Just lost my dad to lung cancer…how do you deal with losing a parent?

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This is the worst feeling I have ever felt. My pops taught me everything on how to be man and how to do right. I was by his side all the time nikka was my best friend…how do you cope with this shyt ???
I lost my mother over the summer. Honestly, there is really nothing I can tell you that would be helpful or take the sting out of it. You just have to sit with your pain, hurt, and feelings. You have to face the hurt and go through it.. There's no way around it. Everything that you're feeling is what you're supposed to be feeling but you have to face it head on.
 
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First, I'm sorry to hear this happened to you and your family, breh. Unimaginable to experience something so tragic and I feel for you and hope (and know) you can get through this with the support of friends, family and other loved ones you have in your corner.

The grief of losing someone so influential and important in your life seems at times to be insurmountable and our minds will convince us that that is the case but it's not. It's like being at the bottom of the deepest part of the ocean and having to swim up to the surface, it seems like it'll take forever but trust that with time - you'll get there eventually.

With each passing second, minute, hour, day, week, month and year - the memories you and your father shared together that make you bawl uncontrollably will be the same memories that will later put a smile on your face in moments of reminiscing. Trust the process and let time heal you, bro.

R.I.P. to your pops, sounds like he was a great man.
 

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R.I.P. to your pops and blessings to your family.

The pain will never go away you just learn to live with it.

I think its best to think of how blessed you were to have him as a father and to use that energy to strive in life... its difficult but anytime you are going through something remember everything he taught you and his words of encouragement
 

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Even towards the end he was telling me " don't do none of tnay crying shyt " so that’s what I’m trying to do . I’m sending my prayers and love to everyone this holiday season..enjoy your people blood or not enjoy them…
You have to cry bro if you need to. What pops meant was to cry but keep your dignity and don't fall apart. The crying has to eventually stop and you have to continue your journey without his physical presence. He wants to know that he raised a resilient son.


I didn't cry when my mom died. I didn't cry during the lead up to her funeral. It took until about a week after the funeral for all the pent up emotions I had been carrying to come flooding out. I was just numb from the moment she died until the funeral. I can't even explain why because I don't know.
 

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You have to cry bro if you need to. What pops meant was to cry but keep your dignity and don't fall apart. The crying has to eventually stop and you have to continue your journey without his physical presence. He wants to know that he raised a resilient son.


I didn't cry when my mom died. I didn't cry during the lead up to her funeral. It took until about a week after the funeral for all the pent up emotions I had been carrying to come flooding out. I was just numb from the moment she died until the funeral. I can't even explain why because I don't know.
I didn’t even look at it like that bro. That’s a good point man. And I feel you on the whole numb feeling bro I feel you.
 

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One day at a time. Don’t be afraid to be emotional and cry it out. My best friend/cousin died a couple of months ago. It’s taken me almost two months just to feel somewhat normal.

You’lll notice that the 5 stages of grief is something we all experience, but it’s not a linear experience. You”ll go from denial, to depression, to anger, to bargaining , back to anger, back to denial, back to acceptance, only for to be depressed and angry again. It’s just a constant back and fourth of having these emotions. But don’t be afraid to feel these emotions. Feel all of it, then cry it all out.

Also take this time to draw closer to God. Read the Bible, pray, ask God for direction and guidance though these tough times. Death hurts so much because it feels so permanent, but you also have to remember that we our souls, so when we die, we are merely crossing over to eternal life. In the end only Christ can save us. The pain we go through in this lifetime is meant to draw us closer to God. The pain isn’t as Bad when you know our loving God is in control.

There’s no time limit on mourning. 1 day at time, cry as much as you need too, and ask God if it’s ok for your Dad to visit you in your dreams or it’s ok to visit him on the other side. I’ve prayed the same thing to God and I’ve met my cousin through dream on 5 or 6 different occasions where I know it’s him trying to communicate with me. When you see your Dad in your dreams tell him you love him and that you’ll see him soon
 
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Let the dead bury the dead. Grieve for the living.
 
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