Make a man wait 6 months brehettes
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wet landscapes
ghost
how does she know that you're a special person without taking the time to know you?Ive said it before, ill say it again. It ain't about the numbers. My thing is, if im special and meant to be a potential mate, how am i to wait when it isnt necessary for others?
If she is making me run a marathon before I hit, is it because she is not feeling me or because she is afraid im going to run? Vetting people by making them wait is stupid. I could, theoretically, fukk other women in the meantime while killing time with her, then when she gives it up, go ghost. In that case, she wasted her time and energy on me, much more than if i hit and disappeared...you know...like the other dudes. If we were gonna click and stick together, her giving it to me wouldnt change that. Her witholding that from me, amongst other things, might cause me to go elsewhere anyway. I can list a hundred reasons why. Please dont make me
there are some girls who will think you're dope who'll wanna have sex with you while figuring you out, there are some that will have sex after they figure you out, and some who have done both but thinks things will work out better for them if they wait, like waiting will remove their doubts or insecurities
I'm saying if you like that person, all those options are fine. They wanna wait a little for sex, as long as they explain that they aren't rejecting you and you were interested in them for more than orgasms, cool. They can figure it out, no pressure on you, and if it works out, all the sex you want! I mean, it probably won't always work out that way but still, it can work.
But if you find a person who limits those things undesirable, then you can tell them that and be out
you don't have to dismantle the theory that waiting for sex will improve your relationship
if you end up talking to a girl who says that, you can just say "hey, that kind of thinking doesn't really agree with me and it's cool. I hope you find someone" or delete her number or unfollow her
but she isn't wrong
you aren't wrong either
you are a person who does not believe in waiting
that person is a person who believes in waiting
you guys are not compatible
on to the next one
yea cuz any real man would cuff a chick wit her bare ass all over the interwebs
at this 3rd string ig thot
Be a thot then get mad when you get treated exactly like one brehettes
you answered your own question
she was instinctively physically attracted to him, you maybe not so much
or u come off as the type that would discard a woman for having sex too soon
And this is all the needs to be said. If she doesnt know im special, then why am i waiting? If every man she deals with has to wait, its pretty much set in stone that she keeps it 100%.
If someone thinks setting an arbitrary date on us fukking is going to get better results , she is going to be disappointed. Guys who want to hit and quit will do so anyway. What setting up a time frame says to me is there may be other aspects in which its on "her time" and not ours. She can keep it locked, thats fine, but it does not solve dating issue and may prove to be a bigger waste in the long run, especially if her spontaneity ends when i come around.
QueenSheba
All Star
Lol, sir I know how men operate. You think us women are dumb when it comes to men cheating with another dirty bytch on the side? nikka please. Most men aren't slick when it comes to cheating. That's why the 90 day rule is a test.
No i know. Im just question the value of "making people wait". I question if there is more to her, or is she used to giving up to the wrong people, and now wags the carrot over my face to make me stay.you answered your own question
she was instinctively physically attracted to him, you maybe not so much
satireprod
Superstar
There should be a better vetting system than a 3-6 month wait. Try being their friend first and getting to know them maybe. You know, actually see if there's chemistry between y'all and you actually enjoy this person's company. Because when all's said and done, you could've waited 6 months, made him "chase", and you find out you don't even like the dude and there is no chemistry.
My husband and I were pretty cool before we even thought of dating, we had mutual friends, and we hung out together a lot. We realized we had really good chemistry, we always tended to gravitate towards each other in convo in our group of friends, and I wanted to be around him a lot because he always kept me laughing and smiling. My best friend kept commenting that would we be great together. Some time passed by of hanging out, but by the time we started dating I didn't wait no damn 90 days or 6 months. I wasn't waiting for no other hoes to snatch him up.But my philosophy and process was different, it happened naturally and I wasn't worried about looking like a hoe because I knew we liked each other and pretty much cemented something. That's the difference between making a guy wait, and what I did.
satireprod
Superstar
Co-sign homie. @Elle Driver This is dope as hell. I think this is the fear for most men. The bolded part.All of thisYou telling the truth. Whats fukked up is anytime i tried getting to know someone, i ended up firmly in a friend role. Thats not to say it dont happen, but i would prefer not having to be all touchy feely and shyt from jump rather than hearing 6 months later that im "like a brother". Dating is so fukking weird.
wet landscapes
ghost
come on breh
you're gonna put all that pressure on someone just cuz they're interested in you? it's not like love at first sight happens all the time, feelings strengthen over time, time is really important
it's up to you whether you spend that time having sex, but imagine how that feels, like "choose me now or I'm out"
people don't like taking risks, risks are scary and it's hard investing your emotions into something that could fall through
it's not the most effective way to protect themselves, but in 2015 as a wishy washy young person with tons of options, if they want to try and set limits on themselves, that's just how they went about doing it
waiting might be appealing to them in that is shows them the person is patient, a person who keeps their word, the person is interested in them as a human instead of a sexual conquest, they won't have to do something they might regret to keep the person they like around, they might feel like they've been having too much sex or it could just be that they don't wanna disappoint their dad or some shyt like that
sex isn't love, you know? them ignoring their feeling to give out sex to placate someone isn't love. there's a reason why they set that number
if those reasons aren't dealbreakers, them not having sex for a minute isn't telling you that you're unattractive or worthless, they just want to chill off of sex as a practice
and if you can't deal with the number or the reasons why they set that number, or they aren't communicating those reasons, the situation should be left alone and both parties can move on
She's a "sex therapist"
Elle Driver
Veteran
Taking an L is a part of life.
I was gonna type up an even longer list of shyt, but forget that mess.
Bottom line, sex is important to a relationship, and its only a piece of the pie. Bottom line: is the 6 months supposed to scare of those who wont/cant wait, or embolden those who have now seen that your most valuable asset is the vagina?
As a man, my most valuable asset is time. Any time i give to someone is special, sex notwithstanding. If she explicitly said 6 months to dude, she basically said that as long as he can hold out, hes got it. Its put the p*ssy as a literal goal to achieve simply be keeping in touch with her every now and then.
In the end, what did she know about dude? Even when you "think" you know someone, they can surprise you. Putting the p*ssy in a "break in case of 6 months" box kinda implies that its her final "gift".
satireprod
Superstar
@Miranda....This is basically what I was saying....she's trying to play both sides (setting up thirst traps on Instagram p-popping AND wants to be taken serious dating wise)
You can have one or the other...and if you even thinking about having both, you can't keep a record of your thottish ways...