Kid asks his mom if he has a father.

[Braman]

This makes no sense, wouldn't the son be even more devastated that his own superman isn't present in his life?

There's no value in lying to kids, it's an exercise in kicking a can down the road and one day she'd have to account for lying to her son.

Protecting the image of the father is not lying.

Unless you wanna be dense and consider lying by omission a lie. In that case yea let’s not ‘kick the can down the road’ and let’s keep it real ‘yea son you were a complete accident I barely knew uh…shyt…Tyrell! I have no idea where he is and he don’t really care about you’

 

[The ADD]

Because he’s 5

Mom: Your dad is the best dad ever!
Kid: why don’t I ever see him?

 

[analog]

There's a likelihood this poor child is going to grow up to think children don't need a father in their lives and continue the same cycle

Boys who don't know better, cause of shyt parents, knocking up girls who don't know better cause of shyt parenting...

An over correction gotta come at some point. Motherfukkers going to need training, and a license to even think about procreating or some something...

 

[Braman]

Mom: Your dad is the best dad ever!
Kid: why don’t I ever see him?

I use words for a living you got the wrong one champ. I said ‘let him believe his dad is Superman’ and ‘protect the father’s image’. I ain’t say none of that goofy shyt you talkin

‘Think his dad is Superman’ isnt literal. And it doesn’t require a mothers hype. It’s a natural bias. Do you have or have you been around kids?

 

[The ADD]

I use words for a living you got the wrong one champ. I said ‘let him believe his dad is Superman’ and ‘protect the father’s image’. I ain’t say none of that goofy shyt you talkin

‘Think his dad is Superman’ isnt literal. And it doesn’t require a mothers hype. It’s a natural bias. Do you have or have you been around kids?

Clearly in this case the kid doesn’t have that perspective and knows something is missing.

So what should have been her answer to the kids questions?

 

[Matt504]

I use words for a living you got the wrong one champ. I said ‘let him believe his dad is Superman’ and ‘protect the father’s image’. I ain’t say none of that goofy shyt you talkin

‘Think his dad is Superman’ isnt literal. And it doesn’t require a mothers hype. It’s a natural bias. Do you have or have you been around kids?

How is a child going to reach that kind of conclusion about a man that isn't present in their life? When you say the mother should "protect" the father's image, what does that look like in practice?

 

[Braman]

So what should have been her answer to the kids questions?

He said ‘does he know I’m really smart, if he knew maybe he would trust us’

At that point he’s equating the father not being there to him (the child) not being good enough. THAT is what you address and nip in the bud. ‘Sometimes fathers and mothers don’t live together but you’re smart blah blah …I’d need more context to flesh out the rest.

She didnt really do that. Bless her heart, she doin her best, but she gave an ambiguous answer that if it confused us grown ass men I’m sure his 5 year old brain didn’t register. She probably would have given a better answer if she wasn’t trying to answer on the fly to make for good content

 

[skyrunner1]

"His name is... Tyrell".

The dad might not actually know he is a father to that kid. You shouldn’t really struggle to remember the name of your kid's dad.

Exactly, "Tyrell" probably dont exist, she probably dont know who the father is..

 

[Braman]

How is a child going to reach that kind of conclusion about a man that isn't present in their life? When you say the mother should "protect" the father's image, what does that look like in practice?

What do you mean ‘reach that conclusion’ like he’s an adult conducting research. Why do children idolize a Santa clause that doesn’t exist ? Bc they’re kids.

Even the way he’s framing his questions of a father he apparently didnt know he had, shows an innate reverence. ‘Maybe if he knows I’m smart he’ll trust us’.

In practice, you let him have that reverence. When it’s his time, thru the natural progression as a child, thru the types of questions he asks you, HE will realize that his daddy ain’t there and 1 + 1 will = 2 and HE will decide (if) daddy ain’t shyt. Let that process work.

