Ladies Ever Consider Submission as a Way to Win?
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So how did you interact with people before this? I don’t really feel like the things you were doing were submissive, more so flattering and letting the other person talk. Most people will “like/enjoy” you if get them to talk about themselves comfortably without fear of critiques or judgments.
It depends on who you are dealing with and your end goal. Yes letting others talk is one way to gain likability if that is your goal but I think this thread goes a little beyond that.
I've been doing it so long at this point it's second nature. The downside is I probably notice the lack of these qualities in other women a lot more...and it's disheartening to say the least. Because I go out of my way to be nice it becomes really obvious that others don't. Some men too but that's another tread. I have my own complaints about them.
Like I was training this young lady on Wednesday and she was just soooo resistant. Like she refused to be receptive. I spent 8 hours with her and she didn't warm up to me until hour 6.
And after she got comfortable enough with me and declared me the best trainer ever what does she do? Starts asking me wtf is wrong with all the other women. 
She gonna be a whole problem for somebody.
Or yesterday I went to drop off something to a friend of mine who does hair. She is doing great with her own salon. The salon is small and she was doing a client's hair. When I walked in the lady gave me the once over, didn't wanna let me walk by and spent the whole 20 minutes I was there trying to throw shade. Everything I said to my friends he had a sly comment.
Idk why women treat each other like that. There is zero benefit treating a random women in a funky manner. Literally you have nothing to gain by being an a$$hole. Like, the chick isn't gonna be less attractive or successful because you give her an attitude. Women just lose so many opportunities with that shyt. That's not to say don't meet personable women. I do but they are just few and far between.
Like I was training this young lady on Wednesday and she was just soooo resistant. Like she refused to be receptive. I spent 8 hours with her and she didn't warm up to me until hour 6.
And after she got comfortable enough with me and declared me the best trainer ever what does she do? Starts asking me wtf is wrong with all the other women. She gonna be a whole problem for somebody. Or yesterday I went to drop off something to a friend of mine who does hair. She is doing great with her own salon. The salon is small and she was doing a client's hair. When I walked in the lady gave me the once over, didn't wanna let me walk by and spent the whole 20 minutes I was there trying to throw shade. Everything I said to my friends he had a sly comment.
Idk why women treat each other like that. There is zero benefit treating a random women in a funky manner. Literally you have nothing to gain by being an a$$hole. Like, the chick isn't gonna be less attractive or successful because you give her an attitude. Women just lose so many opportunities with that shyt. That's not to say don't meet personable women. I do but they are just few and far between.
ultraflexed
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After being hear a few years an reading this..I'm kinda shocked your not at least engaged...
So what's holding you back
So what's holding you back
True Blue Moon
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Great thread 
Maxine Shaw
#ColiFam gave more $ 2 my students than my school
Translation: would you put on an act to manipulate a man just to get what you want? I'm not that good of an actress. And what exactly, would I be submitting *for*? In order to get shyt done that I can get on my own?
Not even a queen...a princess. Talk about a low bar.
Not even a queen...a princess. Talk about a low bar.
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seabreeze80
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I'm naturally submissive. Being submissive has its ups and downs. 
After being hear a few years an reading this..I'm kinda shocked your not at least engaged...
I am happier single honestly. Though I obviously troll here I put in a lot of work to constantly improve myself but the majority of people don't.
So it's cool to be a better person but when the people you date don't reciprocate that same energy it's somewhat null.
It gets to the point were being involved with people becomes a downgrade to your overall wellbeing. For example, if I am happy with myself, work on my traumas, communicate in a respectful way that is resolution based, make sure I positively contribute to the lives of others around me and I date someone who has poor communication, trying to play games, just poorly regulates his emotions etc the negatives start to out way the positives.
I can't tell you how many times I thought to myself "Why am I dealing with this guy? I am so much happier when I am NOT around him."
And that pretty much what it comes down to. I haven't really found a guy that makes me feel better or even just equally as happy with him as I am as when I'm not.
And I'm not expecting perfection but just finding someone who is resolution based with a positive outlook is a fukking struggle. So at the moment I'm in limbo. Later this year I'll date more but I need to recharge my battery for now.
Re-read this thread with a much grown up mind, and this wouldn’t hurt to try. I don’t have any luck with men at all...but it would probably be cool to try with random interactions with strangers. I’ve kinda found myself in a place where I want to be a better person, and want good things but my own deep rooted negativity on life is probably my biggest hinderance.
thanks for the thread, I really regret my initial reaction of this thread of not even putting this to consideration.
thanks for the thread, I really regret my initial reaction of this thread of not even putting this to consideration.
LeeDoubleLee
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What do you mean that she was resistant to during the training? Was she just quiet or something else?I've been doing it so long at this point it's second nature. The downside is I probably notice the lack of these qualities in other women a lot more...and it's disheartening to say the least. Because I go out of my way to be nice it becomes really obvious that others don't. Some men too but that's another tread. I have my own complaints about them.
Like I was training this young lady on Wednesday and she was just soooo resistant. Like she refused to be receptive. I spent 8 hours with her and she didn't warm up to me until hour 6.
Or yesterday I went to drop off something to a friend of mine who does hair. She is doing great with her own salon. The salon is small and she was doing a client's hair. When I walked in the lady gave me the once over, didn't wanna let me walk by and spent the whole 20 minutes I was there trying to throw shade. Everything I said to my friends he had a sly comment.
Idk why women treat each other like that. There is zero benefit treating a random women in a funky manner. Literally you have nothing to gain by being an a$$hole. Like, the chick isn't gonna be less attractive or successful because you give her an attitude. Women just lose so many opportunities with that shyt. That's not to say don't meet personable women. I do but they are just few and far between.
No she just didn't want to listen, she was standoffish and kept trying to tell me how we were "suppose" to do things.
Funny enough she just got herself in hot water for talking crazy to another female coworker. She came to me yesterday like "Oh they didn't give me the shift I wanted." I wanted to ask her why would she think you could talk to someone like that, the same person who gives out shifts, for a mistake you repeatedly make and think everything would be gravy?
But I didn't. That's not my business. I did my part with her.
The women she cussed out is attractive and super friendly. She always touching me, holding my hand and hugging me. I think she's a not so undercover freak.
But hardly a person who would warrant being talked to in such a manner. One of the nicest women I have ever met and certainly the nicest attractive woman I have ever met.Like I said, there is literally nothing to gain by being mean to other women. It's such a waste of energy and does women such a great disservice to themselves.
LeeDoubleLee
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She is a complete idiot. SmhNo she just didn't want to listen, she was standoffish and kept trying to tell me how we were "suppose" to do things.
Funny enough she just got herself in hot water for talking crazy to another female coworker. She came to me yesterday like "Oh they didn't give me the shift I wanted." I wanted to ask her why would she think you could talk to someone like that, the same person who gives out shifts, for a mistake you repeatedly make and think everything would be gravy?
But I didn't. That's not my business. I did my part with her.
The women she cussed out is attractive and super friendly. She always touching me, holding my hand and hugging me. I think she's a not so undercover freak.
Like I said, there is literally nothing to gain by being mean to other women. It's such a waste of energy and does women such a great disservice to themselves.
CinnaSlim
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