Let's end this single mothers BS

[GodsPerspective]

See this is what I wanted

The majority of this thread has been filled with people giving constructive criticism. We have to realize that both sides are at fault here and must work together to rectify the problem

BY SHAMING THESE DEADBEATS

 

[GodsPerspective]

I would. We need a purge of some sort.

They don't hear me tho. People think I'm crazy when I say this shyt

 

[GodsPerspective]

shaming people never helps them. it's more therapeutic for the person shaming than it is the person receiving. why can't we just be positive?

Don't be stupid. It works in every other community

 

[GodsPerspective]

That isn't straws at all and what you said didn't even address what you quoted me on.

I agree what some of what you just said but that's not what I was quoted on and you know it. You want to be on your soap box go ahead but address what I said. My main point is. Single mom doesn't equal dead beat dad in a lot of cases.

But what you said isn't what I addressed in the orginal post correct?
I said as a result of fukking with dead beat men correct?

I only then said that single moms are then partly to blame when it comes to divorce. If you choose wisely, there should be no room for divorce. And this is why we need more shaming. Divorce is looked down upon in many other cultures for a reason


Lemme guess, your parents are divorced?
You've divorced somebody?

spare me

 

[Sudani]

black community is the same everywhere

Actually it is not, the same everywhere.

 

[Dusty Bake Activate]

What an original topic for a TLR thread.

 

[Sudani]

It's a western thing. That's not acceptable behavior with my mother's side of the family who happen to be Ethiopian.

I have to admit i agree. Although it annoys me at times, due to my liberalness. I guess it benefits he community back home and abroad.



Although i don't agree with the gossip part, but due to shame in our community it serves as a deterrent of vices that affect other communities.

 

[Timeis$]

Both parties are trying to absolve their genders from equal responsibility.

I say it;s a fukked up situation for both, but how can we seriously change this? Is there a method that could actually work? Or are these people damned?

More of us blacks with morals, values, and goals need to produce black children that will be raised in strong black two parent households.

Hood rats and bum nikkas are two of the same coin. They come from the same fukked up households. You can't expect them to "choose" a mate wisely or get married because they don't value those type of things and neither did their parents. They are the lower class portion of our society like how whites view "white trash". Of course there are exceptions to some that grow up in these type households but usually the cycle continues.

This is one of the biggest reason why I'm so problack FAMILY because in our community we need more level headed blacks producing children.

 

[JLova]

I have no idea how "baby mama" ever became an acceptable label.

 

[MikelArteta]

I feel like after a certain point as a woman, you just can't put up with certain shyt from men anymore, and you shouldn't. People make mistakes, but if it's some pattern of behavior you see a nikka doing that ain't right, either address it or just cut your losses. I ain't with the same type of nikka I was with when I was 22. You supposed to do better. Honor yourself. If something doesn't feel right about dude, if dude doesn't honor you, honor yourself and walk away. Before you get in too deep and the behavior is normalized and you rationalize it. You start to think all men are like that. And then it might even be too late. I couldn't fathom the thought of having a baby by a man that I can't stand and wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life with. Because having a child with someone is a bigger commitment than marriage.

thats my elle

 

[MikelArteta]

most single mothers I know, the men they chose to lay down with everyone in that circle knew he was no good, but "i love him", and "swag" and all that other pointless undeveloped mind ish led them on that path.

 

[MikelArteta]

In a 1963 speech made at the University of California, Malcolm X addressed the troubling state of families in the black community. Sadly, it takes on even more relevance today. "Our young girls, our daughters, our baby sisters become unwed mothers before they are hardly out of their teens. Our community has thousands of unmarried mothers [who] have no hope of ever getting a husband. And our community has tens of thousands of little babies who have no father to act as their provider or protector," he said.

 

[MikelArteta]

I don't think any man is being personally held accountable in this thread. It's just that we as women are a little tired of the excuses and protections some men give to deadbeat moms to absolve themselves of blame for their flawed choices in women.

The whole she should've chosen better or been more responsible act is a little old. A hoe is a hoe. Nobody expects the deadbeat nikka to do anything and rightfully so. He's a deadbeat. He ain't bout shyt. There are just people who are like that. So women should avoid them and if they don't, they are responsible b/c they know what they got themselves into.

But some of you have sooooo much spin when it comes to the same thing dealing with hoes. They keep getting a pass for their behaviors b/c many men desire them. So instead of acknowledging them as hoes and avoiding them, dudes keep trying to hold these women accountable as if a hoe is really gonna be anymore responsible for her womb than a deadbeat is for his seed. No. It's up to you as a man to avoid that charge and stop falling into the same trap.

We're constantly having discourse about blk women liking thugs, but everybody is hush mouth on the choices our men keep making in women. Good men and good women bear the same responsibility to avoid getting caught up in nonsense with trash people.

its amazing how women refuse to accept accountability for their poor choices.

Women are the gatekeepers of their body, unless they are raped they decide which penis enters their vagina, they decide whether to take the morning after pill, they decide whether to have an abortion etc. etc.

just look at that rapper future with ab unch of baby mommas
just look at flod mayweather beating women left and right yet blac women will continue to spread their legs and enter relationships
every nikka in jail got a baby momma

this is the men you are choosing, the blame lies on you.

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

Don't be stupid. It works in every other community

you can believe what you want to but shaming doesn't help the person resolve their issues nor is it necessary. it's more harmful than useful. shaming people is how you offend and hurt people. nothing good can come of that.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

its amazing how women refuse to accept accountability for their poor choices.

Women are the gatekeepers of their body, unless they are raped they decide which penis enters their vagina, they decide whether to take the morning after pill, they decide whether to have an abortion etc. etc.

just look at that rapper future with ab unch of baby mommas
just look at flod mayweather beating women left and right yet blac women will continue to spread their legs and enter relationships
every nikka in jail got a baby momma

this is the men you are choosing, the blame lies on you.

Nope the blame lies with the man for falling into hoe traps. Hoes will always exist. Just like shyt men will always exist. It's up to good men and good women to avoid the traps. Those who cannot do so consistently are probably trash themselves.