 

[The ADD]

He said ‘does he know I’m really smart, if he knew maybe he would trust us’

At that point he’s equating the father not being there to him (the child) not being good enough. THAT is what you address and nip in the bud. ‘Sometimes fathers and mothers don’t live together but you’re smart blah blah …I’d need more context to flesh out the rest.

She didnt really do that. Bless her heart, she doin her best, but she gave an ambiguous answer that if it confused us grown ass men I’m sure his 5 year old brain didn’t register. She probably would have given a better answer if she wasn’t trying to answer on the fly to make for good content

He said ‘does he know I’m really smart, if he knew maybe he would trust us’

At that point he’s equating the father not being there to him (the child) not being good enough. THAT is what you address and nip in the bud. ‘Sometimes fathers and mothers don’t live together but you’re smart blah blah …I’d need more context to flesh out the rest.

She didnt really do that. Bless her heart, she doin her best, but she gave an ambiguous answer that if it confused us grown ass men I’m sure his 5 year old brain didn’t register. She probably would have given a better answer if she wasn’t trying to answer on the fly to make for good content

In this case the kid hasn’t gotten that far because he asked if he had a dad, not why they don’t live together. So she could tell him he’s plenty smart but that doesn’t seem like it’s going to truly answer the kids line of questioning.

 

[Matt504]

What do you mean ‘reach that conclusion’ like he’s an adult conducting research. Why do children idolize a Santa clause that doesn’t exist ? Bc they’re kids.

Even the way he’s framing his questions of a father he apparently didnt know he had, shows an innate reverence. ‘Maybe if he knows I’m smart he’ll trust us’.

In practice, you let him have that reverence. When it’s his time, thru the natural progression as a child, HE will realize that his daddy ain’t there and 1 + 1 will = 2 and HE will decide (if) daddy ain’t shyt. Let that process work.

Children idolize Santa Clause because adults literally lie to them about his existence and they also give this fictional character credit for the gifts they receive on Christmas.

Kids have the ability to reach conclusions about things just as adults do. You just shared an example of a theory the child has about why his dad isn't around. He thinks there may be a trust issue that could be resolved by the father learning how smart he is. The mother could tell him that his dad knows how smart he is but that would only invite more questions from the child, questions she'd probably have to answer with lies to "protect" the father's image.

 

[Methodical]

This almost makes me cry . I always have a soft spot when comes to kids.

 

[savagek]

Kid is smarter than his mother

 

[Braman]

Children idolize Santa Clause because adults literally lie to them about his existence and they also give this fictional character credit for the gifts they receive on Christmas.

Kids have the ability to reach conclusions about things just as adults do. You just shared an example of a theory the child has about why his dad isn't around. He thinks there may be a trust issue that could be resolved by the father learning how smart he is. The mother could tell him that his dad knows how smart he is but that would only invite more questions from the child, questions she'd probably have to answer with lies to "protect" the father's image.

@ first bold, Children learn a ton from other kids and what they see as well, so ‘adults lie’ isn’t the end all be all (Ie him even knowing to ask about a dad)

@ 2nd bold, yea, i just said that:

HE will realize that his daddy ain’t there and 1 + 1 will = 2

@ 3rd bold, never said she needed to.
He’s a child not Dan Rather. He presented his “theory” and her as an adult should be able to address his thought—-it was not a question—-without being backed into a lie or answering an unanswerable.

If a 5 year old is jamming you up with entry level questions, when these questions are gona get a lot tougher, it’s a very bad sign

 

[Matt504]

@ first bold, Children learn a ton from other kids and what they see as well, so ‘adults lie’ isn’t the end all be all (Ie him even knowing to ask about a dad)

@ 2nd bold, yea, i just said that:



@ 3rd bold, never said she needed to.
He’s a child not Dan Rather. He presented his “theory” and her as an adult should be able to address his thought—-it was not a question—-without being backed into a lie or answering an unanswerable.

If a 5 year old is jamming you up with entry level questions, when these questions are gona get a lot tougher, it’s a very bad sign

He's asking why the person that sired him isn't present in his life, there's no world where that's an entry level question.