Living Apart Together (LAT) relationships. I'm seriously considering this...

[keon]

I hope you guys are divorced….

nope lol

we were together for 13 yrs straight, but we've been knowing each other for 20 yrs total

we're gonna always be cool with each other regardless of what happens so ig thats why neither one of us has really even tried to go thru with the divorce

 

[alpo]

I never understood why boyfriend/girlfriend status so quick to move in together

sooo true!!! why give up your freedom.

 

[BlackAchilles]

I never understood why boyfriend/girlfriend status so quick to move in together

The high cost of housing

 

[beenz]

Only person I've ever lived with outside of my parents is my ex wife. I can't see myself living with anyone anytime soon. Even when a broad comes over, around the 24 hour mark, I'm tired of them.

 

[The God Poster]

I’ve worked with a couple people that slept in separate bedrooms from their women. They loved it.

I know 1 couple that actually lives apart. That’s working good for them too. Couldn’t be me tho

Best believe it’s some infidelity going on

1 chick was married but her husband was away in the Army. We stayed fukking

The other was married but they decided it was best to live apart but still be committed. I stayed up in that ass

Unless they older meaning 50+ even then it’s a huge chance somebody cheating

As far as the OP I can’t picture a female being cool with living in separate rooms. What time she get off work vs you? Both work weekends?

 

[Carlton Banks]

This statement here says you aren’t ready to be in a serious relationship yet.

After 3 years?


Knew I should've posted on Reddit or something. Brehs here giving terrible advice, Jesus Christ

 

[HARLEM AL]

Only thing Playa is you didn’t begin the relationship with what you are talking about. After my son mother I vowed to never like with another woman. As I got older I realized my peace was more important than her need for security about the relationship. Women have a tendency to just come on and just unload. Sometimes dudes don’t want to hear that shyt.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

As humans we are fickle creatures. I’ve always said I need 100% metime and 100% social interaction.

Sometimes a little distance makes the heart grow fonder. It’s healthy to have space and an identity in a relationship.
If it works for you OP then do whatever.

 

[Spence]

After 3 years?


Knew I should've posted on Reddit or something. Brehs here giving terrible advice, Jesus Christ

I’ve known people “together” for 10 years that didn’t take the relationship seriously

 

[HarlemHottie]

We have completely different schedules. I'm up at 2-4 in the morning, she gets up later... Figured it would be best for our sleep but also best for our relationship.

For a couple with different sleep patterns, perfect.

Even though my relationship is fine, I often miss the single version of me.

We've had the same issue for 20+ yrs. It's not insurmountable. My man works nights. I'm up in the day to do daytime business, like collecting packages, making phone calls, and running certain errands. This causes a problem bc its harder for me to switch back to his schedule. Me being awake rn is a sign of this mismatch.

If you don't think she/ the relationship is long term worthy, live apart. But if you intend to keep her around, don't do this. Even if she says it's cool, subconsciously, she halfway single.

Re: missing the single version of you. Astrology would be helpful here bc what you're describing is the difference between two different types of relationship charts, but since men generally arent interested in astrology, you've lost access to one potential source of guidance.

 

[At30wecashout]

Bruh, I proposed that when I cop a spot, my girl gets her own room so she can style it however she wants. That did not go over well at all. She snores, is messier than me, and generally would do well to have a space so I wouldnt feel like putting her out all the time.

This ended up being a 40 minute convo that came up multiple times in the days the followed.

 

[At30wecashout]

I’m going thru the same thing OP.

Her place is nice but she’s got me slowly moving my things in and whenever we get into it I’m quick to tell her that I’m going back to my crib.

Her place isn’t big enough for me to have the solitude when I want it but when I try to leave she asks if I’m going there to cheat or if I’m breaking up with her.

You know it’s crazy when you sit on the toilet for an hour just to get some peace.

This is a primary reason I dont want to move in with a woman and would rather she move in with me. I have to maintain that upper hand and not be questioned about where I move or worse be told to get out of my own place.

Besides that, I can also be sure that where I am gives me proper space.

 

[Shadow King]

Not sure why there’s this need for a relationship to consist of partners living together.

Because at a certain point it makes sense. You gonna be with somebody for 10 years and not cohabitate? I'm GMB but if you're going to remain that separate than you're wasting time.

You say that like it's a bad thing

 

[Shadow King]

If you’re not married, you should always have your own spot.

So you can be completely in the dark about the living dynamic until them papers lock you in? That's illogical.

 

[Shadow King]

We've had the same issue for 20+ yrs. It's not insurmountable. My man works nights. I'm up in the day to do daytime business, like collecting packages, making phone calls, and running certain errands. This causes a problem bc its harder for me to switch back to his schedule. Me being awake rn is a sign of this mismatch.

If you don't think she/ the relationship is long term worthy, live apart. But if you intend to keep her around, don't do this. Even if she says it's cool, subconsciously, she halfway single.

Re: missing the single version of you. Astrology would be helpful here bc what you're describing is the difference between two different types of relationship charts, but since men generally arent interested in astrology, you've lost access to one potential source of guidance.

You never read mine