Keep It Real: Have any of you ever practiced COLORISM?

[The Gentleman]

This question is for the dudes and the ladies.

Have you ever discriminated against the opposite sex because wthey were too dark or light?

I can't recall one moment in my life where I've passed a women up because of her complexion. Personally I'm a dark skin breh and have gotten play from all types of women. However the ones that did pass me up due to my complexion were usually other dark skin women or brown skin women. And they were very explicit about it.

From what I've seen a lot black men are colorstruck. I use to deny that was the case but its true. I've spoken to a lot of ds women and they all have had experiences where black men have derogatory comments about their complexion. Even more concerning is the amount of black male celebrities who've publicly humiliated ds women for no reason. Its sickening to me and can kind of understand why so many ds women in particular are swirlers. We have to do better. I can't think of a more ignorant reason not to date someone.

People are allowed preferences. The suckers are just gonna have to deal with it and stop crying all the time.

 

[Pure Water]

Nope. I will admit to have practiced texturism. I chose a dark skin girl over a light skin girl because of her hair texture. Now, I generally look at hair thickness and hairline in a women.

 

[Matt504]

SO JUST BECAUSE THERE ARE SOME
CLOWN nikkaS WHO PRACTICE COLORISM YOURE GONNA PUT
THAT ON THE MAJORITY OF BLACK MEN?

USING THIS LOGIC YOUVE DEFINITELY
SHAT ON DARK GIRLS AND PROJECTING
YOUR shyt ON TO EVERYONE ELSE.


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Where in the world am I putting this majority of anything on Black men? Spend more time reading and less time picking out colors and emoji.

 

[Memorial Stadium Piru]

In middle school, this girl was shytting on me calling me ugly & I told her she looked like a freshly paved road

I never cared about complexion though, I was just trying to hit her where it would hurt. As an adult, I'd even go out on a limb and say I prefer darkskin girls. Idk why but I get more turned on & bust better nuts when the girl is the same skin tone or darker than me

 

[Matt504]

Nah, it doesnt work and only cripples your choices to quality women..plenty of lights are ugly. So?

This is just plain wrong and I've seen countless ways where it has been deployed over my life.

One example is in a group of friends, the lighter skinned women will generally get preferential treatment from the men present, women know where they fall in the hierarchy of their friend groups and more importantly, why they do. Men also recognize this, at least in the experiences I've had with my male friends.

One thing brothers would do is target darker skinned women who's friend groups resemble what I've described above, single them out and show them an inordinate amount of attention, a level beyond what they'd ordinarily get and those women were waaaaay easier to smash.

Many brothers understand the dynamics of colorism and some even know how to exploit them for their own gain, it's literally why "you're pretty for a dark skin girl" is used as a compliment by many brothers in spite of it being demeaning and insulting.

 

[CHICAGO]

Where in the world am I putting this majority of anything on Black men? Spend more time reading and less time picking out colors and emoji.

THE MAJORITY OF BLACK MEN
CAME IN HERE AND SAID NO....
INSTEAD OF JUST ANSWERING THE QUESTION AND KEEPING IT MOVING.
YOU CAME ALONG AND SAID
"COLI nikka NOT GONNA ADMIT TO COLORISM
BUT EVERY DARK SKIN GIRL HAS
A COLORISM STORY"

FOH GOOFY nikka


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[The Gentleman]

No and it’s the most asinine claim to place on Black Men.

This is so correct. Black men have become easy scapegoat for some women lack of desire ability and low self-esteem.

 

[Matt504]

THE MAJORITY OF BLACK MEN
CAME IN HERE AND SAID NO....
INSTEAD OF JUST ANSWERING THE QUESTION AND KEEPING IT MOVING.
YOU CAME ALONG AND SAID
"COLI nikka NOT GONNA ADMIT TO COLORISM
BUT EVERY DARK SKIN GIRL HAS
A COLORISM STORY"

FOH GOOFY nikka


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Yes, that's what I said. I'll leave it to you to figure out why that's not the same thing as "putting that on the majority of Black men"

 

[Cornershooter]

I didn’t even know colorism was a thing until I was like 20 . I’ve always liked both

and didn’t understand that some guys didn’t like dark skin women. Dark skin women with that shiny lip gloss .

 

[Givethanks]

Ass or titties?

 

[The Gentleman]

This is just plain wrong and I've seen countless ways where it has been deployed over my life.

One example is in a group of friends, the lighter skinned women will generally get preferential treatment from the men present, women know where they fall in the hierarchy of their friend groups and more importantly, why they do. Men also recognize this, at least in the experiences I've had with my male friends.

One thing brothers would do is target darker skinned women who's friend groups resemble what I've described above, single them out and show them an inordinate amount of attention, a level beyond what they'd ordinarily get and those women were waaaaay easier to smash.

Many brothers understand the dynamics of colorism and some even know how to exploit them for their own gain, it's literally why "you're pretty for a dark skin girl" is used as a compliment by many brothers in spite of it being demeaning and insulting.

Why put this on the shoulders of black men when most of the world is into skin color. That’s what racism is prejudice towards someone’s skin color.

And here’s another thing; what if a man just prefers lighter skin women point blank. Why must he hide it appease Women he’s not even into?

 

[High Art]

You'd be hard-pressed to find any brothers who will come in here and openly admit to this just like you would struggle to find dark skin women who DON'T have a story where they've been mistreated because of the color of their skin.

You do realize that women practice that as well, right? It was common in many places, especially in the south, and I used to hear comments about my skin (apparently I'm light though I don't think I am) and my hair (looks like Russell Wilson's) and how much they love it. It's from them I heard of "good hair", something I and my family were actually pretty ignorant of too.

In any case, I'm not colorist nor used that as a means of treating people differently.

 

[The Gentleman]

You do realize that women practice that as well, right? It was common in many places, especially in the south, and I used to hear comments about my skin (apparently I'm light though I don't think I am) and my hair (looks like Russell Wilson's) and how much they love it. It's from them i heard of "good hair", something I and my family were actually pretty ignorant too.

In any case, I'm not colorist nor used that as a means of treating people differently.

Of course women and girls practice this colorism thing. When I was growing up you should have seen how women react to a light skin straight or curly haired guy with green eyes.

And let’s not talk about the girls that went out purposely to get pregnant by like Light skin guys with good hair.

Of course I’m a grown man now and I understand it is what it is. You’re not going to see me complaining about it for the next 50 years.

 

[Micky Mikey]

Dark skin blk people need to fix their self esteem issues. Their self hate is one of the main things hindering blk peoples collective progress.

The world has a bias towards lighter skin. And that rings true amongst all races of people. You go to any corner of the globe and you'll see the darkest people are usually the most mistreated and economically disadvantaged. And we as black people who're in the diaspora have been completely indoctrinated to have a preference for lighter skin. It should really be no surprise to see dark skin people with self esteeem issues.

 

[Max Power]

SO JUST BECAUSE THERE ARE SOME
CLOWN nikkaS WHO PRACTICE COLORISM YOURE GONNA PUT
THAT ON THE MAJORITY OF BLACK MEN?

USING THIS LOGIC YOUVE DEFINITELY
SHAT ON DARK GIRLS AND PROJECTING
YOUR shyt ON TO EVERYONE ELSE.


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He's a future transgender, he genuinely hates being a man and will shyt on his own kind any chance he gets.