Lady Says Guys That Put Them On A Pedestal Are Not Attractive, Is This True?

[Gyasi85]

All women aren't the same, there isn't a definite way to treat women that guarantees getting what you want out of them.

A lot of this is about attractiveness anyway. When a dude they find attractive is nice to them the rules change, there's no such thing as being too nice when the dude is attractive. It's the same for this dumbass idea of treating women like trash leads to them desiring you, not really if you still don't have the desired qualities they're looking for. A dude that's unattractive treating them like trash is just going to be an unattractive dikkhead in their eyes. It's not like that treat women like trash technique is the secret cheat code to getting women.

Women change up their rules and standards all the time depending on who they're talking to. It's pointless to try to figure out.

 

[StickStickly]

Putting women on pedestal is something men with little experience with people do. They treat the woman they want like some kind of fictional character. They ignore her non princess like qualities and act shocked if she curses when she stubs her toe. They do too much too soon - they're the ones who want marriage after three months, confess they love her without knowing her as if they are in a hurry so she will love him before she's had enough time to find his faults. They assume faults are BAD with a capital b, instead of knowing and allowing the girl to be human. In the same respect they are terrified of the woman finding his faults.

They usually don't really love the woman- just what she represents. She's a model of the perfect lady- she's a statue. He won't accept her to be anything else.

Every woman he meets gets the same line until she does something he doesn't like then he moves on. It's disingenuous and really it's a part of narcissistic or borderline behavior because the woman will never live up to being a pretty princess statue. She exists to fulfill his ego. She's bound to fall from grace and once she does she becomes the evil beast.

Basically the man who puts a woman or any partner on a pedestal acts like a fanboy, not a partner. It's not cute becuase we know it's fake to get in a woman's pants and also because it's wrapped up in the idealism of the first weeks or months of a relationship. It won't last and the real question is, what's he gonna do when he realizes you have a health problem? When you don't want sex every day?When he sees you stressed out? Without your hair done? When a loved one dies and you're ugly crying for months or years? When a job leaves you disappointed and shell shocked? When you're working 80 hrs a week to pay a bill? When your physical beauty starts to change? When your relationship highs start settling?

 

[SunZoo]

In instances of dating I agree. But in other cases How he gonna take control if she curves him or flakes on him before giving the chance? Theres guys who approach, call em to make it happen or text them and suddenly she goes ghost or give the run around. Alot of men have to go through that more now

You have to establish a rapport before you start trying to call shots, that's where most dudes fail because they don't know shyt about shyt.

My homegirl was at the bar the other night with her friend meeting some nikkas and she tell me some dude is at a table full of pretty women asking them how he compares to the other nikkas they know/date...the fukk you thinkin about another man and how you compare with a bunch of pretty ladies around?



Same type of nikka that will hop on the coli like "trying to figure out women is pointless y'all".

 

[kwazzy100]

Putting women on pedestal is something men with little experience with people do. They treat the woman they want like some kind of fictional character. They ignore her non princess like qualities and act shocked if she curses when she stubs her toe. They do too much too soon - they're the ones who want marriage after three months, confess they love her without knowing her as if they are in a hurry so she will love him before she's had enough time to find his faults. They assume faults are BAD with a capital b, instead of knowing and allowing the girl to be human. In the same respect they are terrified of the woman finding his faults.

They usually don't really love the woman- just what she represents. She's a model of the perfect lady- she's a statue. He won't accept her to be anything else.

I agreed with you here, but the bottom

Every woman he meets gets the same line until she does something he doesn't like then he moves on. It's disingenuous and really it's a part of narcissistic or borderline behavior because the woman will never live up to being a pretty princess statue. She exists to fulfill his ego. She's bound to fall from grace and once she does she becomes the evil beast.

Basically the man who puts a woman or any partner on a pedestal acts like a fanboy, not a partner. It's not cute becuase we know it's fake to get in a woman's pants and also because it's wrapped up in the idealism of the first weeks or months of a relationship. It won't last and the real question is, what's he gonna do when he realizes you have a health problem? When you don't want sex every day?When he sees you stressed out? Without your hair done? When a loved one dies and you're ugly crying for months or years? When a job leaves you disappointed and shell shocked? When you're working 80 hrs a week to pay a bill? When your physical beauty starts to change? When your relationship highs start settling?

I know fucc bois that sell girls dreams then cheat on them or pump and dump them. These nice guys DO want a relationship, not just sex. The problem is that what turns women is their lack of self esteem and constant pandering to the girls they like.

 

[Guvnor]

sooooo basically all this is for brehs pursuing females or trying to get to know them.

Cause im a good man and I been with my chick for damn near 5 years now.

