Lowkey growing up I resented my Dad at times

[AuntAnniesPretzels]

Nah, my father and I got into it a lot, really fought over that and he stopped abusing my Mom completely by the time I was like 14. I’m not saying that is forgiven, I can never forgive that and he knew, but I still love him, not cause he birthed me, but because of what he did for us.

I understand that part but there’s really no defense for dikkhead behavior breh. Don’t downtalk someone else because they refuse to condone that or let that shyt slide. OP doesn’t need to toughen up, his father needs to stop being a dikkhead and apologize for his past behavior

 

[Rhyme n Tekniq]

Granted Op isnt trolling,


Some of you nikkas in here need to shut the fukk up with that "wan!! waann!!, tiny violin" dismissive bullshyt. OP could be equally dismissive and say fukk yo dead daddy or some shyt and you'd feel some type of way. Have some gotdamn empathy and treat threads like this wit the same delicacy you'd expect if you was putting yourself out there like that.

This sub is full of mentally broken losers who are experts in everything, lovers of nothing and just have to have the last word in every situation.

 

[Alvin]

I mean most of the time he was a pretty cool guy, but other times he could be the world's biggest a$$hole. Growing up it seemed like I could never do anything right in his eyes. Not once in my life then he ever tell me that he was proud of me, and he would also compare me to my older brother and say things such as " it's good you got a 3.0 on your report card but your brother got a 4.0 why can't you do that, I know you can but your just lazy and don't apply yourself.

There were also times where he would embarrass me in front of my friends and classmates.For example one time during my freshman year of high school, he was picking me up from football practice, I was talking to this girl and he yelled out from his car "boy get your ass in this damn car don't no body got time to wait on you". When I got in the car I asked him why he had to embarrass me and he replied " you embarrass yourself."

Speaking of Football there were times where I almost quit playing because of my Dad pushing me so hard. I remember he would wake me up at 6 in the morning on some weekends and we would go to the park and he would say things to me while me were practicing such as " Stop being a p*ssy and hit harder them little white girls on the cheerleading squad hit harder then you" or if you dont stop playing like a fakkit your going to do laps until you drop. I swear to God there were times when my Dad and I almost Boxed. He played football in college and even was a on The Kansas City Chiefs practice squad during the 1988-1989 NFL Season so I feel like he was trying to live his life through me.

I played Football in college but the school I went to was not good enough in his eyes because it was a D2 school and not Division 1. I me didn't say that to me out loud but but could always tell he didn't like the fact I played D2 Football and not D1. Another thing my Grandpa as the same way to my Dad and his brothers growing up so I knew why he was the way he was but that didn't make it right. But at the same time he taught me how to stand up for myself and not take shyt from anyone.

this is probably a troll thread but I digress

it sounds like your dad had that old black people way of parenting, probably derived from your grandfather.
It was a sign of the times and the prevalence of in your face racism probably mixed with poverty.
Regardless of the reason it's unnecessary imo, nothing wrong with challenging your kids to do better but acting like a ass isn't going to work, especially in this day and age for better or for worse.