ItchyWeave
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I don't give a fukk. Real nikkas gon' come up to me and speak....
Ladies, What Goes Through Women's Heads When Y'all Are Not Approached?
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At my whole blocked list coming out to defend this dude who obviously has a problem. Ya'll will even let your man be retarded as long as it gives you a chance to come with the same weak ass insults. Ya'll ain't shyt and then you have the nerve to be boring about.
You are seriously smarter than this. It does not work b/c it is a very casual approach to something that really shouldn't be causal. That is why so many people get burned. It is about taking personal responsible for the people you let into your life; a concept associated with maturity. On top of that, it is incredibly ineffective and mediocre.
It's amazing to see so many people defend a very low level and unintelligent approach to dating. I'm talking about using your brain not your dikk to get better quality people in your life and ya'll (general) want to fight it tooth and nail. So be it. I have no stock in what ya'll do and could really careless. I was asked a question and answered it.
I'm still not seeing anything other than you like this method and think it works better for you.
Maybe if you explain how drawing out conversation over several events is better for the general population than obtaining contact info and conversing at will. How is obtaining contact info more casual than waiting/hoping to see someone at the next event? And how is obtaining contact info irresponsible & immature?
Why do you equate drawing out the process of getting to know someone with maturity? And why do you equate obtaining contact info to thinking with my dikk? It's the same people at the same events. Why would the quality of those folks differ because I obtain contact info?
And why do you trust other people's skewed perspectives? There are 2 sides to every story. Why do you put so much stock in what some stranger says about another stranger? Maybe the person you're getting the dirt from is the one with problems?
And how has your method worked better for you than the traditional methods have worked for others. I'm betting there are more folks here in relationships with the later. Last I read from you, you were single. Are you not looking seriously? Are you still waiting to bump into a prospect at another function?
I guess I'm looking for more back up and less name calling.
I have already explained my POV several time but since I am in a good mood...
Maybe if you explain how drawing out conversation over several events is better for the general population than obtaining contact info and conversing at will.
It allows you have the conversations (or similar) prior to giving out contact info. Not everyone is keen on giving you their info. It's a small buffer. I don't know about you but I've had plenty of instances where I've exchanged numbers with someone but after the first conversation I was done. Then the person kept calling and calling (or texting). I literally have had guys call or texts for weeks on end w/o a reply for me. I just a small measure to make sure that you like the person.
How is obtaining contact info more casual than waiting/hoping to see someone at the next event? And how is obtaining contact info irresponsible & immature?
Obtaining information is not what is up for debate. It's the way you go about obtaining that info. I really explained this point ad nauseum so I'll keep it short. The idea is to go to places, event etc. with the type of people you are interested in will be. For example, if you want a Christian go to a church event. You want someone into BDSM you go to one of those spots. If you want a golfer go to a golf event and so on. It's different, responsible and mature b/c you are actually putting some thought into the process and the people you want into your life. Randomly going up to someone involves no thought and is purely superficial. Thinking about what you do and trying to get the best possible results is an aspect of maturity.
Why do you equate drawing out the process of getting to know someone with maturity?
You keep looking at it like drawing out the process. It's not about drawing out the process. It's about deciding if you want the process to begin. It allows you to do some homework and also to feel more comfortable with having this person in your space...that is, if you value your time and space. If you don't the obviously this conversation wouldn't be applicable to you. It's just a wiser approach.
And why do you equate obtaining contact info to thinking with my dikk?
I equate randomly going up to someone you don't know with "your dikk" b/c it purely superficially and is only driven by someone's appearance. And we all know looks and quality have absolutely nothing to do with one another.
It's the same people at the same events. Why would the quality of those folks differ because I obtain contact info?
I don't understand this question. I never said that the quality of people would change at the event. The idea is to go to the event where the "quality" people are more likely to be. But that doesn't guarantee that the person you are talking to will be quality. You (I) still need to do some sort of vetting.
And why do you trust other people's skewed perspectives? There are 2 sides to every story. Why do you put so much stock in what some stranger says about another stranger? Maybe the person you're getting the dirt from is the one with problems?
Nothing is stopping you from obtaining both sides and deciding which you believe or don't believe. The point is to know that there is a story.
And how has your method worked better for you than the traditional methods have worked for others. I'm betting there are more folks here in relationships with the later. Last I read from you, you were single. Are you not looking seriously? Are you still waiting to bump into a prospect at another function?
The vast majority of people do not use my method and the vast majority of people fail at relationships. I only know one other person who has this perceptive (I modeled it off of him) and he has been happily married for over a decade.
I am actually in the process of starting a potential long term relationship. A guy has expressed interest and we are currently deciding if that is what will be best for us. Actually he is ready to go but I told him I want to take some time which he is perfectly fine with.
It's just alternative perceptive honey. It's not that serious. If you want to randomly go up to just anyone on the street and hope to get what you want that is up to you. There are a million flaws in the way dating is done and I am only attempting to correct them to the best of my ability so that I can get the results that I want. You may have different goals than I do. Again I don't enjoy wasting my time. I like picking from "quality" not hoping that I find it.
It's an intellectual approach to something that should be intellectualized. Think about how much better the Black community would be if people actually put real thought into the people they lay down with at night or people they gave the time of day.