How you know you the only one she is with bro

 

[TRY GOD]

I think women feel that way because so called good guys think women supposed 2 fall all over them just cuz they r so called good guys when they usually don't have any charisma besides that to make them the better choice. They act like they're gods n we should worship them just for being well mannered men. Its like they wanna b praised for doing the right thing.

So being a regular man is not enough. A man must make you feel good. We need charisma, excitement and something else besides treating you with respect and care. Gotcha.

 

[Guvnor]

Putting women on pedestal is something men with little experience with people do. They treat the woman they want like some kind of fictional character. They ignore her non princess like qualities and act shocked if she curses when she stubs her toe. They do too much too soon - they're the ones who want marriage after three months, confess they love her without knowing her as if they are in a hurry so she will love him before she's had enough time to find his faults. They assume faults are BAD with a capital b, instead of knowing and allowing the girl to be human. In the same respect they are terrified of the woman finding his faults.

They usually don't really love the woman- just what she represents. She's a model of the perfect lady- she's a statue. He won't accept her to be anything else.

Every woman he meets gets the same line until she does something he doesn't like then he moves on. It's disingenuous and really it's a part of narcissistic or borderline behavior because the woman will never live up to being a pretty princess statue. She exists to fulfill his ego. She's bound to fall from grace and once she does she becomes the evil beast.

Basically the man who puts a woman or any partner on a pedestal acts like a fanboy, not a partner. It's not cute becuase we know it's fake to get in a woman's pants and also because it's wrapped up in the idealism of the first weeks or months of a relationship. It won't last and the real question is, what's he gonna do when he realizes you have a health problem? When you don't want sex every day?When he sees you stressed out? Without your hair done? When a loved one dies and you're ugly crying for months or years? When a job leaves you disappointed and shell shocked? When you're working 80 hrs a week to pay a bill? When your physical beauty starts to change? When your relationship highs start settling?

Woah That's deep...starts to slow clap

Now that right there is an answer I can respect however it's deeper then that. I feel that the nice guys do really love these women and it's not just sex or idealism alone but it turns the women off because they look like a sucker or a simp but in their mind they are being genuine and are falling for the woman hard. The solution may be that they need to pace themselves though when it comes to women if they really like us and put us on a pedestal we encourage that and might like them even more lol, guess we are just wired differently.

 

[StickStickly]

So being a regular man is not enough. A man must make you feel good. We need charisma, excitement and something else besides treating you with respect and care. Gotcha.

So personality isn't important to you in a partner? Charisma looks different to a lot of people.

 

[StickStickly]

Another thing we are overlooking is that the pedestal guys sometimes come off as a little crazy and pushy. Usually if a guy is trying to sweet talk and rush you into a relationship with flattery, he's got some disorder he's either trying to hide from you , or isn't aware it is fueling his obsession and desperation.

 

[StickStickly]

Nice guys women want- confident, kind to strangers, elderly, kids, funny, ambitious, genuine, relaxed, LIKES HIMSELF, if he is enamored with his partner he isn't doing it in a suffocating personality crushing way.

"Nice guys" who put women on pedestals and scare women away- pedestal placing comes from fear of losing the woman. These guys are usually very insecure and their desperation and anxiety about losing the girl comes off in what they do- flowers every day, generic pushy gift giving, bombing her with texts and DMs, time manipulation, generalizing women (she is either all women he's dated or the antithesis of the women he's dated and he lets her know, or he succumbs to that anti woman rhetoric) Everything is anxiety driven. In the end he believes the woman should be thankful for his attention. These guys usually give the aura of "give me sex you're my dream girl you're perfect" fanboy crap instead of being genuine and reacting to her interest. and if she doesn't reciprocate he lets her know "you're ugly! Women are evil! You're just one of them!" Anyone who puts someone on a pedestal in a weird obsessive way at the beginning of a relationship instantly lets me know that something may be off with him.

 

[staticshock]

How you know you the only one she is with bro

She ain’t prettt enough to be the cheating type & her fam would get in her ass for cheating on me

 

[Columbo]

Sounds like this ladies insecure, if she had a man she was happy with she wouldnt have thoughts like this. I didnt watch the video, but maybe this woman should look at herself instead of blaming everything on us men

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

time manipulation

Speak on this

 

[Recca Gatsby]

Damn I was LITERALLY discussing this wit my people earlier. Yeah shyt is not good going overboard wit the comoliments, you will suddenly make the female feel like you put her on a level she feel she cant match, then that thrns her off to you cause she will be reluctant to even try.

Just ease up on the praise a bit and act chill

 

[Robo Squirrel]

Women like men that treat them like shyt. Tell her to shut the fukk up every once and a while and her panties will soak.