You don't have to be with someone to love them.
Then that wasn't love. They just thought it was.
Let's keep it 100 there's no such thing as unconditional love
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i already wrote about this
Definition
un•con•di•tion•al – not subject to any conditions
love – an intense feeling of deep affection
So unconditional love basically means in essence that no matter what acts they may do, no matter what words they may say, no matter the person they become, no matter what, no if and buts…….I will love them. In my humble opinion this can only be possible between God and you, a parent and a child, or expanding the circle a little more a very close blood relative.
I believe that having conditions on love is important as it is about setting limitations on what you will and will not accept in a relationship, or else you become a pushover. Someone who loves you will set limitations on how they require to be treated and if you love them, you will respect those boundaries wholeheartedly. And vice a versa as you should always have the same expectation back, as without boundaries you become susceptible to manipulation.
Unconditional love becomes very conditional for example if someone oversteps your boundaries, whether it’s being cheated on, lied to, abused, slandered, or if they run off with someone new and you’re stuck with all the bills; very soon you are going to start feeling differently once the heart has time to catch up to the brain. As time goes on the pain of being hurt, disregarded, disrespected will overcome any feelings of warmth that you may have had in the past and the love will fade away.
So yes I firmly take the stance that love given should be conditional based upon treatment and respect; it’s a privilege, not a right. Of course I do not view it as an on/off switch, as I am human like everyone else. You may always remember the good times and remember the feelings associated with an individual, but those will be in the past and not the present.
Definition
un•con•di•tion•al – not subject to any conditions
love – an intense feeling of deep affection
So unconditional love basically means in essence that no matter what acts they may do, no matter what words they may say, no matter the person they become, no matter what, no if and buts…….I will love them. In my humble opinion this can only be possible between God and you, a parent and a child, or expanding the circle a little more a very close blood relative.
I believe that having conditions on love is important as it is about setting limitations on what you will and will not accept in a relationship, or else you become a pushover. Someone who loves you will set limitations on how they require to be treated and if you love them, you will respect those boundaries wholeheartedly. And vice a versa as you should always have the same expectation back, as without boundaries you become susceptible to manipulation.
Unconditional love becomes very conditional for example if someone oversteps your boundaries, whether it’s being cheated on, lied to, abused, slandered, or if they run off with someone new and you’re stuck with all the bills; very soon you are going to start feeling differently once the heart has time to catch up to the brain. As time goes on the pain of being hurt, disregarded, disrespected will overcome any feelings of warmth that you may have had in the past and the love will fade away.
So yes I firmly take the stance that love given should be conditional based upon treatment and respect; it’s a privilege, not a right. Of course I do not view it as an on/off switch, as I am human like everyone else. You may always remember the good times and remember the feelings associated with an individual, but those will be in the past and not the present.
parents and kids unconditional
ymost parents will love thier children, even if they become total losers, kill, rape, etc. etc.
would you love your husband still if he tried to kill you ?
AJtheOne
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In this game the lesson's in your eyes to see
Though things change, the future's still inside of me
We must remember that tomorrow comes after the dark
So you will always be in my heart, with unconditional love
Though things change, the future's still inside of me
We must remember that tomorrow comes after the dark
So you will always be in my heart, with unconditional love
I can love unconditionally, she just can't have any effect on me.
dude so you just gonna ignore the whole post right i hate when people do that just to try to prove a point
but i was talking about unconditional love being in a relationship though
I don't know about all that
I agree
Theres always a reason to not love somebody,it just aint happened between you and that person,but if it did the love would be done
If you think hard enough you could think of reasons that you would stop loving ya mama....if my mama tried to kill me a couple times,or if she molested my kids im pretty sure I would stop loving her
....But I honestly don't know
But I do know everybody has different limits,but I think EVERYBODY has a limit....some folks will cut they mama,siblings and children off over 300$...I stay seein people on judge judy talkin about how they never wanna speak to they mama again cuz she asked for her money back
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If you think hard enough you could think of reasons that you would stop loving ya mama....if my mama tried to kill me a couple times,or if she molested my kids im pretty sure I would stop loving her
....But I honestly don't knowBut I do know everybody has different limits,but I think EVERYBODY has a limit....some folks will cut they mama,siblings and children off over 300$...I stay seein people on judge judy talkin about how they never wanna speak to they mama again cuz she asked for her money back
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love is fleeting emotion
My love isn't fleeting but trying to kill me
Ok. You cant say, "I love my parents unconditionally....but only under these conditions..."
You either do, or you dont. You cant change the definition of "unconditional" so it fits your narrative.
I can probably only love my kids unconditionally. If one of them turns into a serial killer or some shyt..I would have to love them from afar...but
imma still ride w/ em.
I didn't ignore your whole post, I just didn't disagree with everything you said. I know you were talking about being in a relationship and so was I. You can love someone that you were involved with and NOT be with that person. Happens all the time breh.dude so you just gonna ignore the whole post right i hate when people do that just to try to prove a point
Dreamzeedream
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There is a such thing as unconditional love. So people are just hurt
Yeah, thats why I dont REALLY believe in unconditional love.
Its a phrase that means you love someone no matter what. So people wanna say "I love you unconditionally" cause they feel very strongly about someone. But the truth is...some things can cause that love to wane. Therefore, you really dont love them unconditionally you just say you do.
I pretty much can just say that about my kids. If someone does something wrong to my kids, no matter who it is, I can stop loving them. I love my Mom more than anything. But if she started molesting one of my kids, I can stop loving her. So I cant say I love her unconditionally, because there are conditions where that love can stop. But if my kids do something wrong, I'll love them no matter what.
A good question tho is what happens if one of my kids killed the other one. Would I still love him unconditionally
I cant say. I'd be really hurt, but I think I would still love them.