Facts, you got to put your foot down
fukk that! If the woman is doing a lot of texting or isn't acting right, I feel it's only right you drop her and get another one. Don't even waste your time. There are millions of women out there and more women then men in this world so with that said if shyt is going left and you're moving right you just got to keep it moving lol. She will learn when she has three kids and no ring, stretch marks and is old and alone.
Facts, you got to put your foot down
Pardon me, I had to take some time and really read an analyze what your saying and at the end of the day as you even said, it may indicate a man's money is not an issue but that not always true. A man can pay and still not be worth a shyt. In fact most men paid for the first dates and ended up going on to be absentee fathers, broke bums or worse. With that said, is this a false sense of security?Also what do you have to put on the table in a relationship? What should men be looking for from women in a healthy relationship?
Perhaps it's a false sense of security, but if that was what she looked for in that situation, but the guy proves to be completely different down the line, she can act accordingly. (This is kind of a lazy response to that question lol)
And as of now, I have basically nothing to put on the table, which is why I don't date atm. I'm a not-so-financially-stable college student, and my focus is on bettering my future (financially at least). For this reason, I'm not in the frame of mind to give affection, intimacy/sex, companionship, understanding, love, time, encouragement, and effort to someone relationship-wise. It would be half-assed and not worth it. I think a guy should look for the things I mentioned, but I may not be the best person to ask considering I don't do relationships...
Also as for your second paragraph, great advice. I'm going to greatly consider that because that is the issue here, I don't have an issue paying but don't want to waste my time and money on a women not worth it. That is my only gripe and why I feel a man shouldn't pay on the first date if he doesn't know the woman well.
And it's a very understandable gripe, which is why I tried to think of some solutions.
Well it's just a theory I threw down and I'm not saying it's facts but many marriages end up in divorce or separation and I feel part of it is because sometimes the women doesn't have anything to put on the table. I understand it's a man's job to provide but that doesn't mean the woman should be a bum tbh, I feel the woman in a relationship should be focused and driven as well as the man. The women has to be able to put money on the table and that is why I feel it's best that a woman pays on the first date to show she doesn't have an issue with bringing something to the table and also you can get to know her and it's not just about a free meal for her.
If many relationships end in divorce and many black women are single then obviously we are doing something wrong and have to change our approach and come up with a solution. Do you agree?
I agree, but I don't think men not paying will solve underlying issues.
more then likely she will only truly find out if it's different further down the line anyway so men paying for the first date really won't make any difference only give you a false assumption 
Also I know what it's like to be a broke college student lol. I had to find a job and learn to save and it wasn't easy but I just couldn't be that broke anymore lol. I just finished classes in December and now I'm looking for a new job but all the best with college, stay focused. Time passes and before you know it it's over and then life really begins.Right, it's not easy and if you sistas were in our shoes you wouldn't want to pay either for what could be a fluke.
Well what do they say about those who assume? If a man pays for your meal you might assume a lot that is positive like he can provide for instance but he might very well be a bum.
Wait I just realized, you said 1 dollar taco and 50 cent wing? Then you mention flowers too. That is way over 10 dollars where I live. I live in NY where things cost more then that around here
Wait I just realized, you said 1 dollar taco and 50 cent wing? Then you mention flowers too. That is way over 10 dollars where I live. I live in NY where things cost more then that around here
What’s your problem? Dates are wack in the first place, no need to spend all your money.
Oh understood, i like that ideal that makes sense. I see now.
Date someone else then. $10 for two people is not a lot of money to lose. You lend friends that amount without wanting it back.Not all women want to hear that though, a lot of them out here want a big first date. Also if it's not worth it it will be 10 dollars I won't be getting back
Your ideas are cool but hardly anyones game for that.
