I've seen young women take the advice of a jaded, divorced, fat woman over mine and I was truly confused as to why. So I asked, not in so many words ofc, why would you take the advice of a failure? Bc they think happy and satisfied women 'don't know their struggle'. So, bc I never got left with no kids, had my credit fukked up, or otherwise played myself with a man, I couldn't possibly give them advice on how to avoid it.
But that's exactly the point, right? I've proved I could avoid it. You should be taking advice from the person who did it right, not the fukk up, right??