The concept is really not that hard to understand. You just want to defend what you do. By all means do you. I am not telling you to do anything. I really don't care. If you want to be like everyone else then do so and get the results that everyone else gets.
Hopefully that's the 2nd conversation, and I assumed you had this problem in the past. I get that it works for you. I'm just not seeing how it's immature to exchange contact info at the 1st meeting.
I've had women call after my interest was gone. Being stern has always worked for me. My method is immature because I handled the situation differently than you?
Maybe we're not understanding each other. I completely get attending events with like minded people. It's how you feel about exchanging contact info that I don't get.
And it sounds like you think men aren't being superficial because they show some patience. Odds are any man that approaches you is attracted to you physically. Not giving him your number right away doesn't change that.
We disagree on when the process begins. I say the process begins when you meet that person. Our processes are just different. I want to get to know that person sooner than later. You feel better if the process to takes longer and they don't have your number before you know them... at least as much as a few events will allow.
I value my space & time and never had a problem using my method of meeting women. When I want to get to know a woman, I do it during dates. I can't imagine learning any less than you would by only having contact at these events.
Are these men you meet different than the rest of us? They're approaching you only because of similar interest in this event, not because they're attracted to you? I think you might be mistaken about that.
Sounds like we agree accept that you believe only talking to them at these events and getting info from their so called friends changes something.
I want my info 1st hand. I'm OK getting/giving a number to facilitate that. You somehow think that's immature.
For me to put weight on what someone says about a person, they'd have to be my friend, not theirs. I'd assume a woman talking bad about one of her "friends" has an agenda.
There's always a story. For every person you meet, there's another person willing to talk bad about them.
All of us have failed relationships. I don't see how giving a number out a few weeks earlier than you think is OK has much to do with that. I assume you continue to get to know someone well after you exchange contact info. Missing/ignoring signs plays a part. People disguising themselves plays a part. People changing plays a part. People getting into relationships before they really know someone plays a part. I don't see how talking on the phone with someone for a week or 2 before going on a date contributes to a failed relationship.
I have some relationships that didn't work out. I assure you that getting their number during a 1st encounter had nothing to do with things not working.
Only serious enough for you to call almost everyone immature.
I've met women on the street, at bars/lounges and at events where we're likely to have things in common. I have enough experience to feel comfortable saying where I met them and when they gave me their number had nothing to do with the success of any relationship. I also know they're the same women. I've met "quality" women at lounges while they were drinking and acking up with their homegirls. I've met less than quality at work related events, book signing, etc. with them looking and acting like a million $. I only discovered their character, or lack of, after talking to and hanging out with them a number of times.
As a man, I'm sure I have diffent goals initially.
Quality doesn't equal good relationships. Love, trust & understanding does. 2 folks with those qualities have a chance. One or both without, no matter how classy, driven, successful, won't work. I can't see you finding that out after conversing with them at a few events. Many times you don't know how a person is in a relationship until you're in one.
It's not intellectual. It's relationships. You thinking you have it figured out is a mistake.
We're not talking about putting thought into people. We're talking about how to go about meeting them.
I understand your method. I believe it works for you. But I'm only defending my maturity level.
We all have similarities, but I don't want to be like everyone else. And just like most things, your milage may vary.
I get your point now. Actually, I got it the 1st time and didn't realize it. You like your method and think it's better than everyone else's. So much so that anyone not using your method is immature. Cool.
I see where you're coming from. It sounds to me like you are goldigging. I mean that in a positive way because it shows me you know what you want out of life and know how to get it. I respect women like that, as long as they dont think they can game me and take their methods of getting what they want too far. Sometimes the mind games are fun, just know when to chill.TheSyou're coming t: 7793628 said:You all are about the now now now. If you all only knew how much further you would get with a little patience and mystery.The art of seduction is so lost on ya'll.
Women who act like they want certain qualities in men, yet never go looking for it, are a joke to me. Complain all day about men, but hit up spots where nikkas is just looking for quick ass, then get mad when the relationship isnt what they want. To me gold diggers, who do it for security and not for just materialistic reasons are the alpha females, so only certain men can handle them. Only a few are true alphas, most women are not, and thats not necessarily a bad thing.
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I love how this @TheStripper bytch is always trying to psychologically/medically diagnose people. Maybe you should have gone to school instead of becoming a whore
@Wild self
I believe @BAiiNE . I remember one time chilling on Atlantic ave., and all the pretty chicks walking by, there were two guys who would act crazy over them, and when they didn't give their numbers or name out they would diss them. One chick dropped what she had in her arms and straight up put her fist up to fight them. She was serious too. After that, I really saw what women go through, at least in the hood.
If the baiine chick is from the Bronx, I can believe her story considering the Bronx and Brooklyn have the same vibe, at least back then.
I believe @BAiiNE . I remember one time chilling on Atlantic ave., and all the pretty chicks walking by, there were two guys who would act crazy over them, and when they didn't give their numbers or name out they would diss them. One chick dropped what she had in her arms and straight up put her fist up to fight them. She was serious too. After that, I really saw what women go through, at least in the hood.
If the baiine chick is from the Bronx, I can believe her story considering the Bronx and Brooklyn have the same vibe, at least back then.
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