Let's Talk About Ya Daddy...How Did Your MaMa do?
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BunchePark
Coli N Calisthenics
I'm gonna share but first lemme read so I can try to figure out who was mad at Jadakiss for having a daddy
Not that good. They brought out the worst in each other as best I can tell. One of those "when it's good, it's GOOD. When it's bad, it's BAD" scenarios.
They were married for a time but if I'm being honest, my mom never chose that well in men, and she's got some ways about her that probably made things harder on my brother and I (we have different dads) than it should have been.
Haven't spoken to my dad since the day I told him I was going to college. That was about 17-18 years ago, and I'd be lying if I said we had much of a relationship leading up to that point. It is what it is.
They were married for a time but if I'm being honest, my mom never chose that well in men, and she's got some ways about her that probably made things harder on my brother and I (we have different dads) than it should have been.
Haven't spoken to my dad since the day I told him I was going to college. That was about 17-18 years ago, and I'd be lying if I said we had much of a relationship leading up to that point. It is what it is.
ObsidianDev
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Unfortunately I can't say the same about my father. Long story short, the man has ruled his personal life/public image with an iron fist for the past 30+ years. He publicly claims my older half brothers -- even named them after him -- but my suspicion is that he partly refuses to speak to me or even acknowledge my very existence because he hates my mother because she was/is one of the few (if any) of the women in his entire life who ever said the word "No" to him after he became an adult.
Cheated on his pregnant wife with his mistress. Got both pregnant at the same time, which resulted in my older half brothers being born 6 months apart. Not only convinces wife to stay, but persuades both her and the mistress to alternate weekends where my brothers would spend the night at each other's homes growing up.
Both of my brothers share his last name, and he's had both his wife and mistress publicly pretend that both of his older sons have the same mother -- his wife -- to this day.
Three years after my brothers are born, he meets my mother and lies to her about being married. Only once my mom gets pregnant does he admit to not only being married but already having one child out of wedlock.
He begs my mom to get an abortion. She refuses. He tries to ditch her. Takes over two years for her to get child support out of him due to a good friend of his being the head of our city's child support bureau at the time.
We met for the first time last year when I confronted him in the parking lot after my brother's baby shower. At first he introduced himself and pretended not to realize who I was, but after he got the hint that I wasn't going play along, his eyes turned black, an annoyed, disgusted look came across his face, and he rushed into his car while his wife sat in the passenger seat.
My brothers saw the whole thing go down from a distance, and all they did was hang their heads, shrug their shoulders, and give me cheap words of comfort.
He's faced very little repercussions for the hell he put my mother and I through, his wife acts like she's just glad that she can say that she's his wife, and my brothers act like they're afraid of him despite both being grown-ass married men with good jobs.
I genuinely believe he wishes that I was dead, or at the very least that I didn't exist.
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Belize King
I got concepts of a plan.
My Mom hit a triple.
Pops is short gang but handsome. Had a drinking problem though. He’s sober since ‘92. They were from the same city Belize and got married in Cali in the early 80’s. Moms broke down in ‘84 with schizophrenia. Pops tried as hard as possible to stay. My mom left him and it broke the relationship. He still loves her to this day though.
Pops got his degree later in life, retire from the military as an E-7 and is retired with my step mom in Belize. Just finished his concrete house and is living the good life.
As a father, he was straight. He showed like most boomers and didn’t tell. He provided a “stable” and tried his best. I left at 18 and every time I came to the house, he would charge me rent. Made me leave asap.
We talk once every 2-3 months. He still hasn’t came to Atlanta to his my youngest daughter.
I know he would do anything for me and he respects me. That’s all you can really ask for as an adult.
Today is his birthday. We just spoke. Happy bday old man. He’s 69 now.
Pops is short gang but handsome. Had a drinking problem though. He’s sober since ‘92. They were from the same city Belize and got married in Cali in the early 80’s. Moms broke down in ‘84 with schizophrenia. Pops tried as hard as possible to stay. My mom left him and it broke the relationship. He still loves her to this day though.
Pops got his degree later in life, retire from the military as an E-7 and is retired with my step mom in Belize. Just finished his concrete house and is living the good life.
