Let's Talk About Ya Daddy...How Did Your MaMa do?

[ThrobbingHood]

Physically, I got best of my both worlds from my parents: my mom’s eyes and my dad’s chiselled jawline. Got that manly pretty boy look.

Socially, I used to lament how “square” my parents were compared to my peers. They could stay out all night, drink, smoke and run wild. My dad ruled the home with an iron fist.

Like most knucklehead teenagers, I saw that as oppression rather than protection. Because now those same guys who had little no adult supervision, are either dead or in jail.

I thank God everyday my dad was strait laced. No alcohol or drug issues at all. He was by no means perfect (who is) but I don’t have any repressed memories of him coming home drunk, beating on my moms or being high.

Just a hard working man that got on with life who is happily retired with my mom (still married). None of my siblings are baby fathers/mothers. We’re all graduates with good careers.

 

[MicIsGod]

Amazing choice. Loved her to death and just ain’t the type to step out. Morals and values, straightened out after dabbling in streets at a young age. 10/10.

 

[ObsidianDev]

Moderately successful borderline sociopath with three sons by three different women who's life trajectory was only hampered by his own selfishness, arrogance, and stupidity.

Likely abused my older half brothers in some fashion, which explains their apparent fear of him despite both being in their mid thirties.

Somehow managed to make his wife and former mistress play nice and pretend in public despite nearly driving his wife to suicide when she was pregnant with their only child.

Maintains a public image of being a positive role model for Black men due to his past mentorship, status as a member of one of the main Black college fraternities, and his upper level job at an HBCU. His public image is flawless among those who don't know him personally. He even has a lifetime achievement award.

Very well connected with the small percentage of noteworthy and successful Black men in our city.

Possibly would've tried to harm or kill my mother if he had the chance after she refused to abort me after he begged her to.

 

[AceMan]

Very interesting topic,

So now that you're an adult and have some knowledge about the game, how do you honestly feel about your mom's choice in your father?

Did he have good genetics? Is he a dumb ass? Broke? Etc.

Honest opinion, did she hit a home run or strike out?

My mom made a poor choice. From what I know (my mom REFUSES to mention my dad if she can help it), my mom left a solid breh to be with & marry my dad.

My mom was the middle child of 5; she was smart, but rebellious. My dad was a 5’9 stocky breh with big sideburns and a big gut lol He was a charismatic street dude that was intelligent too. He was somewhat a local celeb in two small towns. State Championship winning HS coach in one town and worked at a local popular BBQ restaurant his side of the family owned in another town. He’s still somewhat worshipped to this day. My dad’s side of the family had terrible genetics though. All real fat, real bad teeth, and slow/ugly. (My dad had bad teeth) I guess my mom thought my dad was an exception and liked that he still had ties to the streets. I dunno. My dad had bad vices though. Loved to drink at hole in the walls and loved to fight. Dunno how my mom and dad met but they got married and had me when my mom was 27 and my dad was 36. Then had my sister 2 years later. Somehow, we both inherited the best genes facial wise from my mom and dad. But, we both ended up shorter. Lol I’m 5’8 and my sister is 5’0 (mom is 5’3).

Then, it’s discovered by the State that my dad fathered a child with a high school girl wayyyyy back…while my mom was pregnant with their 3rd child. So I got an older half-brother, his mom was 14-15 when my dad got her pregnant. He was like 33. Dunno if my mom knew about this while with my dad. My mom refuses to talk about it or even acknowledge my half brother. My dad loses his coaching license and is banned from all schools.

My mom and dad “separated” and my dad moves permanently to the 2nd town and works full time at his family restaurant. He starts doing drugs in addition to drinking and becomes a deadbeat pretty much. I only see him like 3-4 more times before I graduate high school and he’s worse off each time. My mom raises 3 kids by herself with some help from my Godmother and her side of the family. Eventually, my dad dies from stomach cancer. My mom never got divorced from him, never put him on child support, and still showed up to his funeral as his “wife”. (Trust, my sister & I repeatedly asked her why to these and she never answers) She also never dated any other man after.

So I see it was a loss for her. Especially since my sisters really needed a strong father figure in their lives. My sister gains a big love for street dudes even though she’s intelligent and becomes a BM with two kids from two street dudes. My youngest sister never gains confidence (she looked like and is shaped like the women on my dad side of the family) and struggles as an adult. She still lives with my mom.

 

[BaRRyG]

Moms chose great! My dad is a mentor and friend to me. Him and my mom are my biggest supporters.

They’ll hit 42 years this August

Damn bruh I'm thinking you were going to say ya parents are up in the 80s. I'm older than your parents


tf I'm doing on the coli

God bless ya parents nonetheless b

 

[BaggerofTea]

My mother lives a good life thanks to my father, she won.

Keep in mind my father was not an easy man.

But easy men dont build shyt

 

[Lucky_Lefty]

Hard to say. My folks were babies their damn self when they had me. Can’t say they reached their full potential since they had to grow up really fast. But I was surrounded by love and that’s all that matters…at least to me.

 

[BaRRyG]

my moms chose excellently. my pops literally just died last month after them being together for 51 years. I can't even express my feelings in words how much I adored that man.

my fukking hero, my mentor, my friend, just everything

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Your pops won at life b

 

[Ol’Otis]

also consider the nikka your momma told you is your pops ain't your pops..........*

 

[ThrobbingHood]

my mom left a solid breh to be with & marry my dad.

Crazy how your parent’s story is easily a platinum thread on TheColi or X. Literally hits every single mark.

 

[horizon]

She hit a home run.

 

[Lucky_Lefty]

Moderately successful borderline sociopath with three sons by three different women who's life trajectory was only hampered by his own selfishness, arrogance, and stupidity.

Kinda sounds like my old man. His life philosophies were, “get money,” and “the best piece of p*ssy I ever had is the next piece of p*ssy I get.” None of his kids have multiple kids with multiple BMs. I admire him for being my father but he’s a bitter old man. He was last stage post Civil Rights kid who played the game the way they were told to play it post CR era, but in the end, he still got fukked over. Partly for being a Black man in corporate but also for his attitude. The man has a bachelors, 3 Masters and a JD but I’m better off in life than he has ever been. Burned a LOT of bridges trying to reach this unattainable goal he set for himself now he’s facing old age alone and a lot of what if’s. Best advice he ever gave me that I remind myself of all the time is “the worst thing a man can say in life is ‘I could’ve been.” shyt hits hard once you have some yrs behind you

 

[Peruvian Connect]

I personally don't know what she ever saw in the nikka. It's like Seal and Tyra Banks, JAY Z & Beyonce

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

home run genetics wise but he was womanizer

My exact same response; but my stepdad is a good man.

 

[DonRe]

Nah she did what she had to do to get out of farm back in 60’s

Dude is stubborn, loud, ugly, picky ass eater, aloof. Had a good heart many will say. Never experienced it. Thank the lord i took my moms looks and general intelligence.

Mom had to divorce him when i was 2. shyt was unbearable according to her.