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I'm assuming purple is the breh and grey is the brehette. In this case, who is at fault?
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I'm assuming purple is the breh and grey is the brehette. In this case, who is at fault?
He dodged a bullet.
Just her last statement about being so excited about seeing her, shows where her mind is. If she was really into him, she would not have made that statement. Also, if she was really into him, she would have text him if she had any concern whether the date was still on or not. Instead, that last statement make it look like she feels she was doing him a favor by gracing him with a chance to take her out.
Just her last statement about being so excited about seeing her, shows where her mind is. If she was really into him, she would not have made that statement. Also, if she was really into him, she would have text him if she had any concern whether the date was still on or not. Instead, that last statement make it look like she feels she was doing him a favor by gracing him with a chance to take her out.
1LurkerChick9
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They clearly weren't going to work so no one dodged a bullet necessarily
BUT
1)Both of them not talking at all the entire day suggests mutual guardedness aka games
2) Who waits 9 minutes before a date to say anything ? It makes him seem a bit too aloof
3) His "taking that as a sign" screams 'I'm not acknowledging my role in this.' Him also being 5 minutes late suggests he self sabotaged this one.
4)She could have communicated that she would need a confirmation...but I get why she didn't because that's a bit wild to have to even say that
5)All that extra in the last paragraph was very narcissistic on her part. Also comes across a bit fake and extra ,which,again, screams guarded.
I'm guessing these people met on an app so this par for the course
BUT
1)Both of them not talking at all the entire day suggests mutual guardedness aka games
2) Who waits 9 minutes before a date to say anything ? It makes him seem a bit too aloof
3) His "taking that as a sign" screams 'I'm not acknowledging my role in this.' Him also being 5 minutes late suggests he self sabotaged this one.
4)She could have communicated that she would need a confirmation...but I get why she didn't because that's a bit wild to have to even say that
5)All that extra in the last paragraph was very narcissistic on her part. Also comes across a bit fake and extra ,which,again, screams guarded.
I'm guessing these people met on an app so this par for the course
DaddyFresh
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Not talking for a week before a date and texting minutes before would lead me to believe that person has autism and I dodge a bullet. For valuing your own time you should confirm that day early always.
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They both stupid
Both easily could’ve communicated better
One is being petty
One is being entitled
And this is what the dating market looks like
Both easily could’ve communicated better
One is being petty
One is being entitled
And this is what the dating market looks like
it would've been nice for him to confirm in the morning. I usually do that I'll text in the morning or afternoon.
But, her last response shows she wasnt even worthy of that. Some of these hoes are just straight delusional and stand in their own way. He dodged a bullet.
But, her last response shows she wasnt even worthy of that. Some of these hoes are just straight delusional and stand in their own way. He dodged a bullet.
Piff Perkins
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I'm def a guy that confirms plans the morning of, but I still think he's in the right. They agreed to a specific day/time already, it's logical to assume the date is still on unless one party cancels.
The other issue I have is that we've seen examples of women who don't respond to the morning text confirmation, leave you on read for hours and then send the "we still going?" text to YOU an hour before the date lmao. And in that scenario if you double text you're being pushy or "not taking the hint" lol. So depending on how crazy the chick is you're gonna lose either way.
The other issue I have is that we've seen examples of women who don't respond to the morning text confirmation, leave you on read for hours and then send the "we still going?" text to YOU an hour before the date lmao. And in that scenario if you double text you're being pushy or "not taking the hint" lol. So depending on how crazy the chick is you're gonna lose either way.
Negro Caesar
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He should have said some shyt earlier but she should have assumed the date was still on if never cancelled
Both fukked up but he probably came out on top because the bytch seems whiny
Both fukked up but he probably came out on top because the bytch seems whiny
MadScientist
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Folks don’t pick up the phone and call the night before? Or use punctuation when texting ?
So much can be avoided here
So much can be avoided here
Flywin Lannister
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Social media and texting has totally killed these people's ability to have basic communication, and normal expectations.
These kids communicatelike those kids on "Love on the Spectrum", and I say that with no discrespect to anybody on the spectrum.
These kids communicatelike those kids on "Love on the Spectrum", and I say that with no discrespect to anybody on the spectrum.
cyndaquil
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Bro doesnt understand he supposed to sprinkle some communication in there if the date isn't for a few days?
But the woman also trippin too because if you don't know if a date is still happening don't be passive. Say hello and ask. All this "not wanting to appear desperate" stuff is dumb. Communicate.
And that last message from the chick is some podcast shyt. "You supposed to be so excited the day of for our date you can't wait to text me!"
unrealistic ass shyt. Women want experienced men but want them to act like their first love at 17 about them. Stop it 
But the woman also trippin too because if you don't know if a date is still happening don't be passive. Say hello and ask. All this "not wanting to appear desperate" stuff is dumb. Communicate.
And that last message from the chick is some podcast shyt. "You supposed to be so excited the day of for our date you can't wait to text me!"
unrealistic ass shyt. Women want experienced men but want them to act like their first love at 17 about them. Stop it 
they really think they all so special
Yeah im someone who does the same also. Plenty times a chic beats me to the punch and confirms the day of. Shows she's looking forward to it herself.
Her response though says alot. She could have easily confirmed herself if she really was looking forward to it.