Ladies, come here and chime in on this

[Incogno]

any woman who cares about forming a real connection/bond with a man...wouldn't agree to being in a relationship with a man who wants to sleep with multiple women....men who base their existence around cheap thrills aren't to be taken serious....they aren't real relationship material...or real marriage material...even though a lot of these men will jump on a high horse...and claim they are "one of a kind"..or "good men"...lol

there are men out there who care about being in real relationships/marriages....even if a woman has to stay single and just enjoy the simple things in life...i would recommend that instead of just jumping into a meaningless companionship with a man who just wants to objectify her....usually when a woman focuses on just enjoying the simple things in life...that's when she meets the right man....cause quality men usually appreciate the simple things in life too....

monogamy is natural...the thing is a lot of men just don't want it to be...they want to have an excuse to base their worth and existence on cheap thrills...instead of real developing relationships with women....

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

He know I'm crazy as shyt.

 

[The Mad Titan]

I dont understand this natural unnatural thing, all human emotions and feelings are natural. Some are just easy and some aren't. You get horny you want to have sex, some people more than others. Its easier to do what feels good to us.

Stealing, lying, eating, you know whatever floats your boat. That doesn't make those things more "natural" than the inverse.

 

[Absalom's Thought]

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[CinnaSlim]

I'd make you love me


Cuddles and kisses

 

[Raava]

When did you become a mod?
Y'all fukkin up

Been a mod

Who are you to care?

 

[Absalom's Thought]

.

 

[Raava]

you sure? maybe it's just me...

deez

I got nothing.


I'm saying, its shocking that it would matter to you either way. You noticed something or cared enough that it makes a difference to you

 

[StickStickly]

I think overtime the resentment would build. You may love him but you won't be in love and it would be easy to want to find and feel you deserve to find love somewhere else that's less stressful.

People say monogamy isn't natural but the chemicals your brain created from the anxiety fear disappointment is

 

[Jone2three45]

 

[TRUEST]

Before you read this, please be open minded and keep the name calling out of this thread. Im trying to encourage a serious discussion here. Let me cook, damn it.

Do you care if he fukks around as long as you know you're the "main"?

Had this discussion with a friend of mine last night. Fine trini chick ive been friends with for a while. We're just friends and I'm cool with her dude too.

Anyway, we're at my house drinking some wine and talking we were talking about her sister breaking up with her boyfriend of 2 years. She was saying how dude wasnt good enought for her sister and so on and that she was cheating on her at which point she said " well.. to be fair...As far as the cheating theing goes, I myself dont believe in monogomy like that. Im with my man righ now. I know he's fukked other chicks. I know ive fukked other dudes. All that matters to me is that im the main chick. Im the one he spends his money on and does things with. As long as he dont bring them around me and use protection and we're not bringing anything home, im good"

Now...In the past 10 years ive become more and more open to open relationships and open marriages. I love the fact that more and more women are embracing that concept because let's face it: monogamy as we know it is NOT sustainable. The divorce rates and cheating rates is all the proof you need.

I know there are advantages to both being the main and the side chick/dude. If you're comfortable with your role and you're getting the person you WANT, does it matter if he's busted down a few random brawds while out chilling?

the idea of it is basedd on foolishness. why should she be his main and spend his money on her when she's spreading her legs for other men? wtf kinda reasoning is this. if im paying most of the time we do sh1t, i reserve the right to fucck who i want.

 

[Sassy]

fukk no! I care! If he messes around, They gonna end up like Moira and Hugo in American Horror Story.

Well...at least in my mind, they'll end up like that.

But really though, I'd rather have him break it off with me than cheat on me.

 

[KravenMorehead™]

please be open minded and keep the name calling out of this thread. Im trying to encourage a serious discussion here. Let me cook, damn it.

my nikka came thru with the extra disclaimer

 

[intruder]

Yeah, @Intruder v3.0 ...this went about as well as it could've gone. lol

I just wish for a world with sexual freedom, breh.
Seems like the Coli ain't ready for this concept.
But one day... One day, breh. Some day, we shall overcome . I have a dream that one day we as human beings will stop cuffing/stifling each other sexualy

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Funny thing is I went on a double date last night and the dude in the other couple was hilarious and clearly a cheater. My date told me dude is wild and was shocked he had gotten so serious and athough they had been dating almost 10 years he never met her...but he had met others. Anyway, dude has a lawyer and had bread to spend.

It was clearly a situation were she was tolerating some wild behavior from him b/c he had money. He knew it too. He literally would say he loved his girl but make "jokes" about her being a gold digger. He literally called her a gold digger about 3 times and then made jokes about her wanting to stay home and whatnot.

It couldn't be me but I don't knock the hustle. shyt is too stressful for me. I only ask for what I give. I like the post that talked about the "golden rule". I think that is the perfect response.