a lot of brehs aren't moving out here solid like that. That's why they have so many issues dating. Half these gripes and issues I see dudes whining about with chics they wouldn't have encountered or even been an issue if you're solid on who you are and your intentions. But the OP seems like a solid dude that's relationship minded so he shouldn't have any issues once he gets his mind back right
Then once they hit their financial level they'll look at all women as gold diggers or think they're trying to come up off them. So they won't trust any of them. Or since they didn't spend those years dealing with women they'll lack the experience to even navigate a relationship or they'll be extremely self centered and turn women off. It's a catch 22 situation. We're more than just money that red pill/ hustle culture got people fooled into thinking money fixes everything in life and it doesn't.
Focus on yourself bro, this is the time to build. When it's the right time, the one you're supposed to be with will come into your life.
In the past generations it was easier to get enough income to live comfortably.
It takes considerably more effort to reach that same status present day.
Taking time and energy to maintain a relationship in modern times comes secondary to securing yourself financially because of the time and effort involved.
He just got out of a 4 year investment of time and energy into a relationship. Right now is a great time to focus on his finances before making that type of investment in a relationship again. It allows him more freedom to take his time on this key part of his adulthood.
We've gone in a circle. Money is irrelevant in regards to connection and quality time with people close to us, so I still don't get it tbh. Ill just accept I don't get this concept.
he still can have quality time with people he’s close to breh. Holding off on a serious relationship doesn’t mean he won’t have any people he’s close to anymore.
The process of dating, starting a relationship and maintaining that relationship consumes a decent amount of attention and energy. Not to mention he’s gonna have to spend time just recovering emotionally from the relationship he left. Taking time to work on financial security during this time is great advice. I’m not sure why you think a relationship is so necessary at all times.
You're seem all over the place. To keep it simple, I said focusing on money is irrelevant. You're earning money whether you're in a relationship or not. You have to eat and keep a roof over your head. It's just a vocation or whatever else you do. Looking for extra money happens whether you're in a relationship or not.
You positioned having money as a prerequisite and I say it's unrelated in the grave scheme of it all.
For context most of the world lives on less than a dollar a day but manage to have families
Straw Hat Luffy
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Felt like this was for me
BaldingSoHard
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Damn...
Man enjoy the next 5 - 10 years of your life and grind. Hit the gym. Check a few things off of your bucket list. Travel. Make art. Get out if your comfort zone....
28 is young, and 30 really feels like 20 when you're single.
Enjoy some flings. Don't rush anything. Have a roster if you want, just let them know from the jump that you're just trying to figure your life out.
Don't rush life. There is so much to enjoy, so enjoy your freedom for a few years before you lock it back down.
28 is young, and 30 really feels like 20 when you're single.
Enjoy some flings. Don't rush anything. Have a roster if you want, just let them know from the jump that you're just trying to figure your life out.
Don't rush life. There is so much to enjoy, so enjoy your freedom for a few years before you lock it back down.
shyt's real out here man
I've never caught a woman cheatinf but I am sure I have cheated on been before. The internet has made it too easy.
Shorty told my friend that a) she is talking to somebody...then b) that she isnt in the right headspace to date (after they fooled around) then c) she went over a second time and I think after they did everything but fukk she told him that shes actually been in a 3 year relationship but has one foot out.
This is the shyt that really goes on. And just as easily I got friends who cheat on their wives/girlfriends too.
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Treblemaka
President, BYNKRadio.com (Retired)
You sound like a boring lame mf if you can’t find things in common/teach a younger woman besides sex.
Just stay on the washed up side of the dating market where you belong.
It's lame as fuk to be teaching women life shxt when you dont care about them and they're basically just a sex object to you.
That "teaching" part is what i have a snag with. If I have to teach you regular life shxt you arent relationship eligible to me any more and I dont find coaching someone I'm fuking very attractive unless we are in an exclusive relationship. The only teaching I'm doing up until that point is teaching her who i am, my boundaries, and my standards. Yall out here trying to "teach" women when there are too many out here to even have to do that. Its plenty that are already life competent.
I'm in my late 30s, I don't have anything in common besides hobbies and interests with a 21 year and I've probably been interested in that hobby longer than she's been alive. Its an unreciprocal relationship where she get all this life knowledge, access to places and experiences above her station, and all I get is some ass. My resources/time are worth more than that.
Only thing a 21 year got for a 30+ guy is pu$$y and problems, and chances are the pu$$y mid because she doesn't know what she's doing yet. If she does know what she's doing its likely because she's got heavy practice which is problematic for obvious reasons. If youre in your 30s she probably doesn't even really want to fuk you unless you got some stuff for her, she'd much rather be smashing that football senior on campus but he's likely still broke.
What does a 20 year old have that a 26 year old doesnt have except more whinning and immaturity?
Yall keep thinking these young girls are some sort of preferred women because they arent "damaged" and you can treat them like a bag of chips, dont complain when you end up looking like Shannon Sharpe or Billy Belichek.
Yall dudes do way too much.It's lame as fuk to be teaching women life shxt when you dont care about them and they're basically just a sex object to you.
That "teaching" part is what i have a snag with. If I have to teach you regular life shxt you arent relationship eligible to me any more and I dont find coaching someone I'm fuking very attractive unless we are in an exclusive relationship. The only teaching I'm doing up until that point is teaching her who i am, my boundaries, and my standards. Yall out here trying to "teach" women when there are too many out here to even have to do that. Its plenty that are already life competent.
I'm in my late 30s, I don't have anything in common besides hobbies and interests with a 21 year and I've probably been interested in that hobby longer than she's been alive. Its an unreciprocal relationship where she get all this life knowledge, access to places and experiences above her station, and all I get is some ass. My resources/time are worth more than that.
Only thing a 21 year got for a 30+ guy is pu$$y and problems, and chances are the pu$$y mid because she doesn't know what she's doing yet. If she does know what she's doing its likely because she's got heavy practice which is problematic for obvious reasons. If youre in your 30s she probably doesn't even really want to fuk you unless you got some stuff for her, she'd much rather be smashing that football senior on campus but he's likely still broke.
What does a 20 year old have that a 26 year old doesnt have except more whinning and immaturity?
Yall keep thinking these young girls are some sort of preferred women because they arent "damaged" and you can treat them like a bag of chips, dont complain when you end up looking like Shannon Sharpe or Billy Belichek.
If you can’t get/don’t like younger women then do you but i’ve dated 19-35 and everything in between. I know what I like.
I’m not about to break down all the reasons for you not to date older if you want to. Do you.