He's asking why the person that sired him isn't present in his life, there's no world where that's an entry level question.
Thats actually not what he asked


He asked 1) do I have a dad, and 2) what’s his name 3) does he know I’m smart. The rest was the thoughts of a child, not an adult processing years of trauma. YOU processed that as THE MONENT requiring a grandiose moment and answer
Your response, and hers, is a great example of how parental biases and personality affects how you communicate with your your child. 5 year old brain got y’all flustered. You don’t believe in “protecting’ your child to any extent so he need to know why his daddy ain’t around right NOW.