As a father, he was straight. He showed like most boomers and didn’t tell. He provided a “stable” and tried his best. I left at 18 and every time I came to the house, he would charge me rent. Made me leave asap.
We talk once every 2-3 months. He still hasn’t came to Atlanta to his my youngest daughter.
I know he would do anything for me and he respects me. That’s all you can really ask for as an adult.
Today is his birthday. We just spoke. Happy bday old man. He’s 69 now.
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Yinny
Sweet and Sour Patch Mom
My mom chose very well for my dad, high school sweethearts and she got knocked up her junior year of college. He thought she should abort to finish her studies she chose otherwise. He supported us fully until she left him when I was five and well after that, I lived with him young while she was a flight attendant, and then as a single mom with my sister, he gave her a vehicle to make sure we had one-my mom is an entitled jerk tbh. Def chose wrong with my sisters father.
Great responses and interesting reads. Thank you guys for sharing.
I like this. Good way of thinking.
My momma did great!! My dad is the best dad ever, imo. Good guy, solid Family background, very family oriented, very loving, caring and giving. I can also just talk to him. Judgement free zone with him. It’s always nice to be able to talk to your parents and get their guidance. They will tell you when you’re wrong and they will support you when you’re right but always in a loving way.
My parents met when my mom was 17 and my dad was 19 in the navy. They met through mutual friends and my father pursued my mom. She finally gave him a chance and then my older sister came along but before she gave birth, my father asked my grandfather for her hand in marriage and they tied the knot.
My parents are divorced now, but they still remain very good friends. My dad has been married to his current wife for 30 years and just recently celebrated their 30th anniversary in his birth country (Jamaica) with my brother and sister present (I couldn’t make it unfortunately… work) but my dad is just an amazing man and each of his children (my brother, sister and myself) as a well as the children that he did not father, however he looks at them as his own, appreciates him for the person he is. He’s just a good person.
My dad will drop everything in his life for someone he loves… work whatever.. making money? Who cares… lifestyle doesn’t matter … I remember when my sister had open heart surgery a few years ago and we were scared she would die. My father slept on the floor next to her bed everyday as she recovered and he did everything for her to make sure his daughter survived. That is my father. When I went through my own situation.. he brought me home with him and made sure I was able to overcome what I was going through.
That’s my dad…
When my younger sisters father died, my dad paid for his funeral. He helped my little sisters, children that are not his own, buy a car, go to college etc…
That’s the type of man he is
I’m probably saying too much but I can go on and on.
My parents met when my mom was 17 and my dad was 19 in the navy. They met through mutual friends and my father pursued my mom. She finally gave him a chance and then my older sister came along but before she gave birth, my father asked my grandfather for her hand in marriage and they tied the knot.
My parents are divorced now, but they still remain very good friends. My dad has been married to his current wife for 30 years and just recently celebrated their 30th anniversary in his birth country (Jamaica) with my brother and sister present (I couldn’t make it unfortunately… work) but my dad is just an amazing man and each of his children (my brother, sister and myself) as a well as the children that he did not father, however he looks at them as his own, appreciates him for the person he is. He’s just a good person.
My dad will drop everything in his life for someone he loves… work whatever.. making money? Who cares… lifestyle doesn’t matter … I remember when my sister had open heart surgery a few years ago and we were scared she would die. My father slept on the floor next to her bed everyday as she recovered and he did everything for her to make sure his daughter survived. That is my father. When I went through my own situation.. he brought me home with him and made sure I was able to overcome what I was going through.
That’s my dad…
When my younger sisters father died, my dad paid for his funeral. He helped my little sisters, children that are not his own, buy a car, go to college etc…
That’s the type of man he is
I’m probably saying too much but I can go on and on.
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LOL interesting topic!
Bum. I have half brothers and sisters in Canada, US, Carribean. I’ve seen him less than 5 times. His mother died and we didn’t even know where to find him to let him know. He was a young handsome fly guy at the time. My mom was young.
My stepfather who i call my father on the other hand has been with me since I’m two years old, and once he got out the streets and found Jesus, I couldn’t ask for a better role model.
My stepfather who i call my father on the other hand has been with me since I’m two years old, and once he got out the streets and found Jesus, I couldn’t ask for a better role model.