"Light Girls" Documentary on OWN

[Yup]

Nah.
These topics have been scattered and going on since I first found SOHH in 2008.
Contrary to the agenda, black men don't care half as much as them swirling as black women want them to, which is why they have to go harder than any other group of women to incite a reaction.

Lol...ok but you and @thereheis stay talking about these topics that you don't care about. I care because I care about improving black communities and it starts with black mutual relationships.

 

[christinasade]

so whats your solution? keep popping out numerous unwanted children that dont have the resources or know how to lead? get a cat instead, we dont need anymore of what black women are currently producing

The solution would be for black men to get off their ass and build but noooo.

What I wanna know how you mothafukkas think y'all are in a position to talk down to us.

 

[philmonroe]

Because you frame your argument wrongly. My intention isn't hurt feelings is ti tell the truth. I ain't trying to bruise male ego. Black men.are powerless in this society and as a result it trickles down to black women. That's a fact.

Even if I frame it wrong only you don't understand? Come on son that's just you doing that shyt on purpose and that's what cats do when they want to be "funny". You can't bruise my ego I know what my reality is so I'm good. I don't feel powerless but I guess on bigger things I am but for day to day living that damn near all people of all races live I feel excellent.

 

[christinasade]

can any black woman in this thread provide their solution to the colorism issue? and try to respond understanding we're not rappers or entertainers.

Da fukk? Is it that hard to stop being a colorist????

nikka we know that colorism is wrong, stop participating in it simple.

If we see somebody else doing doing it, call their asses out.

Each one teach one.

 

[Yup]

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Nah.
These topics have been scattered and going on since I first found SOHH in 2008.
Contrary to the agenda, black men don't care half as much about "the swirl" as black women want them to, which is why they have to go harder than any other group of women to incite a reaction.

Reaffirming your disregard....I give you props you keep it consistent.

 

[Oceanicpuppy]

i didn't say a woman can teach a man to be a man, i'm saying its stupid to expect leadership qualities from males that weren't taught or given the tools to be leaders. this is where you go to the "well if nikkas would raise their kids" defense, and i tell you it starts with the women choosing a partner that has already demonstrated leadership qualities before she decides to get pregnant by him

You making black dudes out to be these weak ass victims under the thumb black women. Our society is patriarchal and it's been this way for more than 50 years. No one is saying black women aren't accountable as well but you act as if black men are some weak ass powerless saps who can't do anything.

You equate the fact that black women has the "opportunity"( i use this lightly) to lay with a white man has some twisted power in it when it's absolutely DOES NOT.

Women couldn't even vote or run for office back when your great grand parents were alive. What makes you think BW are given any power above black men.

 

[Yup]

Even if I frame it wrong only you don't understand? Come on son that's just you doing that shyt on purpose and that's what cats do when they want to be "funny". You can't bruise my ego I know what my reality is so I'm good. I don't feel powerless but I guess on bigger things I am but for day to day living that damn near all people of all races live I feel excellent.

I am happy for you.

 

[philmonroe]

I am happy for you.

Well one day hope you find the same happiness and thanks.

 

[Yup]

Well one day hope you find the same happiness and thanks.

I am actually a happy person. I just like to see my people do better as a collective.

 

[filial_piety]

Da fukk? Is it that hard to stop being a colorist????

nikka we know that colorism is wrong, stop participating in it simple.

If we see somebody else doing doing it, call their asses out.

Each one teach one.

Every black man has been deemed "color struck" if they happen to not find a particular dark skinned woman attractive.

The only solution that will satisfy black women is, if every black man finds every black woman attractive.

Otherwise, there is nothing to stop black women from thinking that being unattractive is related to their complexion. Let them tell it, color/complexion preferences are automatically loaded into psychy of all black males.

Individual preferences and experiences with that particular woman be damned.

 

[marcuz]

It about listening to negativity.
You have no reason to get mad when black women say "black men aint shyt" because its not as if the media is going to news report on why "black men aint shyt."
Just as black women have no reason to take the negatively that many black men spew seriously.
The black men who spew this negatively are just recycling the things they've learned from white supremacy, so its best to reserve your energy for challenging white supremacy instead of going at black men, because black men have very little power to change that.

black women have been going on tv discussing why "nikkas aint shyt" for decades. talk shows and news networks have given BW a platform to speak out against BM. til this day, i've yet to come across a BM thats been given a platform to respond to criticisms made by BW. right now, you have black female authors given a platform in time mag, huffpost, etc, to speak out against BM. still havent seen a black male equivalent, even though @bcrusaderw tried her best to find one.

but to say we're just using white supremacist talking points is dismissive. nikkas have BEEN had legitimate complaints that they never verbalized to BW. youtube gave dudes an anonymous platform to respond without repercussion, and admittedly, some of us took it too far. but to run with the power argument as if most BW concerned themselves with power as they laid up with some unemployed bum is bullocks

 

[Yup]

Every black man has been deemed "color struck" if they happen to not find a particular dark skinned woman attractive.

The only solution that will satisfy black women is, if every black man finds every black women attractive.

Otherwise, there is nothing to stop black women from thinking that being unattractive is related to their complexion. It's an automatic assumption that they make if a black man isn't falling all over her.

You don't like black girls so I don't get why you are talking. Stick to talking about white women

 

[Yup]

black women have been going on tv discussing why "nikkas aint shyt" for decades. talk shows and news networks have given BW a platform to speak out against BM. til this day, i've yet to come across a BM thats been given a platform to respond to criticisms made by BW. right now, you have black female authors given a platform in time mag, huffpost, etc, to speak out against BM. still havent seen a black male equivalent, even though @bcrusaderw tried her best to find one.

but to say we're just using white supremacist talking points is dismissive. nikkas have BEEN had legitimate complaints that they never verbalized to BW. youtube gave dudes an anonymous platform to respond without repercussion, and admittedly, some of us took it too far. but to run with the power argument as if most BW concerned themselves with power as they laid up with some unemployed bum is bullocks

Give me a a legit complaint youtube video about black women that doesn't involve pitting them against non-blacks and using debasing them as women.

 

[Oceanicpuppy]

Every black man has been deemed "color struck" if they happen to not find a particular dark skinned woman attractive.

The only solution that will satisfy black women is, if every black man finds every black women attractive.

Otherwise, there is nothing to stop black women from thinking that being unattractive is related to their complexion. It's an automatic assumption that they make if a black man isn't falling all over her.

Naw ,because they call some chick ugly and look exactly like the chick.

Broad features are not ugly.

It's not just colorism, it also features aswell. Some on this site said they don't like lupita cause of her hair. She doesn't have long flowing hair.

 

[Yup]

I am actually a happy person. I just like to see my people do better as a collective.

So my focus is intracial relationships among black youth. This to me is the foundation that will allow black people to prosper all this down to whitey talk is just blowing hot air.

Black hchildren need to be valued by black adults by having them in stable unified homes. Not this babymama/I am cohabiting for decades type arrangement. I decry this cause it is hurting blacks.