Yo this story seriously had me tearing up in the library Brah. The father part honestly stuck a nerve. My african dad is like that too, he completely disregards my older brother because he was in the game. Like how do you not expect someone to become a product of their own environment, children do not come out as robots. He hasn't talked to my brother in years and ensures that he maintains contact with me because i am the golden child and that i went to university. I just want to tell him that i was lucky enough to be the youngest and a female and my mom moved into the suburbs when i was 9 years old. My dad sees his children as mules for his own "dream" and when someone cannot live up to his perfect fantasy of what a child should be he completely forgets about their existence. Sorry you had to go through all that man. I just want you to know that its serouisly not your fault.. at ALL.