Living Apart Together (LAT) relationships. I'm seriously considering this...

[Carlton Banks]

So I been living with my gf ever since the pandemic started last year and we're in this place in our relationship where it's going okay, but could be better. We have completely different schedules. I'm up at 2-4 in the morning, she gets up later... Figured it would be best for our sleep but also best for our relationship. Plus I like my solitude and I find myself much more productive and less distracted when I'm to myself. Idk what y'all think?

 

[I Really Mean It]

Not sure why there’s this need for a relationship to consist of partners living together.

 

[Amare's Right Hook]

For a couple with different sleep patterns, perfect.

 

[patscorpio]

Go get a life

 

[RadaMillz]

so two different apartments
or
two different rooms in an apartment

I am confused breh, I never heard of this

 

[JoseLuisGotcha]

Man good luck pitching that to her

if you’re living with a girl already usually their expectations are the next big step up (marriage) to her that’s going to be a step back

she gonna think you’re tryna ease out and or want to cheat even though that may not be the case

the scenario you describe is my ideal scenario but you gotta establish that from jump

 

[Carlton Banks]

so two different apartments
or
two different rooms in an apartment

I am confused breh, I never heard of this

It's a thing. Google it.

If both parties agree, it can be beneficial to the relationship and keeping you on your purpose. Even though my relationship is fine, I often miss the single version of me. Mainly because I was much more ambitious and focused with my life and goals.

 

[SadimirPutin]

It's a thing. Google it.

If both parties agree, it can be beneficial to the relationship and keeping you on your purpose. Even though my relationship is fine, I often miss the single version of me. Mainly because I was much more ambitious and focused with my life and goals.

You say your relationship is fine yet you sound like you are on the slow train to resentment

 

[Arcavian]

I dont think its going to work out for you

 

[Carlton Banks]

You say your relationship is fine yet you sound like you are on the slow train to resentment

How?

 

[Gil Scott-Heroin]

It's a thing. Google it.

If both parties agree, it can be beneficial to the relationship and keeping you on your purpose. Even though my relationship is fine, I often miss the single version of me. Mainly because I was much more ambitious and focused with my life and goals.

It sounds like she's not right for you and/or you're not in a space in your life to have a relationship.

You've been living with this woman for over a year, and your description of it, is that it's fine, as if you're just accepting the situation of living with a roommate, and not a partner. You're more concerned with your career and goals than you are with developing your relationship with this woman. The fact you used the words "I often miss the single version of me", keyword being "often", should tell you all you need to know.

 

[Pool_Shark]

What’s gonna happen when you have kids? You’re going to live apart from your family?

 

[Carlton Banks]

What’s gonna happen when you have kids? You’re going to live apart from your family?

You say that like it's a bad thing

 

[calixprynce]

This is how the end starts

 

[detroitwalt]

I’ve worked with a couple people that slept in separate bedrooms from their women. They loved it.

I know 1 couple that actually lives apart. That’s working good for them too. Couldn’t be me tho